Timothy Arends
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Describing himself as a "recovering shy person," Tim Arends took it upon himself to discover the best strategies for overcoming shyness and has shared them with thousands of readers online over the past 20 years. He has authored an Internet FAQ on shyness and has been an Expert Author on SelfGrowth.com since 2009.
Tim has also authored "Break out of Your Shell! How to Overcome Shyness So You Can Get On with Your Life!" available on Amazon. He is also author of the ebook, "How To Remember People’s Names; The Master Key to Success and Popularity."
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Co-workers who are Troublemakers
Co-workers who are troublemakers can be a problem for anyone, but shy people may have particular trouble with difficult fellow employees. Shy people often find themselves to be judged more harshly than extroverts on the job. Dr. Jonathan Cheek has found that underemployment, uneasy work relationships and slower advancement tend to mark the careers of shy people.
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3 Simple Tips on How To Help Your Child Get Over Shyness
Too many parents are too busy with their lives to worry about interacting with their children. But the first opportunity the child gets to socialize with people is with members of his or her own family. In the early stages, the child may want constant attention. "Mommy, mommy, look at this!" However, as your child matures, he or she may actually need encouragement to “open up,” and need practice in more complex social interactions.
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Why You MUST Remember People's Names
How many times have you had the embarrassment of seeing someone on the street, in the cafeteria, in class, or elsewhere and been addressed by name--but, for the life of you, you couldn't remember the other person's name? But what's in a name? That which we call a rose by any other name would smell as sweet. That may be true of some things, but not of people's names. A person's name, as Dale Carnegie wrote, is to them the most important sound in any language. It is their unique identifier. It is a part of them.
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How To Deal with Co-workers Who are Troublemakers
We all must work if we are to succeed in life. Unless we were born wealthy, we have no choice in the matter. We have many challenges in any job. To add the need to deal with coworkers who are troublemakers is one more difficulty. It is through our jobs that we get our feeling of self worth as well as a way in which we contribute to society and the way in which we fulfill our dreams and ambitions. For some people, the whole vision of themselves revolve around their work.
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Beta Blockers For Shyness
Beta blockers can provide some benefits in lessening the distressing physical symptoms of social anxiety, such as pounding heart,, shaking, sweaty palms, et cetera. It is possible that medication can even reduce some of the negative thoughts felt by anxiety sufferers, although this is not guaranteed. In some people, medication can ease depression as well as reducing anxiety. Beta-Blockers Work by blocking the beta-adrenergic receptors or the receptors on the distal neurons that are activated by noradrenaline.
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How To Have A Conversation With Difficult People--By Remembering
The ability to deal effectively with other people, including disagreeable and sometimes even downright difficult people, is one of the most important skills of daily living. Being able to get along with a wide variety of people and knowing how to have a conversation with difficult people can determine your success at school, on the job, and in life. Yet most people's skills in dealing with difficult people are sadly lacking.
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How To Know if a Shy Woman Is Interested in a Man by Taking Action
Everybody has certain verbal and nonverbal cues that indicate how they feel. Very rarely do people come right out and tell someone about their deepest emotional states. On has to learn how to interpret these nonverbal signals. Doing so is is the key to how to know if a shy woman is interested in a man. But perhaps, rather than spending too much time obsessing over these nonverbal signals, if you are the man in question, you should take the initiative. If you are successful, it will become obvious whether the woman is interested in you or not.
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Don’t Let Shyness Blind You to the Dangers Of False Friends
There was a story recently in the news of a young Harvard Law student who got in big trouble! She was having an e-mail discussion with some “friends” and she made the dire mistake of confiding a politically incorrect opinion or two. Unsurprisingly (or I wouldn’t be writing about it) the e-mail came back to haunt her.
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Top 5 Myths About Loneliness
According to a New York psychotherapist, "Loneliness is a leading social problem of our times. And when people make no attempt to overcome it, the consequences are often stagnation, doing nothing, anxiety and depression." Unfortunately, there are a number of misconceptions floating around ...
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How To Have Confidence Overcoming Shyness, Girls
Want to have confidence overcoming shyness, girls? Here are three power steps to do so. 1. Fake it till you make it. By behaving in certain ways, we can change how we feel. Studies done at the University of Califo ia School of Medicine in San Francisco had volunteers make six facial expressions signifying various emotions. When the volunteers looked afraid, their bodies reacted as if they were afraid: their skin temperature dropped and their heart rates went up. The same with anger. Similarly, feigning confidence can help you feel more confident.
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Is Shyness Confused with Arogance?
The late author Isaac Bashevis Singer once wrote, "I don't think that people should get over being shy. It is a blessing in disguise. The shy person is the opposite of the aggressive person. Shy people are rarely the great sinners. They allow society to remain in peace." But is shyness confused with arrogance? Sometimes. In fact, shy people are frequently misunderstood.
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How To Help Your Child Get Over Shyness
Shyness is very common in children. Think of how often a very young child is afraid of strangers. Perhaps a child hides when a service person comes to visit, or even during a visit from Uncle Charlie or Aunt Freda. On the other hand, a child may seem to be gregarious in his or her early years, but may develop shyness later on. Why is this, and how to help your child get over shyness?
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Dating Info For Singles
Learn the secrets of dating and seduction at "Dating Info For Singles," with special emphasis on helping shy people to build up their dating confidence. Includes a library of free information on dating and seduction for anyone to access. Be sure to check out our roundup of the best online dating sites!
January 24, 2011
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Internet Shyness FAQ
Answers your questions about shyness and how to overcome it. Learn how to make friends, be assertive, talk to the opposite sex, become more popular.
March 26, 2009
Favorite Quotes & Thoughts from Timothy Arends
"Let’s be honest: being a good conversationalist does play a role in how popular we are. In fact, conversational skill and poise is probably as important as any other factor in attracting other people to us. If people find us interesting and stimulating they will tend to enjoy and seek out our company. In other words, possessing an appealing skill, such as good conversational ability, makes us more appealing to other people."
"Remember is that the greater the number of people you strike up a conversation with, the greater your chances of forging new friendships. I won’t go so far as to say you will never be snubbed, but if you are, so what? There are plenty of other “fish in the sea” and there are plenty of other people out there just waiting to meet somebody like you!"
"Joining a volunteer group is a great way of meeting compatible people. If you’re interested in the environment, join an environmental group. If you’re conce ed about illiteracy, join a literacy tutoring program. You’ll meet people who not only share the same interests, but probably the same sensitivities as well. Of course, you must be genuinely conce ed about the issue the group is involved in. If you join such a group merely as a means to meet other people, the others will spot your phoniness and resent you for it. You probably won’t find the people you meet very interesting, either. However, when you stick with a volunteer group, you automatically create a sense of partnership with others. You demonstrate that you have a genuine conce and interest in the things other people are conce ed about!"
"The man or woman who possesses self confidence is impressive to the opposite sex for the same reasons that he or she is impressive to anyone else. People naturally think that there must be some underlying reason for all this self-confidence"
“Flirting is not some enigmatic, indefinable quantity. In fact, effective flirting consists of these five simple steps:
1. Make eye contact.
2. Smile.
3. Use an opening line.
4. Expand the conversation by telling something of yourself.
5. Encourage the other person to open up and talk about whatever interests him or her—careers, hobbies or interests."
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Tim has also writte "How To Remember People’s Names; The Master Key to Success and Popularity"