How to Overcome a Confidence Crisis

A confidence crisis is more than a minor dip - it’s more serious.
A confidence crisis is triggered by setbacks like losing annimportant business order, break-up of a valued relationship ornlosing a job.

When this happens, even a small thing can send younover the edge, creating an unwanted crisis. To protect yourselfnfrom such a situation, you need to take control of yourself, andnyour life.

You must learn to ignore exte
al stimuli. Don’t be affected bynwhat people say or are likely to say about you. More important,nyou should not be worried about failure. Believe in the old adagenthat you cannot win always. There are bound to be failures, or I’dnsay, feedabck, and challenges in life, despite your best efforts.
Take them in your stride.

Maintain a diary, and note down all positive things that happennduring the course of the day. You will be surprised to note thennumber of positive things that are happening around you, whichnyou missed earlier. This helps you refocus on what is true aboutnyou: you’re an extraordinary person.

This will help you think positively, and dispel your doubts.
This will also break the stranglehold of negative thoughts thatnhad lowered your self-esteem, and generated doubts about you
abilities and skills. Repeat to yourself every day that you arengetting better at what you do, and feel the difference.

Make as if it was true. If you think you can, you can… If younthink you can't, you’re probably right said Henry Ford. Don’t forgetnthis beautiful and true advice.

Take some time to think about your relationships. If a friend isnhaving a bad influence on your self-confidence or if thenrelationship is more of a burden than a pleasure, you are bette
off if you stop meeting that person. Instead, try to build newnrelationships with people you like and admire, and who arensupportive of you.

Ideally, form a group of supportive friends and give them you
support in turn. This will do your self-confidence a world of good.

Stop wasting your energy on things that can go wrong. Think aboutnthe worst thing that could possibly happen. You will realize thatnit is not the end of the world.

Focus on the subjects over which you have control and reducenyour exposure to events over which you have little or no control.
Monitor your internal dialogue, and silence the negative voicenthat keeps criticizing you.

A useful strategy is to visualize a situation that bothers ornworries you. Jot down these points. Think of people who havensuccessfully crossed these hurdles, and ask yourself if theyncould do it then why can’t I?

Think of yourself as someone who is brimming with confidence,nand is ready to take up the challenge. Make this a habit.

You will find that you too can overcome these obstacles.

Self-confidence is more than a simple state of mind. It alsonflows from your physical well-being. Regular exercise adds tonyour energy levels, and makes you feel fitter and confident.
Similarly, dressing well adds several notches to your self-nconfidence.

Even simple things like sleeping well will make younfeel better. In contrast, drinking to drive away you woes willnadd to your unhappiness.

You must also learn to speak up. When you hesitate to speak, younare doing yourself a great disfavor. Very often, you become anprisoner of your shyness. You want to speak, but your shynessndoes not let you do so. This eats into your self-esteem and self-nconfidence.

Don’t allow this situation to continue. Alwaysnremember that you may know more than your colleague who is thencentre of attention because he has a view on every subject.
Others may find your views more interesting, if only they heardnthem.

Also, don’t think that you can change your fortunes ove
ight. Itntakes time to change things. What is needed is your belief innyourself. That’s all.