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Neuro-Linguistic Programming™ (NLP™) is defined as the study of the structure of subjective experience and what can be calculated from that and is predicated upon the belief that all behaviour has structure. People such as Virginia Satir, Milton Erickson and Fritz Perls had amazing results with their clients. They were some of the people who's linguistic and behavioural patterns Richard Bandler built formal models of. He then applied these mo

Rapport is the foundation for any meaningful interaction between two or more people - rapport is about establishing an environment of trust and understanding, to respect and honor the other person’s world. Which gives a person the freedom to fully express their ideas and conce s and to know ...

Have you ever: * Been tongue tied at the thought of approaching an attractive person and introducing yourself? * Felt awkward and out of place at business or social gatherings? * Hesitated to raise your hand in class or pick up the phone to make a sales call? * Had an idea that you hesitated to share with your boss or colleagues.You might think you’re shy. Before we go any farther. Stop! Think for a moment about the cost of this shyness crap in your life. Seriously.

We must be careful and diligent in choosing our friends. The most important factor is trustworthiness, and when you find your trust was misplaced, the consequences can range from disappointment to disaster and can be heart-breaking. Awhile back a long-time friend revealed a hidden hostility and envy of my success. It saddened me, but I did not miss the learnings, so I am thankful for the experience. As always, my intuition had warned me several times, but I failed to listen to it. My intuition has never failed me, but I have failed it.

Emile Coué, the French psychotherapist once said: "When theimagination and will power are in conflict, are antagonistic, itis always the imagination which wins, without any exception."Then you can program yourself for success by understanding thepower of imagination. nnImagination builds cities. Imagination makes dreams come true.Imagination will drive a lot of people to success, and you are apart of it.nnWe know that imagination and rationalization don't go each otherso wel

Your parents, environment, friends and other influences have shaped your life. Habits have been created, programs have been setup and behaviors have been learned. In the first 10 to 12 years of your life, you have learned 80% of the habits you have now. De-programming negative behaviors and ...

First, a note (pardon the pun:) about music. Music affects both the mind and the body. It affects our brain waves. When we’re relaxed, our brainwaves are slower. Music with around 60 beats per minute corresponds with the human heart at rest. Listening to some tranquil classical pieces is ...

Many people are going through tough times. I'd like to say to those people: whatever is happening now is only your current reality - the residue of past thoughts, feelings, actions, events... With the speed of an email or a phone call, things can turn around for you -tomorrow, in a week, in a ...

In my last article I introduced Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) as a great tool to use for changing subconscious programming. In this article, I’ll introduce you to Neuro Linguistic Programming (or NLP) and give you an NLP technique you can use yourself to change an unwanted or unproductive program or eliminate an unwanted habit.nnNLP was developed in the early 1970’s by Richard Bandler and John Grinder. “Neuro” refers to the way information is processed by the mind

There's a significant portion of our population who seem to thrill on passing off sarcasm as humor when in fact it's just veiled hostility. Few people are really fooled by this tactic for any length of time. But most of us are nice enough to brush it off and move on with our day. Sarcasm once in a while isn't necessarily hostility. However, if you find yourself popping off sarcastic comments several times a day or you find that you're often the only one laughing at your sarcastic humor this article is for you. Signs You May Have Hostile Tendencies

NLP Modelling is all about finding a model of excellence and then discovering how you can replicate that in yourself and others.nnMost modelling is about taking a small slice of behaviour and being to replicate it, for example one element of a sales pitch…closing for example. This has a lot of value and another part of modelling is about the beliefs, values and attitudes that drive a person to perform the overall task. If I stick with the sales example it would be what driv

Thought viruses are statements, ideas or comments, beliefs or beliefs about beliefs (also called values). There are two parts that you need to know about “thought viruses” the first of which is, that these beliefs come in many forms but mostly from people in positions of “authority”. The other part that you need to know is that these “thought viruses” can be on any logical level that your brain processes information. The logical levels of the brain for informational and stra

“Happiness is not something you postpone for the future; it is something you design for the present.”rn- Jim Rohn Perhaps you are one of those people who are thinking just now, “You can’t tell me to be happy. I don’t have to be happy if I don’t want to be. Isn’t this supposed to help me find my true self? What if I’m just not a happy person?” If you are one of those people, think about this: not being happy makes you happy. Aren’t you happy now? “Happy” is an extremely subjective emotion. What makes one person happy will not necessarily please someone else.

Why is negative language and negative self talk so disempowering?

The onion metaphor has often been used to describe the process of delving into a person’s psyche. Layers are removed to reveal what is beneath, toward the core. The metaphor reflects the many layers that we have inside us. Most who use this metaphor suggest that peeling away the layers of the onion is the complete story. The assumption seems to be that the awareness that happens as the layers of the onion are peeled away changes people. Is it the tears? Is it some magical healing factor that happens by exposing what was hidden to the light of day?

Human beings are meaning makers. We love to attribute meaning and label everything that we see, touch, taste, feel, or smell. This is useful, could you imagine how tedious it would be to navigate the world if we had to relea how to open a door every time we approached one? No, instead we learn how to use a door once and then generalize that the rest of the doors we approach will operate in the same way. This is the process of how we learn. And this is also how we limit ourselves.

Abundance is a hot topic these days. In one form or another it has always been around, though the way it is articulated changes. Justifiably so, plenty, prosperity, and a life full of good things is something we all want. We all want to manifest abundance in our personal worlds. Abundance is as much an attitude as it is something objectively identifiable. It is a feeling, a sense, a comfortableness with who we are and what we have. Paradoxically the sense of abundance often precedes getting the things we want. Abundance eludes the desperate and dissatisfied.

This article is about how you can learn NLP Accelerated Learning Techniques by applying those techniques to learning to play guitar.nnPlaying a guitar requires the application of knowledge and skills in a real time environment. As such it is a great situation to develop NLP and Accelerated Learning skills.nnTo play the guitar you need to be able to put your fingers in the right places at the right time. But before you have got to that point you need to be able to translate th

Guided visualization is perhaps the most powerful form available. In this method, you act as the captain of your visionary ship, guiding yourself through the images you conceive as though they were actually happening. When using guided visualization, it is especially important to set your timer, as it is easy to become caught up in your visualized reality. To perform guided visualization, you need to do a bit of preparation beforehand.

In today’s society we usually care more about our exte al world and neglect the internal one. We seem to overlook details such as our health, state of mind or even self-awareness. We spend thousands of dollars on what gratifies our exte al world with the latest technology, lavish cars, big homes, stylish clothes, extravagant weddings, cosmetics and even plastic surgery and many times we neglect our internal world. We forget that we have a powerful organ called the mind which can bring us much more abundance than we could ever perceive.

Rapport is the basis and foundation for every meaningful interaction between two or more people. Rapport is about establishing an environment of trust and understanding, to respect and honor the other person's world. This allows the person the freedom to fully express their ideas and feelings and know they'll be respected and appreciated by you.

“Trust men and they will be true to you; treat them greatly, and they will show themselves great.”rn- Ralph Waldo Emerson The way you treat other people is a reflection of your own attitude. You cannot expect to sustain a positive attitude by acting negatively toward others. Even if your positive mood is not returned, you must strive to retain a sense of dignity and enthusiasm.

Coaches, mentors! I have a great tool for you. This tool will help your clients eliminate a limiting belief in 10 minutes or less. I promise you that. But you need to do something special. You need to go to the nature. Take your car, bring your client and tell him that he’s going to have a ...

Normally the questio I get asked by a potential client is “what if I can’t relax enough?”, or “what if I am one of those people who can’t be hypnotised?” Lately however the question has been “what if I fall asleep?” With that in mind, I decided to write this blog post. During my ‘prelim chat’, I generally tell clients at the beginning of their first session that they can view this as taking a light nap. I pause, letting that comfort them, and then I qualify it, by saying that it is not a real sleep, it just feels like that.

NLP, also known as Neuro-linguistic programming, is the study of human excellence. This programming was established by mathematics student, Richard Bandler and a professor of linguistics named John Grinder in 1970. Richard and john created their model of nuero-linguistic programming after carefully studying the methods used by the therapists. They found that there are many threads which can be used as basics to create their model.

This article discusses the foreground background switch of neuro linguistic programming nlp. The foreground background switch is a variation of the classical swish pattern of nlp. Suppose you have client who has a problem. Say they have trouble dealing with a co-worker. Get the client to think ...

Who can be hypnotised? The vast majority of people CAN be hypnotised. And, in my opinion, the most important element is willingness. People love to say that they can’t be hypnotised but really, it’s a case of won’t rather than can’t. The client needs to be willing to use hypnosis. During the initial free phone or Skype consultatio I do with prospective clients, I check for the following things: rn~ whether they expect it will work.

Have you ever heard of neuro-linguistic programming, also known as NLP? It comprises of ways and techniques to understand human behavior. Quite often, people make use of the power of the mind and emotions to mold the way they behave. This often results in them learning a new skill or becoming a better person. In this article, I will talk more about how NLP can change your life. First up, NLP can help you overcome fears. I am not just referring to phobias of insects and creat

I got a very thoughtful comment from one of my readers in response to my Brainwashing vs. Influence article that warranted a full post in reply. “Your article really hit a nerve, since my wife and i were talking about my parents recently. my dad retired 6 years ago, and my mom retired last august. and now they sit around the house, watch way too much Fox news, and complain about the world. It’s sad. We used to get together and have a lot more fun. Now… it’s different.

Sometimes finding the right hypnotist or NLP practitioner to work with can be a challenge. While I was having breakfast this morning, I was thinking a bit about the different talents and life experiences of people who are drawn into any field or career not just the field of hypnotherapy or NLP. There are those who take a career path because they "decide" while others take a career path because they are "called."

Rapport is the capability to create the trust by understanding & respecting someone’s world of reality, and this can make you to have a strong common bond in order to take a lead in any conversation or persuasion to the direction that you want. A successful communication is largely depend techniques involve to achieve the desire outcome. Fail in communication normally due to ineffective way of interaction, or inflexibility in dealing with someone else. But this can be recove

NLP has been under attack over the last few years. Without very much research in the scientific arena, I've found few people believing it to be credible. In fact, it's SO incredible, I decided to learn it. Over the last 14 years, my investigations have paid off with a new kind of philosophy of ...

Anchoring: The Keyboard To Your Mental States Everyone has enjoyed a positive state of mind and also understands what it feels like to be in a negative state as well. Now given the chance most people are going to choose the positive state of mind, but feel that it is simply based on ...

I've really been having some doubts about whether I should write this because I wanted to talk about “mind control”. nnWhat made me decide to write this is that the information I'll tell you about is already out there. I want to add some spin on it that you can use to power up your persuasion skills and help people in the process. nnThis all started in a discussion group and a thread about cults, mind control and underlying question “How can people be so stupid to fall

As we grow up we, well most of us, seem to turn into adults with adult outlooks. What I mean by this is that we tend to put up with what we have and settle for something less than we could have ~ if only we dared to dream. What stops us, or someone you know well from stepping through our self imposed boundaries and finding they might disappear as if by magic?

As we enter a New Year it is customary and valuable to reflect on where you have been and on where you are going. It is time consider what you want improved in your life, what you want to be different, and what you wish to change. In that spirit many of us make New Year’s resolutions. But the word "resolution" has some unconscious implications that may not be helpful in actually realizing change. In my view "re-solutioning" is a more useful term to direct you toward a useful path for change. I’ll discuss the reasons for this in this article.

You’ve all learned a lot about state control and will know the first principle, ‘you go there first’ and then you take the other person with you. How exactly do you do that? Well perhaps you’ve answered something like – you know what the state feels like, so you get that feeling and maybe you do it by talking yourself there, or imaging situations when you were in that state. Perhaps you have another answer – which ever way, make a mental note of how you do it and how well yo

NLP is a self-help approach that assists patients in understanding the way we think and feel. It is said that NLP can be a helpful fibromyalgia treatment by helping the sufferer find freedom from underlying emotional issues that contribute to chronic pain and other symptoms. NLP stands from Neuro-Linguistic Programming. "Neuro" refers to how the brain works. "Linguistic" is defined as how language interacts with brain. The word "Programming" describes how we use this interaction to get the results we want.

Why drilling down to a behavior's true purpose changes everything One of the most powerful NLP presuppositions is that every behavior has a positive intention. This does not imply that everything that a person does is 100 % positive - that would be utter denial of the truth - this presupposition simply means that all human actions and behaviors should be assumed to have a positive intention embedded deep down somewhere. It's pretty much like having a pet cat; and every time the cat leaves a dead rat on your kitchen floor, you probably don't start lashing out at the poor animal.

Our senses are our connection to the world. They are the sum and substance of all individual and shared experience. They are necessary to our survival and effectiveness. They are also tools to be utilized to enhance our appreciation of all that surrounds us! One of the necessary steps to abundance is appreciation (see my previous article http://www.selfgrowth.com/articles/4_practices_necessary_to_achieve_abundance_in_your_life.html). Part of how we appreciate our experience is by paying attention to our sensory experience.

I believe that most people know more than they acknowledge or utilize effectively in living their lives. This latent wisdom has been alluded to, partially, by various notions including “trust your gut” and “pay attention to your intuition.” It also appears in those moments when you just automatically respond to a situation successfully and later wonder, “How did I do that?” The fact is we often hide our latent wisdom from ourselves. We do not use the resources, skills, talents, and good judgment that we have learned in living our lives. We ignore our latent wisdom.

Rapport is one of the most important characteristics of human interaction. Simply speaking, building rapport or being in rapport is being on the same wavelength, or the same page as the person with whom you are communicating. Rapport is also a feeling of harmonious connection between people or ...

Adjust the questions you ask yourself so they HELP YOU rather tha HINDER YOU We have an internal voice. And in that internal voice, we ask ourselves questions as well as make statements. Let’s take a simple example of a question we might ask ourselves in our internal voice: Why can’t I…? What can you assume from this question? There’s something for you to do and you cannot do it.r

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Once upon a time, there were two squirrels scurrying around in front of a farmhouse. One was on top of a mound of snow and other was below in some tractor tracks. One called down to the other, ‘Why don’t you come up here? There’s more food and you can meet lots of other squirrels!” From below ...

I have worked with a number of depressed clients, even Clinically Depressed,and on Prozac for 20 years, and we have had great success with Time Line Therapy for this. Depression is different from most other things we work with in NLP in that it is a "Clinical" issue. So..... First of all, it is inappropriate to work with depression unless you are qualified. since depression can be a forerunner to other behavior such as suicide, this essentially means you should not treat depr

The news is bad. Few are the days when any positive announcements are made. Job losses are announced by the thousands in many countries. Even if you turn the news off, the negativity still confronts you from everywhere. Many people are walking around with high levels of fear, anxiety and panic. Perhaps you or a family member has lost their job, or maybe you are just waiting for your job to be cut. It’s very hard not to feel hopeless and despairing. Even if you pride yourself

When I was a teenager one of my idols was Bruce Lee. I actually knew nothing about the guy other than the fact he could break wooden doors with his bare fists and defeat a large group of weapon bearing ninjas single handed. As a teenage kid this was more than enough to trigger a deep fascination that left me keen to emulate him in some way. After much persuasio I managed to talk my parents into taking me to karate lessons...

Translating NLP for Abroad -- The French Experiencenby Brian Van der HorstnNLP is taken perhaps more seriously in France than in any other country in the world. In 1985, when I began teaching NLP in Paris, my company took an informal poll. Nearly 95% of the French companies and 75% of the training and consulting organizations we talked to had never heard of NLP. Two years later, the figures had reversed.nnWithin three years, I began to see NLP included in business and medical

Find Direction - Live Your Life Your Way We’ve all heard this phrase, “Set your goals” or “you need to write your goals down and you will succeed." And some of you may think, 1. I have no idea how to do this. 2. This all sounds too airy fairy for me. Like should I write my goals down? And bam! Just Like magic I will become a millionaire. 3. I simply have no time to write anything down.

Couple of years before spelled the disappointments of hundreds and hundreds of badminton followers at the Beijing Olympics 08. The long looked forward to badminton finals conce ing world number 1, Lin Dan, along with the number two, Lee Chong Wei. Just when every badminton followers thought it could quite possibly be a match of the decade, something out of the blue took place. With much ease from the champion but disappointments from the fanatics, Lin Dan beate Lee Chong Wei.

In Sometimes We Run... Part 1 (see article here: http://www.selfgrowth.com/articles/sometimes_we_run_your_relationship_with_your_goals_part_1 ) two of the primary ways that we run in relationship to our goals were addressed, running away from and running towards our goals. There are several more dynamics of our relationship to our goals. This article is about one of the most powerful and effective ways to achieve your goals! Sometimes we run toward our goals while at the same time running away from something else...

Meaning is the bread we eat every minute of everyday. We create meanings all the time about all sorts of things: ourselves, others, food, nutrition, exercise, God, wealth, happiness…etc. Meanings don’t exist outside. You won’t say: “Please go to the fridge and get me some meaning” or “Oh my ...

There are a number of variables to consider when discussing the topic of hypnotize someone, such as: how well a person responds to suggestions, what they expect, what they believe, worries, and his or her ability to trust the hypnotizer. When a person agrees to an induction, it is important not to betray their trust and to treat him or her with proper care. There are some principles for those who want to learn how to hypnotize. It is essential to start your sessions by asking the potential subject if he or she has already been hypnotized in the past.

The origins of Social Anxiety, shyness and fear have often been the subject of debate. Where does it really come from? A person’s genetic make-up, bad parenting, a chemical imbalance or learning and experiencing. If you have done any research on the subject you will find that among experts there is a general consensus that the cause is multi factorial and most if not all of these elements play a part at some stage. Being from an NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) and change psychology background it’s my opinion that the vast majority of the problem comes from learning and experience.

To arrive at a point of understanding with another it helps to understand they are not using the same map you are.

Business and professional people have benefited from NLP Practitioner Courses. They’ve increased sales, improved their relationship with clients, stakeholders, staff and suppliers and and unlocked some of their deepest ambitions. NLP Trainer Michael Beale has observed from his 12 years of both training and being trained, that while you can benefit from most NLP trainings, there are 6 key elements in choosing the most worthwhile NLP Courses. These are: 1) What you want to achieve 2) The attitude, skill and integrity of the trainer 3) Class size 4) Accreditation offeredr

There’s a common misconception that people have that seriously hinders them from being relaxed and confident around people. It’s the limiting belief that they have no control or influence over the feelings and emotions that they feel throughout their body. That they just kind of happen…and they have no way of knowing whether they will feel calm about their first day in a new job or confident going on that first date… After all we have good days and bad days right? And we just have to hope that the good ones coincide with the challenges we face? Wrong!

Neuro-Linguistic Programming is the study of communication and the mind in others. It allows you to see why people who are successful are that way, and NLP training allows you to become a trained professional in these skills and this will allow you to help others become successful also. There are many reasons why somebody would want to learn the methods of success, and many different ways in which NLP can be applied practically. rnThe following is a list of 5 ways in which NL

Everything we do is goal directed, whether we are pursuing success, accomplishment, satisfaction, service, love, acceptance, or simply comfort and the absence of pain. Goals are always with us, whether consciously acknowledged or not. We seek them, achieve them, fail at them, savor victory, suffer disappointment, or retool to pursue a new choice. We each have a relationship with, or a way of relating to, our goals. Indeed our relationship to any particular goal we have may be different at different times.

Recently, I gave a presentation on NLP and Motivation, so I’d like to share one of the processes I designed and included there. Now, motivation is not a new concept in the field of personal development, nor in NLP. In fact, one of the ‘metaprograms’ we present in our NLP ...

In this article I will explain to you how to build rapid rapport. What do I mean by rapid? I mean you will be able to create rapport in minutes not in days or even weeks as it is in normal cases. What is rapport? Rapport is a connection between two people. If you know someone, with time you develop a friendship, in other words a positive rapport. When you have a good rapport with someone, you are much more likely to agree with him and make him favors. You want to maintain you

In order to stop anxiety and panic attacks you have to consider what anxiety and panic really are and what they are not. Anxiety is NOT a mental illness. Anxiety is a normal human process of thinking about what you do not want to have happen. It's "worst case scenario thinking" at it's worst. Your Unconscious Mind does not know the difference between what is real and what is imagined. Imagine the worst, and your subconscious reacts with all the same fight of flight bio chemistry as if the horrible future scenarios are real.

I was reading an interesting book on the subject of the Law of Attraction. How we attract what we get by the way we feel. If we feel lack, we attract more lack (I know that's not a good way of putting it but you understand what I mean) and if we feel abundant in anything we attract more of that, ...

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Have you ever wondered why it's always the same people who are making the sales? While you know your pitch quite well, have studied the product inside out and attend every sales training invented? Throughout my career in sales I have observed many successful and unsuccessful sales people and let me tell you that the ones that were making the sales all had one thing in common, and that was confidence. A client can sniff out an insecure sales person in seconds. They can instinctively tell if you’re unsure of yourself and don’t have confidence in your product.

Many business and professional people have been attending NLP courses over the past 35 years, and have used the skills learnt to make a step change to their job performance and careers. NLP Trainer and Business Coach Michael Beale, explains the benefits that you can achieve from attending a programme of NLP Courses. NLP is an approach towards developing mental and physical strategies which combines aspects of behavioural psychology, linguistics, hypnosis, modelling and common sense, that enables them to do this.

Do you ever have a great idea you want to express at a meeting but find yourself posing it as a question? Example: “What do you think about doing x,y,z…?” “Have any of you thought of doing x,y,z…?” This can seem like a good way of putting forward an idea without seeming overbearing or pushy, ...

The power of NLP comes from its fast and effective way of dealing with problems and difficulties. If we could summarize NLP in one equation, it would be: present state + resources = desired state. The present state is where the person is, with his challenge, difficulty or problem he wants to ...

Life is about learning lessons and growing as a spiritual being. The troubles and tribulation we encounter along the way are growth opportunities not punishment. Some lessons are relatively simple and others, not so much. The later of these are hugely important in terms of our spiritual growth. Of course, when times are tough it's difficult to see the value that will be reaped when it's all said and done. Hindsight is where this value tends to become most apparent.

In this article I would like to show you how you can take your ability to persuade others to a completely new level. By reading on you will discover how to become a powerful persuader using Meta-Programs. As human beings we have a tendency to be creatures of habit. This doesn’t just apply to ...

Have you ever been tongue tied at the thought of approaching an attractive person and introducing yourself? What about feeling awkward and out of place at business or social gatherings? How about hesitating to raise your hand in class or pick up the phone to make a sales call? Before we go any farther. Stop! Think for a moment about the cost of this shyness crap in your life. Seriously.

I was reading a book on Somatics (a way of increasing flexibility, health and happiness by movements of the body) and I came across the term 'sensory-motor amnesia' (SMA for short). SMA is the term used to describe the memory loss of how certain muscle groups feel and how to control them...This happens naturally to everyone as we grow older and results in poor posture, bad backs, strange muscle pains and premature ageing...

Beliefs are constructs of our internal world and how we view them. They are based on what we have experienced and what we perceive to be true. We all behave as if our beliefs were true and that is what gives us direction. If you 100% believe that you will create a successful business or wealth, without any doubt in yourself, your ability or any other factors, then you will behave as if it were true. When you behave as if it were true, then every decision you make, path you take and conversation you have is all geared around that one thing. You in fact MAKE it happen.

Building responsiveness in your prospect is what NLP Rapport is really about in a sales situation. Using pacing and leading, opening anticipation loops and covert hypnosis are some of the techniques used to build responsiveness above and beyond usual matching and mirroring. Being able to turn negative feelings into positive motivations would be an advantage in a sales environment. NLP tell us that we can have the choice about how we feel about an event and there are many NLP tools that can help you do this.

The thing missing from most, if not all, diets on the market is the one thing that is essential to long-term weight loss success. That one thing is a means of changing your emotional connection and associations to food. Let's face it, we don't over eat because we're hungry, we over eat as a means of self-soothing. We over eat to change our emotional state. This is why food has a way of becoming an emotional crutch when we're stressed or feeling down.

So many clients have told me that they were disappointed with the results they have gotten from doing affirmations that I felt compelled to write this article to help others in the same situation.

Being grateful by definition is being appreciative or thankful I wonder how many times we actually consider what we are grateful for? Maybe if we all did this more often we would realise what we have. From the air that we breathe and the fine body we have to breathento everything else we can ...

Sometimes goals and resolutions are empty and disembodied from our spirit and soul. No wonder they fail! Often they are not authentic; they are not true to who we are. If a goal is not something you fundamentally want, if it is not a decision made by your authentic self, you will be fighting yourself every step of the way; perhaps not consciously, but certainly on the levels of your deeper and higher self!

Relationships are fragile. You can start or end a relationship i 1 minute. If you want to end it, everyone knows how to do thisnone so I won't talk about it. Now, keeping a relationship is what almost anybody wants tonmaster: "How to stay in good terms and have bette relationships?" That's ...

“To be always intending to make a new and better life but never find time to set about it is as... to put off eating and drinking and sleeping from one day to the next until you’re dead.”n- Og Mandino Procrastination is the easiest thing in the world to perfect- and one of the ...

It is so easy to think that we’re right. It is so easy to think that our way of thinking is the way par excellence. We’re so caught up with our daily life that we don’t realize or don’t want to admit that other people may also be right. Well, according to NLP and Alfred Korzybski, developer of ...

Have you ever experienced a moment where everything seemed just right? A moment where you felt completely in tune with yourself and the world around you? A moment in which you felt completely unstoppable? A moment where you experienced a sense of oneness with the universe where you were completely in command and control of your own destiny? Where you felt the rush of adrenaline that only comes from being so in the moment, so completely connected to your own unique purpose, that you felt like you were being propelled forward by something bigger and more important than yourself.

1 ) Location, location, location! This is known as the number one rule of real estate for a reason. Make sure your office is located close to where you clients live and work. 2) Your office also needs to be in a place where your signs can attract new clients. You want a place where there is a lot of foot traffic, shoppers, commuters, etc. Ideally, your office will be situated in a smart place relative to your niche market. For example, if you specialize in weight loss coaching, your office could be near a large gym.

Body image isn’t just the domain of those who want to be seen as perfection. We all crave the feeling that we are the person who everyone is staring at as you enter the room, the one who stands out the most in a crowd – don’t we? Well, no. There are so many people for whom their body image is ...

Your unconscious mind is that part of you that runs the blood innnyour body...that beats your heart...that digests your food... makes you breath as you sleep deeply. Your unconscious is the one that does all that is vital for you to be alive. I often say, your unconscious is like Citi bank, ...

It's stunning to see how much nonsense people are spouting about NLP nowadays. It's not for anything else, but the fact that NLP has been bastardized by so many people running so-called training programs on NLP. Pardon the rant, but it's ironic that the field of personal excellence has been ...

NLP training online can be used as a great way to develop an individual personally. By using these unique training programs you can achieve personal development through a variety of ways. One of the best ways is to adopt a suitable Neuro-Linguistic training method. NLP is actually a collection of techniques that are based on the hypothesis that an individual’s psyche and language are interconnected in order to help him out to communicate with the rest of the world. With a p

Are you easily influenced by people? Do you have less confidence? Do you feel insecure? Are you challenged under some conventional beliefs? If the answer of any of these questions is yes then you need to consult an NLP training expert. NLP is surely your possible solution to solve all these problems. During these days NLP training online is available easily and you can consult any of the suitable practitioners. No doubt, you will enjoy a happier life without any problem or me

NLP Trainer Michael Beale explains the main characteristics of setting outcomes, and how they should be big, bold, audacious and motivating. They should set a direction. When they cease to motivate they should be changed. One of the key benefits of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) is that it has a very effective approach to setting outcomes and goals. An outcome that is easily achieved has five characteristics

Neuro-Linguistic Programming & The Classroom – The Short Answer Brief (very) History Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) first burst upon the psychological therapy scene in 1975 with the release of Richard Bandler and John Grinder’s written work, The Structure of Magic. At the time, Grinder was mostly involved in transformational grammar which was created by Noam Chomsky during the 1960s, and Richard Bandler was heavily involved in the study of mathematics with special atten

This is a one of a number of of interviews NLP trainer Michael Beale, has had with successful business people as to how they use NLP in Business. This interview is with business consultant, Dean Bennett. Michael: Would you please begin by introducing yourself? Dean: My name is Dean Bennett. ...

We’ve all been there – a massive cold or flu sets in or you pick up a knock that stops you exercising and taking part in sports for a while. Many people react by severing all activity and drive for the duration of their ailment, turning into a heap of melancholy and despair. “I wish I wasn’t ill so I could do this” or “I’m really frustrated about being injured, I can’t do that”

Some of you will have undoubtedly seen the film 'The Matrix' starring Keanu Reeves... Some of you may even have understood it! For those of you who haven't seen the film the basic premise is that the earth and human beings have been taken over by machines who, in order to survive, have farmed the human race in one giant complex where they use their body heat to power their own existence.

As much pain and suffering that sensitive people go through because of worry and anxiety, these are traits that have actually saved humanity’s collective butt since time immemorial. What do I mean? Well, first of all you have to understand that anxiety is a thought process. It is NOT a mental disease. When you are anxious, you are thinking about what? What’s great? What’s wonderful? How everything is going to turn out better than you can possibly imagine? NOPE! You are imagining the worst case scenario.

Spontaneous remission, also known as spontaneous healing and spontaneous regression is a phenomenon that occurs when a disease unexpectedly improves or disappears altogether. This occurrence usually leaves doctors at a loss, unable to explain why for example, a cancerous tumour regresses and disappears or why an under- or over active thyroid resumes to normal functioning seemingly on its own.

How many times do we say thank you? Yes we, well a lot of us, have read and try to have an attitude of gratitude and I've written about that and how to feel grateful. But what I was thinking about this morning, over my cup of coffee, do we say thank you to those close to us? The people in our lives that are there all the time. Sitting in the morning sun, I realised, even with all my training and learning I haven't said thank you enough.

Being able to visualise enjoyably doing the activities that will lead to you achieving your goals is a strong predictor of you achieving them. The following approaches will often help you achieve what you want: 1) Set your outcome or goal. It’s useful if you can imagine having achieved it in at least three senses. What would it look, sound and feel like to achieve it? Would there be any new sounds and smells? 2) Specifically write down some of the benefits of achieving of achieving it

Many people are not able to articulate what they really want in life in clear and concise language. Oddly enough, people are generally pretty good at articulating what they don’t want. So it’s no wonder that a large percentage of the population go through life getting what they don’t want and don’t fully realize their goals and desires. You get what you focus on!

Sometimes, I wonder if people actually know themselves well. After all, we human beings are social beings and often, hide in the shadows of society in order to avoid many painful truths about ourselves. Do you really know you? If you haven't thought about it yet, perhaps it is time to ask some ...

At some stages of our life we have all made mistakes, we have taken the wrong decision and failed. In itself this is a great opportunity to learn but usually we feel worthless in those dark moments. We feel we are not good enough; that we are losers; that we will never make it. I often hear people say that about themselves. But just thinking like that is disempowering. Today we will work on overcoming doubts and the occasional feeling of worthlessness and start discovering t

Networking modeling project – Michael Beale interviews Ron Bates on his approach to networking. This is a part of a series of NLP 'analytical' modelling projects that Michael is carrying out with 'top' networkers, sales people and company change agents. Ron Bates is a Managing Principal ...

For several years now, lots of authors have talked about emotional intelligence in the family and in the business or the organization. We are now shifting towards spiritual intelligence; term popularized by Stephen Covey in his book "the 8th Habit" In the article entitled" The Spiritual ...

A long time ago, yes I know this sounds like a fairy tale, I wrote down a whole bunch of dreams. One in particular came true many years later, much to my surprise. Even more of a surprise was that when I had the opportunity to have it come true, I became conce ed about actually being able to have it and even thought about not letting it happen. I felt if I got this now, then what?

Nothing strikes fear in the heart more than the thought that your mate is cheating on you with someone else. Yet every year more and more marriages and engagements are destroyed by infidelity. What leads normally rational people to commit the one irreversible act that is sure to kill off the trust, intimacy, and joy of being loved and respected by your most intimate companion, friends and family? Are we slaves to hormonal impulses or do we subconsciously destroy twenty years of intimacy, while fantasizing about a future with a partner that deceives their mate?

The other day after watching an incredible gymnastic display I heard someone say ‘I wish I could do that – it must be great to be born so talented!’. I remember myself that when I was younger, I used to marvel at incredible performance and presumed it was due to ‘talent’ that people were born with. Before I became an NLP Trainer and NLP Master Practitioner, I was a professional musician – I spent 4 years of hard training at the Royal Academy of Music, where I trained as a pr

Many books have been written on the subject of boundaries. Is it possible to be an I and still be a We? Where do I end and my partner begin? Many of us have been pondering this notion. How do I get close without getting lost while in a committed relationship? Many believe that the lack of knowledge of where one begins and ends in relation to where another person begins and ends is called co-dependency and is a negative thing to be avoided at all costs. I have noticed that all working relationships have some degree of haze surrounding the boundaries of the persons within it, i.e.

En nuestra vida diaria, con más frecuencia de la que deseariamos, nos encontarmos atascados, como si nos encontraramos con alguan barrera, que no nos permitiera avanzar. Ya sea, en nuestra vida familiar, laboral o social, nos encontramos de una u otra manera involucrados en situaciones que nos impiden seguir adelante con nuestras tareas u objetivos. Por norma general, se trata de autolimitaciones que nuestro cerebro se auto impone de forma inconsciente, sin que nuestra mente consciente se percate, hasta que normalmente es demasiado tarde.r

As a certified NLP trainer, I am often asked ‘What is NLP?’ The term NLP stands for Neuro Linguistic Programming and was coined in the early seventies by John Grinder and Richard Bandler. They began their work by studying: Fritz Perls, psychotherapist and originator of the Gestalt ...

As parents and teachers, we need to enhance our abilities tocreate a relationship of trust with the students or thechildren we interact with. The task sometimes seems hard and we often feel discouraged. Fortunately, there is hope with the visionthat both teachers and children can discover the ...

Chapter 1: INTRODUCTION nSince the introduction of the Time Line Therapy® in 1988 in the book Time Line Therapy and the Basis of Personality, there has been, not only excitement about the techniquesnthemselves, but also major interest by the psychotherapeutic community and a rather rapid adoption of the process by people actively involved in seeing clients daily for various reasons. In the last few years, it has become obvious that an individual's Time Line with all the


The true power of hypnotic suggestion lies in the language you use to create an altered consciousness and develop suggestion within your subjects. Conversational Hypnosis is a powerful tool of persuasion with the ability to influence and suggest desired outcomes, and the development of a fluid pattern of conversation and suggestion is an essential element to its success. Human consciousness has a natural conflict between its ability to imagine and believe and the critical

The Power of Dreams Did you know you can have 7 or more dreams a night? While your body is resting, your brain is awake and working away on things your conscious mind doesn’t even know about. Dreams can be vivid and powerful, full of emotion and ideas. As far back as 5000 BC, dreams have been interpreted as having portents: of being worth more than what the conscious mind can offer. We could identify their sensations with “real life” or, more precisely, waking life, actions and events. Your dreams can tell you an incredible amount about yourself.

Integrity of Clear Communication rn rnUpon sheer glance, it seems that this title resounds a great deal of common sense, however, have you ever really taken the time to ponder what it means? Yes, it is a fact that communication affects every one of our relationships from the moment we are born until the day that we die! It starts with the relationship we have with ourselves and extends to those that are inter-personal, professional, societal as well as spiritual. With this sa

n nSo what does personalized learning really mean and why is everyone within the education and training communities getting so excited. In the first of three articles we take a look at personalized learning , from an NLP perspective .In this the first of three articles we profile the Auditory Sequential thinker in plain language . In subsequent articles we profile the Kinaesthetic and Visual Thinkers . All three articles are available on our site now , all three articles repr

Business was once based upon the most physical aspects of life. There were seminars and meetings all centred on gathering together all aspects of business and creating a team that moved together, thought together and lived the same business support together. Today, with the buzz surrounding the emotional bond needed to run an effective business, the mental aspects of business bonding is coming to light. There is no more mental a bond than that created with the usage of NLP co

1. They lack a strong purpose in life What is your purpose? I don’t mean, why are you here? But, what drives you? What inspires you? If you could be and do anything for the rest of your life, what would it be? Having a purpose in life can be the difference between having or losing motivation. Successful people know what they want, why they want it and how to make it happen. 2. They don’t aim to be better than average

NLP has developed a number of tools to reprogram yourself, change a habit or solve a problem. Hypnosis has discovered that by altering a person’s state, you can ask the subconscious mind to change a belief, a behavior, a way of thinking or a habit almost instantly. Of course as the proverb ...

Have you ever been in an . . . . intimate relationship? Yes, INTIMATE! Let me ask you this, “HOW do you know?” I know, stupid question and what’s this got to do with sales? Well, nothing really. Unless you’re a mover and shaker. Then you understand the psychology of seductive sales. Or ...

There is often the misconception that to be effective in the world you have to appear like some slick, good looking, fast talking salesperson who projects a vibe of success and perfection in everything they do. You'll be pleased to know (unless of course you are some slick, fast talking salesperson) that this is absolutely not true. In fact striving to be perfect in the way you look, what you say and the way you say it can sometimes have a detrimental effect on your level of social influence...

Criticism is a fact of life. No matter what you do people will, at some stage, have there opinions about it and feel the need to voice it in a way that doesn't always seem positive. Some people tell you to ignore criticism, others say it's an opportunity to grow and learn...just what is the best approach to dealing with it? Well, in my opinion, both of the above suggestions can be useful. Sometimes criticism can be to put it bluntly, completely inaccurate and useless and other times it can highlight useful information and insights that can help you develop as a person.

Success is NOT about goal-setting. If it were we’d all have EVERYTHING we want! It’s about creating new beliefs that create new behaviors to produce the goals you want. Can you relate to this: when I was an 8 yr old child, my father said to me; “You’re so lazy.” Now I’m sure he didn’t mean it at the time, we all tend to say things we later regret. Although THAT statement stuck with me for years. Do YOU have one of these?

Having arrived back from Australia the first of April, it has been an absolute whirlwind, with more going on tha I could ever accomplish. The HNLP Practitioner is starting in a day, so lots of preparation for this life changing training. Additionally there are amazing opportunities to joint ...

“Our attitudes control our lives. Attitudes are a secret power working twenty-four hours a day, for good or bad. It is of paramount importance that we know how to harness and control this great force.”rn- Tom Blandi Perhaps as important as what you believe is the manner in which you believe it. Your attitude can turn a miserable event into a pleasant one; or a good time into a nightmare. By controlling your attitude, you have the power to control any situation and make what you want from it.

My journey along the pathway of learning and then becoming a Certified Trainer with the Society of NLP, has been regularly interrupted by the question, what is NLP? (Neuro-Linguistic Programming). From the Society of NLP, (Richard Bandler), it is said that :- NLP is an attitude to be able to ...

It’s often been said that the number one fear that people suffer from is speaking in public. What is not quite as well known is that the second most popular fear is speaking to strangers. You only have to walk about during the day in a busy city to appreciate this. A buzzing metropolis of people going about their day with little awareness or apparent interest in the people they pass. It’s hardly surprising though given that we are culturally conditioned from a young age to believe statements like, ‘Silence is golden’, ‘Wait to be properly introduced’ or ‘Don’t talk to strangers’.

Accelerated Learning tools and techniques are common on the internet and there are two other parts that need discussing to make accelerated learning really useful. These are maintaining emotional state control and dealing with limiting beliefs. The tools and techniques are only really useful if you the negative emotions and limiting beliefs. This article will discussthe first of these challenges and how you can use NeuroLinguistic Programming to make a huge difference to your

Think about your family. Your children are the most precious thing you can have. Nurture them. Love them. Calm them down. Have fun with them. Create your life with them. Teach them the simple truths of life. Think about yourself. Too many people sacrifice themselves and that’s the only thing ...

“Sooner or later, those who win are those who think they can.”rn- Richard Bach Believing in yourself and your abilities is absolutely the most important thing you can do on your jou ey to positive thinking. It is critical to develop the self-confidence you need to carry you through to the realization of your goals. Self-confidence is a bit different from self-esteem. Self-esteem refers to your feelings about yourself, your behaviours and your worth as a person. Self-confidence is your belief in your abilities and in the way you present yourself to the world.

How many times have you been hypnotized, today?nnWell - much more often than you think! "I would like you to concentrate on any fixed point in this room you like, and while you do it you may realize your eyelids are starting to close..."nnThat is what the majority of people will picture in their heads when they will hear the word "hypnosis". And that is absolutely correct. One of the steps in process of hypnotizing, is brain relaxation. We do it because it greatly increases r

If you are continually struggling with the same issues day-after-day, week-after-week, maybe it is time for a change. If you want to progress your career, or your life, maybe a NLP training course is right for you.n n What is NLP? nnNeuro-linguistic programming (NLP) is a set of models of how communication impacts and is impacted by subjective experience. In addition to being an agent for change, NLP is also used in psychotherapy treatments for problems as diverse as phobias

One of the most intriguing patterns that most people do at some stage is to look at someone else, (usually someone who they think is wonderful, good looking and successful) compare them to themselves and start listing all the reasons why they are better than them and why there is no point in even trying to be as good as them. This is a commonly used strategy for a lot of people and it stops them from trying new things before they even begin. I remember speaking to a friend of mine at a dinner party who has an interest in modern art.

The self improvement movement is growing by the day. Both the internet and the lecture halls are awash with self-help gurus who promise that their methods can make you a better person. Often the main crux of these programs revolve around positive affirmations, creative visualization and NLP. Yet these people have a grubby little secret. All of these techniques are lifted directly from the instrument of improvement known commonly as hypnosis. So why don’t these people ever m

True Love involves loyalty, humility, commitment, fidelity and honor. Ideals that form the fundamental context of life long relationships. Context is the environment of relationship: The framework of ideas, assumptions, traditions and beliefs that form a certain perspective. Some are formed in self defense usually at an early age. Most of your beliefs and assumptions were inherited without question from parents, cultures and religions.

People often forget what they want out of a situation and what their desired outcome really is. Many people see winning as the only positive outcome and this puts huge amounts of pressure on them. If you can’t believe in yourself, then others can’t believe in you either. So in competitive sports especially, it’s essential that children believe in themselves and their ability at an early age, but it’s also important that their belief is based on what they know of themselves to be capable of rather than what they (or others) say they’re capable of.

What The Bleep Are You Thinking? The importance of what goes on in our thoughtsr The Sourcer

Energy Includes Three Aspects of the Body's System: Pathways – meridians, Centers –chakras and Biofield – aura. Understanding how the interaction of energy around you can affect a relationship will help you to maintain your physical boundaries. By sensing your energy field and your physical boundaries, you can greatly improve your relationships. You will be able to notice how your level of comfort with another changes depending upon how close that person is standing to you or how far. Your level of intimacy with that person will decide what distance feels correct.

So there you are, faced with a weight you are either not sure about, got squashed by before, never tried or were told by your Great Aunt Maud that you would never amount to much therefore you probably wont get it.

A long time ago I was one of the trainers on an advanced personal development course which involved a lot of introspection, and one of the things we used to do was called guided imagery. I have just discovered that nowadays it tends to be called a variety of other things mainly to do with meditation, guided meditation, structured meditation etc. The exercise we used to do started with an ordinary relaxation method which you may have heard of: Relax your feet, relax your ankles, relax your knees and so on, all the way up the body.

Men can be captivated by sex for a while, but in time they hear the call of a deeper hunger, a more primal need. I awoke one morning too many with a stranger…… feeling isolated, disconnected and alone. I had lost contact with myself, my purpose and the deeper significance of life. The thrill of sexual carousing reveals itself an empty promise in an arena without dignity or reason. It’s an expensive activity with no final achievement where empty promises have ever fewer takers. Men that marry too young often miss this lesson and some end up having affairs.

This article is about some of the down sides to the winter months and how using a few mental tools you can not only survive but thrive through the dark, cold winter months.nnResearch shows that there is a general increase in stress levels amongst the western population on the run up to the end of the year and through the first couple of months into the next. This time of year is also associated with increases in financial instability, increases in domestic disputes and mental

You have the power to run your own thoughts and to decide tonincrease the level of your self-esteem. Here is a newnapproach on self-esteem using the kind of states and emotions younexperience every day: acceptation, appreciation and esteem. Younwill use these feelings or states of mind to ...

Meditation: Connecting Above Pain Meditation is a time-honoured relaxation technique that has been used successfully in Eastern cultures for centuries to alleviate stress and focus the mind. This technique has recently gained popularity in Australia, England and the United States as millions of people discover both the physical and mental health benefits of meditation, while realizing that it’s not as difficult as it sounds. In trauma applications, meditation can help you rebuild the energy your negative emotions zap and learn to cope with the difficulties associated with trauma.

Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) began as a model of how we communicate to ourselves and others which was developed by Richard Bandler and John Grinder. This model explains how we process the information that comes into us from the outside. The belief is that "The map is not the territory." And so theninternal representations that we make about an outside event are not necessarily the event itself.nnTypically, what happens is that there is an external event and we run that

Feeling unnecessarily anxious, nervous or scared around people is a much more common problem than people like to admit. There are a wide variety of thoughts and theories as to where this phenomenon originates. Genetics, child development, chemical imbalance and nutrition have all been cited at some stage as playing their part in the make-up of what can often, on the surface, appear a complex problem…

Do you have a bad habit like biting your nails, or twiddling with your hair? Maybe you can't help excavating your nose and ears - a habit that should definitely be eradicated! Well, if you do, the good news is that bad habits can be broken. The first thing you need to do is to admit to yourself that you have an uncontrollable bad habit. Not all habits are bad: some habits are very useful, they help you get through parts of your life that you'd rather not think about. Imagine

I am sat, writing this at the end of December 2008 I have met and talked with quite a few people that would like next year to be different from the last. This article contains a few ideas as to how you can make that happen more easily.nnMany people are looking for the changes on the outside, they want bigger, better or just different results. The issue often is that they are getting the results they are getting because of things on the inside.nnFor example someone that would

Giving of oneself this is a challenge for many people and often around holidays seems to be on the minds of everyone I speak with. Am I giving enough? Am I giving the right thing? Who do I want to give to? Who do I have to give to? Can I afford to give? These are some of the questions that my clients have been expressing to me. At the heart of these questions is usually fear. What we fear may be different for each person. It’s as if by giving, in someway, we believe that we may be disappointing others or letting them down.

Glossophobia, or the fear of public speaking is way up there with the fear of death. Apparently studies have shown that the Americans fear public speaking more than death, and that the British fear it only second to death. That really doesn't surprise me. I used to be an actor, and I remember the first time I did my first professional soliloquy on stage, I was terrified! Then I remembered my training at drama school, to centre my self, and to breath in and out evenly. Every a

Years ago I read a great book called “How to be a Star at Work” by Robert E. Kelley. This book became and continues to be one of the “100 Best Business Books of All Time” and the “#1 Career Book” ranked by The New York Daily News. The author makes the argument that “stars are made, not born”. This is terrific news for anyone who is looking for ways to become a star at work. Based on Kelley’s book, there are 9 breakthrough strategies you need to succeed. Here are his strategies and some of his ideas as well as my thoughts on how to awaken the star within you:

20 Ways to Increase Your Confidence 20 quick and practical methods to increase your confidence, here we go: 1. Think about someone who is confident and act, talk and walk like him or her. Model their mannerisms and behaviour. It works for them; it will work for you. 2. Smile a lot more. ...

Self-Esteem Self-esteem is how a person evaluates themselves both emotionally and their self-worth. It is how one judges oneself. A person can apply and evaluate their Self-esteem both on an individual subject or globally. An example of a specific individual subject would be, “I am good at helping others,” and a global evaluation might be something like, “I never do anything right.” Self-esteem can also be positive or negative. So having a high self-esteem or a low self-esteem. This is also closely linked to our beliefs about our self. So where does our self-esteem come from?r

How do you go about removing negative anchors? What this means is that you have a negative association with something that’s good for you, or something that is somehow beneficial to you doing it. Or like a really bad tasting medicine. It’s good for you since you need it to get better. However, it tastes REALLY bad. How do you get past that negative anchor of bad taste associated with something that will help you? Here is a step by step guide to getting rid of those negative associations, so that you can start moving on to a more enjoyable life experience!

Look around you. Perhaps you see a chair. This chair is real and exists in time and space. Yet before it came into being, it first existed as a thought. In fact, everything in the room existed as a thought at some point in someone’s mind. Who you are today and the reality you have created are a ...

NLP studied effective learners and effective teachers. From there, strategies have been developed and taught to people around the world to retain more information in a short period of time, from a book or a training manual. Follow the 9 steps below next time to read a book to retain more ...

Music can provide inspiration, relaxation and passion. Some people use music to set a mood. While others will have their favorite symphony playing while they study for exams. And let’s not forget dancing to your favorite song as a form of exercise or meditation! Yes music does inspire and provoke us to be who we are to the fullest of our abilities. I imagine that music plays many roles in your life as it does in mine. It allows others to have a sense of who we are and what we believe. Consider the ways that music has influenced your life.

There is an old proverb that says: If you love someone set them free. If they come back to you it was meant to be. For years I thought this quote was about letting go in our relationships. Not holding on too tight, giving them freedom to leave without being possessive or controlling. OK, sounds wise and seems simple enough. I imagined them flying off to explore all the adventures life has to offer and eventually coming back home to me. Or not. It sounds so magical and romantic and mysterious. The only thing is it left me in a passive position.

Put simply, a value is something that is important to us. Values are the why behind any behaviour that we do as human beings. Whenever we take action and do something we do it for a reason. These reasons are what we refer to as values. A value is an emotional state that we are either attempting to move away from or attempting to move towards. They reflect our beliefs about what is right and wrong and are the rules, principles and standards that we live by.

Relationships in differing contexts of our lives; love them, dread them, crave them, nurture them, run from them..... whatever you think of them, you relate! Relationships are fundamental human interactions that exist on a daily basis, the results of which impact hugely upon how we feel about our lives and ourselves. Without any exposure to relating with others in our lives, we'd be deprived of the source of the majority of our human needs. So what is it about our relationships with others that creates such highs and lows, conflicts or consensus? Well ... it’s complicated!r

What could be more intoxicating than the delight, anticipation, adventure of romantic love? It has the power to awaken our highest spiritual worth and fulfill our deepest need for belonging. As a culture we are infatuated with the drama of Romance and addicted to the adrenalin. Yet with all of its potential for spiritual growth we are ill-equipped for the psychological dynamics behind it.

Can you remember a time when you met someone for the first time and it just seems to click? An instant bond between the two of you, an instant ‘like-ability’ or trust. You can literally FEEL, that connection! That connection is called Rapport! It is the basis and foundation for every ...

Are you stuck in your life? Not moving forward? Perhaps it's time to take an honest look at what you have been doing to move forward in your life.

A teacher told me long ago, "Never lead others without being led yourself." Pause for a moment and ask your heart, "What is guiding me?" We realize that your relationships can work for you or against you. They can stop you in your tracks or transform your life. Do you have the courage to love through your fears? Do you have the heart to forgive? Most people don't. Will you have the wisdom to know when to fight, when to embrace the challenges with gratitude or when to run?

What is the Law of Attraction? A simple explanation would be that you get what you are focused on! In other words; when you think a thought, you create a feeling which in turn creates a vibration throughout your cells throughout your body and continues to vibrate that frequency out into the universe. This vibration will attract other vibrations that are of the same or similar frequencies.

At every instant in your life you are either expanding to Embrace Growth or Contracting to hold on and protect. What are you protecting? Love and fear are opposite sides of the same vibration. Love is not the absence of fear but Courage is the expansion of Love into fear. Bringing light to the darkness and freedom from attachment is what letting go is all about. Letting go of the past is an act of power not weakness. Freedom is found in Forgiveness not Tolerance. Completing Unfinished Business is really the art of Releasing. If not you, Who? If not now, When?

There is a myth in our culture that is so prevalent it may ultimately decide the future of our species. The law of sexual attraction is parading in a lover’s mask. When so many songs, poems and stories wrap love and romance together as a single item no wonder there’s confusion. The line is blurred between unconscious impulses and conscious choice as sexual attraction takes the stage disguised as “True Love”. Sexual attraction is automatic, survival based inherited programming and that is a very good thing. It’s just not love.

MLM Scams crop up all the time. You need to make yourself aware of their existence. This will help you make sound and informed judgements. You don't want to be like closed minded people who scam everything and miss opportunities.You also don't want to become a victim.nnThroughout the history of MLM and network marketing, there have been rumblings about this Industry being a scam. It is actually a sad truth that there are many mlm scams circulating in the Cyberspace nowadays.

Nearly everyone would like improvement in their life. Whether if it's in their love life, at work, or life in general. So what is stopping most people from achieving a better way of life? Could it be that they lack sufficient confidence, and persuasive skills? There are many people of both gender out there that find it hard to communicate with other people, they find that people just don't listen to them. If you want to develop more confidence what is the first thing you need

Romantic Love began as a spiritual aspiration. Instinctively, we seek a world that is beyond the reach of our day-to-day mentalityr The word aspire means “breath” aspiration means to “breath life into” Spiritual aspiration means to seek after, to reach for, and to rise above the smallness of our personal lives to something limitless and extraordinary. This aspiration is really a seeking after the totality of one’s self, of one’s life.

We have all heard that subconscious patterns are the root of our limitations and that if we can change those patterns our quality of life improves. Without a doubt that is true. Yet, thousands of highly skilled students of growth still find themselves trapped in the cycle of two steps forward one step back.nnOur brain comprises two hemispheres, connected by the corpus callosum and the brain stem housing our primitive brain. The left hemisphere (LH) and the right hemisphere (R

Adult food phobias are exactly that - adults who are either terrified of eating certain types of food or who are fussy and picky around food. This prevents a balanced diet and therefore has enormous future health implications.

Covert Hypnosis will give you assistance in having people make your life better and you can now rule your life! A lot of people are using covert hypnosis to make their businesses more profitable. A guy I know is in real estate and really needed to sell a house. The people that seemed interested were not ready to spend the money. {He remembered that he learned covert hypnosis, he instantly made a sale. For more information on how to learn covert hypnosis go to en.wikipedia.org

Now you may have just read that title and been all like “What? Seven Logical Levels of Thought Processing? What the hell does that even mean?” And I’m glad you asked (If you did), because obviously that is what this post is for! haha. So I will start by defining what exactly having “Seven Logical Levels of Thought Processing” even means for all of you out there who are giving me a big “what the??” when you read that, and have perhaps just opened this out of pure

There are many ways of creating new methods and strategies for doing things well. One form of innovation is to take a powerful strategy from one area and apply it usefully in a completely different one. In that spirit, I have borrowed a concept from the field of engineering and will present you ...

The suggestions in this section, once again, are not substitutes for professional psychiatric care. However, many people have found self-help effective for relieving the stress of trauma and taking control of themselves. Whether you choose to seek professional help or embark on a healing path yourself, know that you can break free and begin to live again when tragedy touches you. You don’t have to let trauma keep you from achieving what you want out of life. You can choose just one, or any combination of these techniques to work on freeing yourself from trauma.

NLP is the acronym for Neuro Linguistic Programming. The study of excellence in communication (with yourself and others) in order to create the results you want! NLP started in Califo ia in the early 1970's at the University of Santa Cruz. The founders were Richard Bandler, a master's level student of information sciences and mathematics and Dr. John Grinder, a professor of linguistics. Their focus was to study people they considered excellent communicators and agents of change. They identified four pillars of NLP.

The victim mentality is the sister to self-sabotage. They both go hand in hand. In today’s economic turmoil more people have fallen into the victim mentality as a way to hide out from their problems or refuge and it provides some temporary stress relief. The victim believes that their circumstances are out of their control, that someone will come to their aid or that the world owes them something because they are special or perhaps because they have endured strife. The victim then heads for denial as a comfort zone.

There are basically two ways to learn new material or tonread a book. The first way is the old-fashioned way: younbegin or you read the material from cover to cover one timenand you try to remember as much as you can. The other way isnto use OPIR. Before explaining OPIR , I would like to tell ...

Have you ever felt that time seems to fly by? Or else, move along at snail’s place? Do you sometimes find yourself you overworked with so much to do and not enough time, at others you’re bored to tears and feeling the tick of every second. If yes, it’s probably thanks to lack of time management! Honestly, you are among the many, who wish there were 48 hours in the day because 24 hours always seem too little. If you were to practice NLP though, you’d find our current e

The growing global trend is the desire for many people like you me to make more money and become wealthier. We all want to improve our financial circumstances. Not only do you want to increase your income but you definitely need to efficiently spend and use the dollars and pounds that you have worked so hard for. NEURO-LINGUISTIC PROGRAMMING Neuro-Linguistic Programming or more fondly called by its successful proponents as NLP is the new global trend used by advanced and prog

You've got to accentuate the positiver Eliminate the negativer And latch on to the affirmativer Don't mess with Mister In-Between Ac-Cent-Tchu-Ate the Positive - Johnny Mercer 1944 We often say in NLP that the unconscious mind can't process a negative, but what on earth does that mean?

Do you realise that every time you speak to yourself you are actually coaching yourself? Are you empowering yourself through your own internal dialogue or beating yourself up? Is that little voice inside of you your best friend or a saboteur? How would you like to be able to train your internal coach so that it keeps you focused and motivated, especially during challenges? Master your thoughts, master your results Because 80% of our results depend on our mindset, the key to m

One of the best of spam I have ever received came into my inbox a few months ago, it was about percussive suggestion technique,(PSTEC) of which I had never heard.r

Motivation is a set or reasons for engaging in a particular human behavior. There are some conditions that are to be met in order for you to be able to motivate someone the correct way. So what is the motivating force, the stimulus, or the kind of influence we need to have in order to motivate ...

I discovered NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) about 11 years ago. At the time I was looking for ways to de-stress and reduce overwhelm. I stumbled on NLP as a result of a weekend retreat I participated in, in which the facilitators were using NLP techniques. That weekend was life changing for me and by the end of the weekend I wanted to learn more about NLP. Following the retreat I enrolled in an NLP training program and so began my interest and training in NLP.

Recently, well over the last couple of months, I have been going to a great gym. Well not exactly a gym but a place called Core Cambridge where I am being helped to regain core stability and a better structure~ regain my way of standing and moving in alignment. Well bully for you I hear a ...

Is creativity simply a pure inbo gift? Can creativity NLP helps transform you into another Walt Disney - a person who seemingly had the magical hands to transform dreams into reality? Referring to the Neuro-linguistic programming technique created by Robert Dilts, the Disney Creativity NLP strategy seeks to bring out the 3 distinctive “personalities” inside you to help uncover the creativity side of you. The reason for the Disney Creativity NLP strategy is to assist you to separate out each of the differing yet incredibly important roles and assume them divided.

Neuroplasticity: Your Brain and Leadership By Jay W. Politi Original Article Posted at Hammer's Hemisphere 2-6-11 http://wp.me/pweWp-60 The human brain has fascinated scientists, philosophers, educators and most every human on the planet at one time or another. The best reason for this is, quite simply, we all have one. For the vast majority of time in the human history it was agreed upon that the human brain was born with its given genetic limitations. What that means to a l

If you had expectations of plugging in thirty years with only ever working in one company, think again. The landscape is changing for career and business minded professionals, and it is becoming more prudent, now more than ever, to take control of your own career. Forbes Magazine coined the term “Careerpreneur” to reflect a growing trend towards people managing their careers like entrepreneurs – always searching for the next big opportunity. There are a number of factors influencing the job market today; consider the following:

The two levels of NLP training are: nn1. NLP Practitioner training coursen2. NLP Master Practitioner training course. nnIn this article we will be discussing the first level, NLP Practitioner training course.nn6 Reasons To Take NLP Trainingn n1. NLP Training for BusinessnWith an NLP training course you will be able to influence others, increase sales, learn leadership, coaching, and management skills. NLP training for business is best suited for Managers, Sales People, Market

As we move through life it can be exciting, invigorating and stressful. Sometimes, much too stressful. So what is it you need to emerge stronger and in peace when life’s everyday hustle and bustle goes to an extreme? What we need and recommend is many moments alone. These moments must be conscious and concentrated to the extreme…for extreme stress must be balanced by extreme relaxation. So a few minutes alone in the car before shopping does not cut it. We must thoughtfully s

We may have lost some face to face connection, but in today’s world of social media communication, we have moved to faster, more frequent communication than ever before. Now, more than ever, what you say and how you say it is critical to the person on the other end of your communication message. Effective communication is the first step in building strong personal and professional relationships. Did you know? • Rapport is established in the first 90 seconds or less • 93% of what is communicated is communicated and received unconsciouslyr

Top Hypnotic Principles that will make you a more effective hypnotist 1 - Calming the Conscious Mind A model of what we’re doing in hypnosis is that we’re calming the neocortex, which is our conscious brain, so that we can develop a greater connection and communication between all our thinking systems, thus opening ourselves up to significantly increased thinking power. This is a bit like bringing three (and maybe more) brilliant but very different people together. Bringing them together is a start, but they have to learn to work together.

Every sufferer of this condition wants to stop binge eating whether they are conscious of this or not. The personal ramifications of leading a secret life and planning all activities around food leads to desperate unhappiness in sufferers. Binge eaters consume vast quantities of food and many admit it costs them dearly, both personally and in their relationships. Being stuck on the endless cycle of binging then dieting destroys relationships both with themselves, with family and friends and seriously affects their social life.

What is rapport? Rapport is when you find you have established a friendly relationship with someone. It is like when you meet someone for the first time and you both instantly bond. For example you can be at a party and you meet someone and you both find that you have many things in common, i.e. you both might like fishing, golf, clay pigeon shooting, etc. you have instantly established an instant rapport with that person. Why is establishing rapport with people important? Ra

Do you measure your personal self worth based on what others think of you? Do you work really hard to make others like or approve of you? Do you find it hard to say no to people believing that others’ priorities are more important than your own? Do you lack confidence? If you answered yes to most of these questions you may have a low opinion of yourself or perhaps you just don’t consider yourself worthy. Enhancing self image will help build your confidence and your personal self worth. 5 ways to enhance your personal self worth:

There are many ways NLP has helped me, and it can assist you too in your career, business or in your personal life. NLP has helped me grow personally and professionally, and has been invaluable to me in growing my business from a start up to a thriving professional coaching business. NLP has provided me with tremendous tools and techniques I use regularly in my coaching practice to assist others in achieving their career and life goals. So what is NLP?

Marcus Tullius Cicero; January 3, 106 BC – December 7, 43 BC, is widely considered one of Rome’s greatest orators and prose stylists. Using his talents he earned his way to be elected consul, the highest ranking office in Roman Republic. At the end of his life, he became an enemy of Mark Antony, attacking him in a series of speeches. Marc Antony (through the Second Triumvirate) had Cicero declared an enemy of the state and subsequently killed in 43 BC. His head and hands were cut off and nailed on the Rostra in the Forum Romanum, where orators spoke.

Did you know that we use about six metaphors per minute in the English language? Are you aware that our unconscious mind thinks and responds best to symbolic language i.e. metaphors? Did you know that all learning and change occurs at the unconscious level? A metaphor is a story told with a purpose which allows us to bypass conscious resistance in order to make connections at a deeper level. By telling stories you engage the other person’s curiosity and thereby create the opportunity for direct dialogue with their unconscious mind.

Emma James, NLP Trainer and NLP Sport Trainer discusses our perception of reality and memories and if any of our memories and reality is in fact real. So, what is out reality? What in fact are our memories? Our reality is completely based on our experience, our events through our life, the ...

I’ll tell you a fact about me and buying cars. I’m really bad at it.rnI get caught up in the moment and forget about practical reality. Of course, this is exactly what the salespeople are looking for and, embarrassingly, I’m like a fish on a hook.rnI have owned 16 different cars since I was 16 years old. That would be a different car every 1.5 years! See, I am very bad at making decisions about which car to buy. I’m too impulsive.rnAfter about a year, I get bored with

The seven habits of highly effective NLP practice was written in honor of Stephen Covey, and the beautiful legacy he left in his teachings. After learning NLP,students want to be as effective as their trainers or even more effective. This effectiveness can easily be achieved by practice, and setting a well formed outcome to do so. Habit 1: Be Pro-active

“The reason people blame things on the previous generation is that there’s only one other choice.”n- Doug Larson We are a society driven by blame. We blame the government for running our lives, and our parents for ruining it. We blame the fast food industry for making us fat, ...

NLP developed through the years numerous tools and strategies to influence people. Unfortunately, people abuse these tools and use these techniques without any ethics. Before learning these tools and use them, I want you to read the article I wrote entitled: “NLP: 6 Steps to Become a ...

Low self esteem can be devastating to an individual's personal,nwork, and scholastic life. The constant feeling of inadequacynand unworthiness can undermine attempts to succeed at even thensmallest things. If you find yourself plagued with suchnfeelings, you may need to ask "do I have low self ...

“Depend on the rabbit’s foot if you will, but remember it didn’t work for the rabbit.” - R. E. Shay Have you broken a mirror in the past seven years? Any black cats crossed your path lately? In nearly every culture, in every part of the world, there are some things attributed to luck: the ...

The most important budget in the world is the budgeting ofnyour life. Budget your life? Yes! Budget it with goals, goals thatndefine and determine how you will spend that income that isnthe span of your life! I am going to give you six "goal makers" that have beenntested and proved by ...

A point of sales in involved in every aspect of life, and every one is a part of it. When was last time someone had to sell their superior or social group on an idea they had, or put together a suggestion to upturn their job budget? When was last time they had to persuade their kids to do a chore they should have been doing to begin with? Whether they are vending a product, a service, an idea or just swaying others to get to their wanted outcome-then they are selling. Find su

Make no mistake about it: your mind is like a fertile field. If you feed it with the seeds of Power, Wisdom, Knowledge and Skills, it will reap you a huge harvest of success. But if you feed it the Poison of Negativity, Apathy, Cynisim and Fear, you reap the worthless weeds of failure and lukewarm mediocrity. Does that make sense? Protecting and Empowering Your Mind Field is VITALLY important, yet easily overlooked because Most Mental Attacks Are SUBCONSCIOUS, Multi-Layered, and Indirect. They are also DISGUISED as "common sense" and "reality."

Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) is an approach to understanding human behavior and experience through the study of the brain. Over the last thirty years, NLP Practitioners have been exploring the practical links between psychological and neurological research and human behavior. They have defined a range of tools, and approaches which allow them to create 'models' of how things 'might' work. NLP practitioner certification program was first created in the early seventies by

Sorry, it’s got to be misinformed psychobabble formulated by people who have never competed or understood the complexities behind this. The "experts" believe that this Muscle Dysmorphic disorder is where people believe they are too small which leads them to constantly over train and injure ...

How to Train Your Unconscious Mind Did you know that you’re sitting on a well of power over 30 times greater than your conscious mind? Well, that’s your unconscious and it’s there to stay. You see, there’s a good reason why the rich are rich and the famous are famous, and it’s not because they’re smarter than you. No, it’s because they have found a way to access some of this dormant power within themselves. Whether they are walking the dog or taking a shower, they are working upon themselves and you can do the same too. So how can you access this power?

We were having friends over for dinner again. The lovely aroma of food and sound of the wok clanging was like a cacophony of sounds I was used to. Mum was the ultimate entertainer. She loved to cook and did it effortlessly. It was very usual for our family to have friends and family over for meals. As a child I looked forward to hearing that my favourite cousins were invited for a sleepover. It was our little reward that Dad afforded us. The deal was that we had to complete our homework for the week before they arrived on Saturday. That was Dad's strict rule.

NLP is the acronym for Neuro Linguistic Programming. The study of excellence in communication (with yourself and others) in order to create the results you want! Why is NLP important to know about? • If you are looking to make positive changes and improvements in your life or in the lives of others, tha NLP can help make those changes quickly • If you are feeling stuck, unsure of how to move forward, tha NLP can move you forward

Work can be an incredibly rewarding and fulfilling part of your life, but when passion for the work you do becomes an obsession it can be to the detriment of a healthy work/life balance. Ask yourself: • Can you carry on a conversation about anything other than your job? • Is most of your time spent working or thinking about your job? • Do you get impatient with others who prioritize things besides work? • Do you work during meals? • Have your family or friends stopped expecting you to arrive for events on time?r

Taking responsibility for your life is the key to having high self-esteem. Here are two clues that your self-esteem is not as high as you might like it to be: 1. Blaming others for what does or does not happen in your life. 2. Complaining about your life as if you have no say in it. Having higher self-esteem is about how what you think, feel and believe gets interpreted by you. It is about your interpretation of how you feel and how you transfer those feelings into your beliefs. Often when people blame and complain they are unconsciously giving away their power.

“Remember: you only have to succeed the last time.”n- Brian Tracy Everyone makes mistakes. The good news is: failure can actually be good for you! Imagine for a moment that you consider taking on this belief “There is no failure only feedback”. The best way- and ...

As Christmas rolls around, the city of Singapore has turned into a kaleidoscope of colour, sounds of carols and feelings of relaxation. There is a palpable excitement in the air. It is a time for giving and receiving, not to mention eating, drinking and partying. What better time to try a sensory-based experiment than now when there's a wealth of things to feast our senses on? Most of us have the same routine day in and day out. The weekend may bring us some respite from work and the office. There may be some excitement on the social front, fun with the family or down time just relaxing.r

Empower yourself by learning NLP Anchoringr Firstly, what is Anchoring? It is simply defined as a procedure where your memory and emotion bank are associated/anchored with some other resources in your sub-conscious mind, just like a ship being anchored to to a certain location. An anchor is simply any representation in the human nervous system that triggers any other representations. Anchors can be represented by our 5 senses (what we see – sight, what we hear – sound, how w

As much pain and suffering that highly sensitive people go through because of our worry and anxiety habits, these are traits that have ensured humanity's survival since time immemorial. What do I mean? First of all you have to understand that anxiety is a thought process. It is not a mental ...

A few years ago, my wife was waiting patiently for me to get ready for our weekly night out while I was busy looking through my 15 white shirts. I was unable to choose that special garment that would bring out my very best. The babysitter had already knocked on the door, and for some strange ...

The Singapore Formula 1 Grand Prix will be upon us soon. I was never a fan of this race. I could not understand how enthusiasts sat in the heat of the day watching cars go around a circuit, with danger looming at every corner. I see, hear and feel the adrenalin rush and understand what they are excited about but I would rather lie in bed, reading a book. Until the day I went into the city... and heard the engines roar.

Americans were crying out for change in 2008 when President Obama’s campaign was offering precisely that. For the first time in history a presidential campaign relied heavily on social media where the words of change were taken down to the people on the street, who accessed it with relish. Citizens understood what was on offer. They got excited and were enthusiastic about becoming part of the vehicle that mobilized or at least promised this change.

The ecology aspect is often overlooked in the pursuit of goals or achievements. Unless people have a heightened state of awareness they are generally oblivious to questions such as what happens after they achieve their goal; how does it affect them, their family, financial situation, health and overall future. They fail to ask if the desired change is in line with their values or even the most basic question of all – “Is this what I really want?”

NLP training is actually a process that can be successfully implemented on an individual in order to change his/her overall behavior. By learning the proper NLP techniques one can easily influence others with positive thoughts. NLP training is a scientific approach that can be applied on anyone belongs to sales, hypnosis, consulting, MLM, teachers, clergy -- anyone who needs to learn the most effective ways of communicating with their audience. This is why more numbers of peo

Attracting great and positive people tells a lot about your personality. It tells that you’re great and positive as well. It tells that extraordinary people want to be around you. Follow the 3 steps below and learn how to attract great and positive people into your life to attract more money, ...

Paralympic sprinter Oscar Pistorius, the man who defied all odds and shattered his physical limitations, was recently sentenced to five years imprisonment for culpable homicide. He was tried for the murder of his girlfriend, South African model Reeva Steenkemp in a widely publicised case. As the case went on and his life was laid bare, a striking paradox surfaced from this man's public persona. It appeared that for all his superhuman feats, he is also a very vulnerable and insecure man.

It was Norman Vincent Peale who said "Change your thoughts and you change your world" There's no shortage of advice on how to change your thoughts, mind-set, perception or even the way your brain is wired; on the internet, in books, seminars, courses and workshops. This is all fine and good. But whether they work or not hinges on the fact that change must come from within and anything otherwise is considered coercion.

PROACTIVE Proactive people initiate. They tend to act with little or no consideration; to jump into situations without thinking or analyzing. They may upset some people because they can bulldoze ahead with what they want to do. They are good at going out and getting the job done. They do not wait for others to initiate. REACTIVE Reactive people wait for others to initiate or until the situation is right before they act. They may consider and analyze without acting. They wa

The Diet Industry. This is a multi million pound industry How much money do you think you have spent on diets, pills, specific diet meals and courses? Hundreds, maybe thousands? Have any of them worked for you long term? The diet industry has made fortunes out of turning the very simple ...

When you are with someone you can sense whether or not their intentions are positive. Whether their focus is on adding value to your life or taking it away like some social leach. As the world famous personal development speaker Tony Robbins says, there’s two ways to have the tallest building. One is to tear down all the other buildings and the other is to concentrate all your efforts on building the tallest and strongest building you can.

There are many theories about using affirmations for success. The most common theories, however, have misled many folks into believing things which simply are not true. I’d like to take a moment and set the record straight. The theory most often taught says, “the subconscious mind cannot process a negative, and therefore interprets any negative phrase incorrectly.” One of the classic examples of this is an affirmations like, “I will not get sick.” According to the traditio

NLP coaching is designed to further help those who are struggling with personal issues that are holding them back from living a fulfilled life. Whether it’s financial success or improving personal relationships, many can benefit from the assistance of someone else who has an understanding of how the mind works.

Self-confident people generate money. Self-confident people are filled with optimism and positiventhoughts. They have an "i can" attitude towards life and think itnis possible to do great things. They are an asset to thenorganization they work for as they can be given tasks that demandngreater ...

Many of us spend very little conscious time thinking about our values, those principles that are most important to us. This is not to say that we don't have values; we learn from our parents, our teachers, our culture and our friends. Most of us have learned to distinguish right from wrong, to be considerate and helping to others, and to provide for those closest to us. Even if the process is unconscious, we do live, to some degree or another, according to our values.

Top Eight Tips to….Getting Older Fabulously! 1. Beliefs So what do you believe about you getting older? What will you look like, no really? Or is this something you’re totally in denial about? If we are able to source your beliefs then change/shape them to be beliefs that do actually serve ...

You might have heard about the neuro linguistic programming or NLP. This has become quite popular these days. Lots of people are taking the training with the assistance of NLP practitioners. We all know that everything's in our head. This is the proposition which leads to the NLP. There are lots of psychologists around the world who believe in this saying and this has been the beginning of the NLP practitioner certification course. Are you interested in NLP training? But befo

Is there someone in your office or workplace you just can’t seem to get along with? Do you lock heads with the same person in every meeting? Is there someone in your office that always takes the opposing argument to every point you make? Perhaps you have a conflict you simply can’t ignore any longer. Here are 7 proven steps to effective conflict resolution:

In this century the concept of ‘success’ has changed. In the past financial independence and prestige represented success. In some cultures large families were regarded as a sign of success as well. Now it seems regardless of the amount of money we accumulate, the size of our families or the prestige we have: if we are not constantly enjoying our life we do not consider ourselves to be successful. By enjoying our life I refer to the elusive butterfly called ‘happiness’. There have been many books written on how to be happy; maybe you own one or two?

Do you want a surefire strategy to convince skeptical people? Check this out Are you Macho? Not sure? Take the Macho Factor Quiz! (click on the link at the end of this article) One of the most irritating aspects of workplace politics is trying to convince someone who takes a Macho attitude. Everyone knows how hard it is to develop and share ideas with someone who knows it all or has to be the center of attention. When a person is running what we call a Macho Pattern they o

The NLP presuppositions have formed the foundation of belief about ourselves and the world we live in. This is the guides to help us in facing every situation in life in order to maximize our capability to achieve the success. For an introduction to NLP Presuppositions, please see the article NLP Presuppositions 1. This article presents another 5 presuppositions that very useful in life. The below is another 5 that will definitely rock your world! NLP Presuppositions 6: The

Having experienced in working together with a great number of certified NLP practitioners, I've realized that most of my students really enjoy Neuro linguistic programming anchoring a lot. Likely due to its convenience and its effectiveness, Neuro-linguistic programming anchoring has started the interest of many who joined my company's NLP Certified Practitioner Programs in Singapore.

As the plot thickens in Game of Thrones season after seaso I wonder who the eventual victor will be. While there seemed to be obvious winners when I first started watching the series, they didn't turn out to be the victors. If anything they were unexpectedly slain never to return to the series again. That is part of the intrigue as it keeps me wondering what unexpected thing will happen again.

The Mac versus PC commercials have been playing on television in North America and elsewhere for quite some time. They are very engaging. Many people stop whatever they are doing to watch them. If you have not seen them, check out Mac versus PC on YouTube. They pose a challenge to Microsoft Windows and merchants of PC technology because they clearly and amusingly demonstrate the drawbacks for using a Windows operating system versus the Mac system. But why are they so powerful

A really good friend of mine is always saying “when you love what you do, you never have to work a day in your life”. It’s a mantra and quote that has stuck with me for many years now and words of wisdom I live by and have imparted to my kids and clients alike. The way I see it is you have at least two choices. You find your bliss or passion in a career or hobby and you go for it or you find a way to be passionate about your current career. Here are some strategies to help you find your passion:

Have you seen the movie "The Secret"? If you have, you probably formed one of two opinions: "Awesome, great stuff I didn't know and I loved the concepts and ideas about changing my thoughts to achieve what I desire." Or... "What a crock of crap! How can we manifest anything merely by thinking ...

Public speaking can be a rewarding experience that allowsnindividuals to showcase their skills or knowledge in a publicnforum. Public speaking opportunities can allow an individual tonhelp enrich the lives of anyone in the audience by impressingnexperiences or information that can have life ...

Why is it that some speakers captivate an audience from the very start of their presentation while other speakers don’t? Great presenters have structure to their presentations and a consistent format they use to ensure fabulous presentations every time they speak to a group. Great presenters understand that individuals within the audience have different learning styles and they know how to grab the attention of each.

You have put considerable time into preparing your presentation. You want to make sure that your audience both understands your main points and comes to the right conclusions. How do you get them up to speed quickly, especially when you can predict that there will be some conscientious objectors in the group? Having worked in Europe for many years as a trainer, I had a chance to see different cultures and their presenting styles, as well as gaining an understanding of Canadi

Finally someone has the guts to say what we in the NLP community have been saying all along. Anxiety, shyness, and social phobia are not mental diseases. The new book by Christopher Lane, "Shyness: How Normal Behavior Became A Sickness" exposes the behind the scenes collaboration of the ...

Time-lines are an NLP Technique in which a person either physically walks, or imagines theirself moving along a line that they take to represent future events. This enables them to gain insight into the stages of the journey ahead of them in regards to a certain goal. Time-lines are a way to help you visualise, plan and achieve your goals and dreams for the future. They can also be used to change past experiences that may be holding you back in some way.

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Your comfort zone is defined as places or situations where you feel most comfortable and natural with. While there is nothing wrong with that, you still need to move out of it if you really want to develop your full potential and succeed in life. One good example of comfort zone is your home. It is only when you push yourself to do something new, then you are able to achieve extraordinary results. Issac Newton once said that if you keep doing the same thing and expect differe

Just as easily could I have called this article “Follow-up in coaching”, but I find this particularly true in NLP based coaching. Simply, because NLP particularly seems to launch a coach to a level where they can go beyond merely a basic surface layer of coaching. Not only can you work with the more complicated layers of personal and emotional change, it can also can be done so quickly while using the right motivational language.

After quite a wait, the book is finally released. Rebel Diet, the anti diet industry guide to freedom from diet hell with the practical guide to weight, life and the relationship between our mental state and the effect on dieting and metabolism is on the shelves in the UK. Rebel Diet , the new ...

In 1960 a cosmetic surgeon called Maxwell Maltz wrote a now well known personal development book called psycho-cybe etics. In it he describes his fascination about a strange phenomenon he experienced time and time again throughout his career... After performing cosmetic surgery to patients over several decades he found that some people experienced a radical shift in the way that they felt about themselves as a result of the plastic surgery. Amazing changes would often occur quite suddenly and dramatically in a person's personality when they changed their face...

The subject of happiness often splits the opinion of many people. Is it something we chase and obtain by achieving our goals and dreams or is it our birth right…there irrespective of what we do? In western culture we tend to adopt a ‘build and maintain’ view of the world. That is, if we want something (like money, good career, quality of life etc…) we have to go out and build it from scratch then maintain and develop it through time. In essence it’s a fundamental driving force of the capitalist world view.

There are many ways of creating new methods and strategies for doing things well. One form of innovation is to take a powerful strategy from one area and apply it usefully in a completely different one. In that spirit, I have borrowed a concept from the field of engineering and will present you ...

Supporting Parents: Supportive parenting plays an important role in the children's development of empathy, pro social behavior and emotional competence. The absence of supportive parenting may be related to the development of internal problems such as anxiety and depression. Supportive parents ...

The ability to impact and influence others is a key competency frequently identified in top performers. While we assume salespeople are good at impacting and influencing, the ability to impact and influence others is often the number one competency in helping, service, managerial and leadership roles. Learning to increase your ability to impact and influence others can make a big difference to your career success. What is Impact and Influence?

Facts are important as they are often necessary to enable people to come to logical and correct decisions. However facts on there own are often not enough to lead to either understanding or action. Stories with some emotional element are much more to likely to lead to both understanding and action. The following is a part of a story that could be useful to a coach who was struggling to find clients.

Fear of public speaking is stronger than the fear of death for most people in our society. This fear can have a serious negative impact on one’s career and it can fuel feelings of low self-esteem. If you have this fear you probably already know what the symptoms are. They include pounding heart, sweating, stammering or otherwise having trouble speaking, nausea, faintness, and inability to make eye contact. Fear of ridicule and/or having your mind draw a blank in the middle of a speech are also common.

www.resourcefulchange.co.uknnI was assisting on an NLP practitioner course, when I noticed some interesting things. One participant was having some difficulty visualising ‘understanding’ in an exercise, so on an intuitio I asked them just to picture what colour it would be. This proved to be ...

“You cannot be lonely if you like the person you’re alone with.”n- Dr. Wayne Dyer Everyone wants approval and acceptance from those we care about. However, too often we depend on approval so much that we lose sight of the most important approval of all: our own. Do you find ...

Ok, an athlete is caught using illegal performance enhancing drugs and is banned for 2 years. His governing body has an official ruling that athletes who are found to have a positive drugs results from testing can return to athletics in 2 years and will not be permitted to qualify for or compete ...

What is anchoring? Anchoring is an outside stimulus that activates a particular inner state or reaction within you. In 1904 it was the Russian psychologist Pavlov who discovered about anchoring by experimenting on dogs. Every time he fed the salivating dogs he would ring a bell. He did this several times and in the end the dogs would automatically start to salivate every time they heard the bell. Pavlov had found out that it was not the smell of the meat that made the dogs sa

One of the key skills taught as part of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) is the use of anchoring. An example of anchoring was discovered by Pavlov when he found that dogs could be conditioned to salivate in response to stimuli such as a bell, an electric shock or a visual trigger if the stimuli was repeatedly applied at the same time the dog became aware of food. Anchors may be set in any of the main senses and some of the most powerful natural anchors occur with words. In addition the anchor may be due to an exte al stimuli or an internal stimuli such as self talk or visualisation.

A Case History from Dr. Alex Lees’ Files “Bev” "Bev" had been weeping as she entered the reception room, and was still weeping some ten minutes after she sat down in my office. Offers of tea, and other attempts to reach her had failed miserably, so I called her friend, ...

Here you are face to face with your interviewer. It's the moment you've been waiting for, preparing for. Will you nail the interview or will you be stumped by the interviewer's questions. Anticipating the potential questions you might be asked and ensuring you have concise, well thought out answers will be time well spent in advance of this moment of truth. Here are some of the most frequently asked interview questions. Make sure you take the time in advance of the interview to develop strong answers to each of them. It will be worth your time and energy.

EFT Tapping Tips for the Holidays Christmas comes but once a year. It is a time of great anticipation, excitement, joy and good times for many. For some, it is not. There are high expectations, hope and determination that this year, things will be different. Maybe this year everything will work ...

In our zest to apply EFT efficiently, we sometimes phrase this desire in our mind as: “The more tapping, the better.” This can be quite a valid assumption, to a point! While teaching EFT, I have observed some EFT practitioners begin tapping the ‘client’ within a few ...

Today is the 2nd anniversary of my mother's passing and who knows what has prompted me to write this, other than to pass on some thoughts (or maybe just some personal ramblings). There's a line in a song: '...you left me here, to remind me of you' and that to me is a comfort, as long as I am here, so will she, and hopefully I can display those wonderful qualities she taught me by the way she was and the way she still is within me." We don't have to be sad, angry or alone when we remember those who have left us ~ I'm not ~ I miss her and speak to her most days and listen.

The following is a synopsis of the first two sessions I recently spent with a remarkable human being. I will call her "Kay." Kay is 64 years old and spent much of her life in the great Canadian froze North. Alone in a log cabin, she birthed two daughters. Her husband's job necessitated that he ...

“All of us are born with a set of instinctive fears- of falling, of the dark, of lobsters, of falling on lobsters in the dark or speaking before the Rotary Club, and of the words “Some Assembly Required.” n- Dave Barry Where all else fails to stop us from achieving what we want from life, fear ...

I used to define success only in the context of career – how far up the corporate ladder I could climb and how much money or bonus I could earn. I think years of business and life experience have taught me to take a much broader perspective on success. To be truly successful is to have balance in your life. So often we are focused on one area of our life at the expense of another.

One of the key skills taught as part of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) is the use of rapport. You know when you click with someone, you’re in rapport. You’re both listening and communicating in an honest, straightforward way. Rapport leads to trust.

Ever wonder why goals seem so impossible to reach at times? Last month I travelled to Peru to hike the Inca Trail and visit Machu Picchu. It has been a personal goal of mine for some time to visit the ruins, hike the trail and to fully experience the country and its people.

NLP was discovered and developed by Richard Bandler, a psychologist, and John Grinder, a linguist. What the NLP is saying is that successful and effective people are actually 'programmed' to be successful and effective. The goal of applying the NLP is to apply the structure, to simulate, and to model the "formula" of these highly effective, successful, and excellent people. When the NLP was just being initially developed, observations of how these successful people communicate were made.

Hi Mark here NLP Business Coach in this post I want to discuss how helping other people get what they want, helps you get what you want. As we grow older and wiser you may or may not notice that there is much more to life than just ourselves. For some this aha moment comes at a very young age, for others it takes a little longer, if not ever at all. Whether you are a Small Business Owner, Working on becoming a small business owner, entrepreneur, employee or on Government help there is one thing that will set you apart from everyone else… ”Your willingness to give unconditionally”

Here you are in the interview you have been dreaming about. Now what? Will you nail the interview by making a great impression mastering artful responses to behavioral questions being asked? Or will this be another unsuccessful attempt at getting to your dream job. The following S.O.A.R. Answer Model is helpful for preparing for interview questions as well as keeping you focused in the interview while answering questions, especially behavioral questions.

How do you live your life? At cause or at effect? It is important to be aware of this distinction. It is the rare individual who always lives his or her life at cause; however, far too many of us live a large portion of our lives at effect - responding to the whims, desires or emotional states ...

Having breakfast at a hotel coffee shop yesterday I waited for a friend to join me. He was on a conference call and due any minute. I have my grandmother's habit of drinking a hot beverage when it is piping hot so as the waitress served my cup of coffee I reached out for it and started sipping it. Looking around at others I noticed a group of 3 businessmen on a Skype call. Another had earphones on and he too was attending to a work call. One lady was writing. She seemed to be in her own world. "Today" I thought to myself "every man and his dog is writing or has written a book"

Just as a computer has only so much memory to store information so it is within the human being. Hence, it behooves us to periodically go in and do self maintenance on our own memory space. And how do we do this? By allowing ourselves to purge all old, negative, hurtful remembrances, feeling ...

These days, social media is all the buzz. Platforms like Twitter, Facebook, LinkedIn, and FourSquare are great tools, but how can they help NLP coaches? I use social media to: *Stay connected with the people that I love, providing a constant source of happiness and inspiration. *Offering follow-up and post-training support to previous clients. *Reconnecting on a personal level with clients from my past, both in order to keep up with their successes and challenges, but also because I genuinely care about their happiness and well-being!

How do you live your life? At cause or at effect? It is important to be aware of this distinction. It is the rare individual who always lives his or her life at cause; however, far too many of us live a large portion of our lives at effect - responding to the whims, desires or emotional states ...

Each and every one of us forms mental models as to what we believe is real and what is not. These models establish how things should or shouldn’t be done and what is possible or not possible for us. For some of us, these mental models severely restrict our potential, our enjoyment of life and ...

Questions are powerful, and you can use them to empower your life, and to conquer stress. The beauty of it is, that you already have all the answers to your questions inside you. All you have to do is ask the questions. If you have the courage to ask, you will find the answers All of the world's ...

This is a questio I get asked over and over again. Since the epic movie "The Secret" people have come to believe that you can say affirmations over and over again and all your dreams will come true. Well, will affirmations work at all? The answer is both yes and no! And here is the real science based information on what needs to happen for your affirmations to work.

Why is it that two people watching the same accident have two totally different accounts of what just occurred? They both saw the same accident-yet, they processed two very different versions. According to Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi in the book Flow: The Psychology Of Optimal Experience, we take in 2 million pieces of information per second, yet we can only process 134 bits per second. How then do we determine which 134 bits of information to focus on? We choose those 134 bits of information based on our values, beliefs, attitudes, past experiences, memories and how we process information.

So often we are up against situations we simply cannot control. We tend to focus on obstacles that get in our way, yet we have no control over. Here’s the good news. I’ve assembled a list of 10 things you can control right now, in your career and in your life that will make a huge difference to your personal and professional success and happiness:

Whether you are coaching an employee or making a business decision you are probably tapping into your intuition. Intuition is sometimes referred to as “gut feeling”, “sixth sense” or “knowing”. Regardless of what you call it, we all use our intuition everyday in multiple ways. Often we don’t recognize it as intuition as the information may come to us symbolically or in fragmented bits of information.

It is not easy to plan when you are in “reaction” mode. When you are organized you tend to feel more confident and in control, and much less stressed or overwhelmed. You are able to see the bigger picture in order to think strategically and assess your priorities and timelines more objectively. Effective planning sets you up to be proactive rather than reactive when it comes to the management of your time and your priorities. Here are 8 strategies to help you get control of your time:

"Writings on our walls" is an interesting phrase and refers to "the truths" we learned as children. Some of these truths, as it turned out, became quite supportive, and sustained us in achieving successes in various aspects of our lives. On the other hand, many of us may have learned truths that ...

Everybody can lead an extraordinary life. There is nonbetter timeto live your dreams. Knowledge is abundant. The World WideWeb is filled up with billions of pages of information. Libraries contain thousands of books on every topic possible nand you can attend seminars all around the world about ...

By Lynda Wells, PH.D.(c) Well, well, well. There you are, again. Hunched over your computer staring at the screen. Begin to relax your shoulders. Is that better? Just think about your back. Think about your hands as they are poised over the keyboard or clutching the mouse. Lean back. Now, ...