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***Expert Q&A: Battling Addictions Side-by-Side

Q: I think my partner is addicted to porn. What should I do? A: Last week I saw "Avenue Q," the Tony Award-winning Broadway musical that stars humans and puppets. The Trekkie Monster puppet gets repeated laughs when he sings about the purpose of the Internet: "Porn," he belts out. Even without the Internet, pornography is here to stay. In fact, it's probably always been a part of human life. Pornographic graffiti, for example, has graced the walls since ancient times.

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***Dating Advice: Awareness Techniques to Help You Hold Back on Rushing Love

Many of us have probably heard the word "mindfulness," but what does it mean? And more importantly, why should I bother? Obviously, I think it's important, otherwise I wouldn't be mentioning it. So, I'll start by attempting a definition. Mindfulness is the conscious process of learning about you by being aware of your physiological and emotional sensations in the moment.

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***How Smart Are You About Traveling Safely?

How Women Can Boost Their Travel Mindfulness & Intuition I’ve been fortunate enough to travel a lot – often alone – to give workshops and talks. I’ve also lived in another country that is very different culturally from my home in the United States. I mention this information because I was living with the false belief that I was a really savvy traveler.

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***New Years Resolutions That Work

New Years Resolutions that Work Introductio It’s holiday time of year again when thoughts turn to shopping, giving, partying and—yes—making New Years’ resolutions. Even if a person doesn’t want to make them, reminders about resolutions are on the Internet, talk ...

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***10 Things to Remember With Opposite-Sex Friends

Here is the age-old question: Can a man and woman be friends and stay strictly platonic? The answer is “Yo and Nes”—each word, as you can see, is a combination of Yes and No. So, how do you know if your friendship with a person of the opposite sex might cross over into “dangerous territory?” In the movie When Harry Met Sally, Harry declares that men and women can never really be friends because “sex always gets in the way.” In other words, at some point, one or both of them will have a sexual desire for the other. Is that always true?

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***Expert Q&A: Managing Empathy and Love

Q: Do I empathize too much? A: Most of us have been taught to feel sorry for people who are less fortunate than we are and to forgive people when they make mistakes. Charity and civilization rely on empathy. Yet, as many of my clients have shown me, there is such a thing as too much empathy. Read these brief scenarios.

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***Expert Q&A: Staying Positive

Q: I've already broken my New Year's resolution. How can I successfully better myself? A: Unfortunately, it's true that by February many of us are on a downward slide of breaking our New Year's resolutions. You've probably given it a good try, but old habits are hard to break. Since you most likely resolved to do-or not do-something important, your frustration soon increases. Now you have to face not only the return of bad behavior but also disappointment in yourself. But don't give up. There are other steps you can take to start the New Year in a smart direction.

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***Triumph Over Your Fear Of Public Speaking

Does your tummy chu at the thought of speaking in public? Do you feel cotton-headed when you get to the podium? And, unbelievably, did you forget to make the most important point? Welcome to the vast majority of people who fear speaking or performing in public. You’re in good company with famous actresses who revealed they get stage fright — such as Barbra Streisand, Cher, Ella Fitzgerald, Adele, and Hayden Panettiere.

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***When to Have Sex in a New Relationship

Most of us want to feel chosen, connected and cared for. Unfortunately, it's easy to be fooled into thinking you are falling in love, and one of the sure ways to cloud your judgment about your new partner is having sex too soon. Here are the top reasons how a hasty decision to have sex endangers your relationship health.

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***When to Have Sex in a New Relationship

Most of us want to feel chosen, connected and cared for. Unfortunately, it's easy to be fooled into thinking you are falling in love, and one of the sure ways to cloud your judgment about your new partner is having sex too soon. Here are the top reasons how a hasty decision to have sex endangers your relationship health.

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***Expert Q&A: Dealing with Different Personality Styles

Q: I love my partner very much, but how do I manage that we are so opposite when it comes to being outgoing and social? A: You've probably heard the expression "opposites attract." But what, exactly does this mean? And is it true? Of course, nothing is true for all couples, but, in general, we have a tendency to choose someone whose personality style adds or complements our own.

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***How to Move on After a Break up

Perhaps the end of your most recent relationship is a good thing regardless of who did the leaving. But now what's the best next step for you? Every situation has different details, but here are the top things to consider that emerged from my research and work with thousands of women. 1. Don't swear off love for a long time. That decision could start an unhealthy cycle:

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***Holiday Stress Tips: The Holiday Season May Not be the Best Time to Settle Family Grievances

Oh—so you think that just because you are together with your family that it's a good time to have one of those heart-to-hearts where you grab the opportunity to air your emotional hurts and open wounds. Well, not so fast. It just may not be the best time to settle your grievances. Why It May Not be a Good Idea

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***7 Things You Should Know about Your First Post-Divorce Serious Relationship

Well, you got through your divorce, settled in to your new life as best you can, and now you are in your first important, post-divorce intimate relationship. You're excited and relieved — yet also wary. You wonder if this new relationship is a go? Your doubts are not unfounded. After all, 67% of second marriages fail and 73% of third marriages fail as well. But, as I mentioned in my first article in this series, these statistics are for lots of women in general and in all different kinds of circumstances that might not apply to you.

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***Expert Q&A: Taking Charge of Trial Separations

Q: My partner and I recently separated. What's the best way to use this time? A: Instead of going directly to divorce, some couples decide to separate for a while. This approach definitely has its merits. It prevents you from acting hastily about the relationship and gives you a chance to manage loneliness, time, and decisions.

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***Expert Q&A: Dating Again After a Major Break Up

Q: How long should I wait before dating again after my divorce? A: Most of us have heard this advice about looking for love after you've just ended a marriage or intimate partnership: "Don't jump from the frying pan into the fire." In other words, to avoid re-bound love, take time off from dating and mating. The big unanswered questions are: How much time do I take off? And what am I supposed to do with my time if I'm not dating?

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***Expert Q&A: Relationship Ruts Part 3

Q: Why do I end up with such "basket cases" for partners? A: Basket cases--a great description of someone whose behavior prompts you to give too much of your time and energy to help, calm, or "fix" them. If you are exhausted and exasperated from feeling that you always have to pick up the slack or do damage repair for your partner, you might be trying to help in unproductive ways.

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***The One Relationship You Definitely Cannot Neglect

Unhappy with your primary doctor or specialist for a long time but too busy or unsure what to do about it? If you are nodding your head yes, you are not alone. I’ve spoken with hundreds of professional women who say any or all of the following things about changing their doctor: • “I don’t have time”r • “I don’t know where to start”r • “…well I guess the one I go to isn’t that bad…it’s just that…”r

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***3 Things to Do if Colleges Reject You

Colleges Rejected You? Learn Top Tips of Intuitive Parents and Students—and Get Accepted! Got rejected or wait-listed by your college or grad school? I got rejected in my senior year in high school by all the colleges I applied to! And, later, I got rejected on my first attempts at applying to graduate programs. And guess what? I graduated from prestigious colleges and graduate schools!

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***Expert Q&A: How to Recover from a Bad Mood

In a column about relationships, it's easy to overlook that the number one person you must always relate to is yourself. Yet, sometimes, when circumstances make us veer off our usual course, we get irritable, pessimistic and just plain old down in the dumps. Here are some tips to help you strengthen your positive coping skills, gain a perspective, a sense of control and feel better.

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***Expert Q&A: Having a Life When You Live at Home

Q: I'm in my thirties and I've been living with my parents ever since I lost my job. How can I convince my parents that I still need a personal life? A: No matter how great the goodies are at your parent's house, you'd probably like to live on your own in your own space. More adult children who have lost their jobs often have no choice but to move back in with mom and dad. Many families underestimate the stress levels and the issues of this new living arrangement.

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***Expert Q&A: How to Overcome Difficulties in Your Relationship

Have a relationship question and want Dr. Wish's advice? Email her a question, here. Your query may become an article! Happy marriages and long-term relationships are not happy every day. John Gottman, a pioneer in marital research, discovered that even in mutually satisfying marriages, couples said they went through bad patches--and years! Yet, these same couples said they were glad they "toughed it out" and would choose their partner as their mate all over again.

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***Expert Q&A: Caregiver Burnout

Have a relationship question and want Dr. Wish's advice? Email her a question, here. Your query may become an article! Q: My ailing mom has come to live with me, and it's taking a toll on my marriage. How can I find a balance? A: Medical advancements have allowed us to live longer but not always better. Just ask families who are caregivers to ailing parents or partners. Even if the job is an act of love, the responsibility erodes energy, patience and good will.

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***How to Pack Smart—and Still Look Smart! Tips from a Luxury Packer

I love traveling. I love it so much that while I am on vacation, I am already planning my next one! But I sure don't like packing. And unpacking is even worse! I must be a slow learner because it took years of making mistakes to learn what to take and what to take it in. You may not use all these tips, but here are the ones that have worked for me and my family and friends. The goals are to look good and feel good — and still be a smart packer. 1. What kind of luggage should I bring?

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***Can a Man and Women Really have a Platonic Relationship?

Can a man and woman manage not to mix together eventually? The answer is "Yo and Nes"—each word, as you can see, is a combination of Yes and No. So, how can you tell if your friendship is going to remain a friendship or turn into something more? In the movie When Harry Met Sally, Harry makes it clear that platonic friendships are essentially self-lies where the man at least wants to have sex with the woman. Is that always true?

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***Expert Q&A: Dating the Person With Whom You Cheated

Q: I'm dating the person with whom I cheated. How can I learn to trust him? A: There is some truth that those who cheated on their partner are more likely to cheat again in a new relationship. Cheaters, after all, have crossed one of those major relationship boundaries-fidelity. And cheaters chose to solve their personal and relationship problems by seeking others or by allowing their emotional needs to override their ethics and commitment.

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***I'm honored on being featured by THE HOT PICK PROFILES! "Getting Rid of What Gets in the Way of Making Smart Decisions of Love, Life and Work, and Being Happy!"

Question: Leslie Beth, how would you describe your product or project? Answer: Are you a woman who is often smart about work but not love? Do you flip back and forth between men who are too mild or mean? Do you know how to take off your Man Blinders so you can read men—and never be fooled again?

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***Boundaries in Relationships – How to Set them & Choose Your Battles

I've often told my clients that at any moment World War III could break out in your intimate relationship—if you let it. You really do have to pick your battles and your moment, tone, words, and emotional intensity. Here are some key ideas from Part 1. Quick Review: Managing relationship disappointments, setbacks and hurt require skills in: Keeping a perspective on what to let go and what to talk about (No knit-picking) Maintaining a positive emotional management and style (No criticism)

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***Managing Stress Triggers: Tip Sheet

Tip Sheet Introductio Recognize personal stress triggers and symptoms Re-train the brai Get solution-oriented Develop a buddy system Minimize self-blame Be realistic in expectations for change Introductio No one can avoid stress. In fact, it’s a necessary part of life. Stress ...

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Travel: Want the Best Honeymoon? Don’t Just Pick a Place—Pick a Feeling!

When Alyssa and Rick returned from their honeymoon in Italy, they were still squabbling. They rented a car in Tuscany because they wanted control of their itinerary. Instead, they ended up losing control of their temper over being lost, low on gas, and parking spaces. They drove to so many towns that they came back exhausted and in need of a vacation!

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***Powering Through, Finding Happiness

Dear LeslieBeth, I’m a successful, single business woman in my late thirties. My trusted friends told me I seem unhappy. I think my friends are right. I’m not unhappy about anything specific, and I don’t feel any more stress than usual. I searched the Internet for tips, but some of the tips are for more specific problems such as marital or health problems. Could you give me a general checklist of things to do so I can feel better about my life? Thank you, Confused Dear Confused,r

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***What Are The Ten Love Commandments?

One day, “out of the blue,” when I was trying to find ways to help my clients, the idea of writing a list of Ten LoveCommandments came to mind. My clients and research participants ask me many questions, and one of the most common one is: “How do I keep that spark alive with my partner?”

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***Dating Advice: Building Trust in Your Intuition. Part 2 of 2.

It’s very scary to think you found Your Soul Mate, but you found instead Your Love Nightmare. What went wrong? Getting smart about dating, mating, and relating relies, in part, on maintaining your ability to turn on your awareness lights about your observations of you and others. You are most likely doing this already. For example, when you meet a new person, you are making assessments about them. You think: Is this person kind, secure, honest or smart? Prehistoric humans had to rely on these skills because their survival depended on it.

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***Getting over a Breakup – Beat the blues!

The New Year seemed to have passed, and the sting of an unhappy, unromantic Valentine's Day is over, too. No wonder you feel sad. No matter how much you fight the influence from what seem like manufactured holidays, it's still hard to beat the blues from breakups and being alone. Best Tips for Beating the Breakup Blues

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***5 Things Women Should Never Do on a First Date

First dates are both exhilarating and a bit frightening. And sometimes it's hard to know the difference between these two feelings. No wonder — these emotions arouse virtually the same areas in the brain. Even more confusing, when you feel anxious, you often don't think clearly. California educator Judy Willis discovered that stress prompts the brain's amygdala, which regulates emotions, to function in overdrive.

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***Boosting Your Intuition About Domestic Violence: How to Take Charge of Your Safety and Happiness

If you have never been in an abusive relationship, it’s easy to think: Why doesn’t the person just get out of it? Well, think of these things: An abuser knows exactly what emotional buttons to push in his or her partner. The abuser is a master of finding that chink in the partner’s sense of self-worth and confidence. An abuser has emotional radar for people who need to please, and who tend to doubt his or her feelings, thoughts, and actions.

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***When and How to Set Limits, Draw the Line and Pick Your Battles in a Relationship.

When you're unhappy in love, it's often hard to know if you are being too picky, too "sensitive" or just wrong in your assessment of the situation. You wonder what "counts" as being a legitimate reason for you to fall out of love or feel distant from your partner. Should you break up if your partner cheats on you, hits you, lies to you? Just how do you know how to set limits, draw the line and pick your battles?

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***Expert Q&A: Fix Your Sexless Marriage

Q: How can I turn around my sexless marriage? A: Why would some couples remain celibate? Isn't sex supposed to be part of the pleasures of love and marriage? Yet, approximately 10-15% of marriages may experience long stretches of time without sex. A smaller number of couples never consummate the marriage. Most of us assume that sex is a very important part of being a couple. It forms one of the building blocks of lasting love. The other building blocks include shared values and interests, and commitment.

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