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I am really angry—and sadden by how the media and the National Football League handled the domestic violence incident of Ray Rice against his fiancé, Janay Palmer, who is now his wife. For those of you who don’t know the details, here is a recap.
Q: How do I "fall in love using my head and not my heart?" A: Most of today's grandparents heard the love lesson "use your head not your heart" long before they looked with interest at the opposite sex. But just what do these words mean--and how do you apply it to your love life? Consider the following stories.
We tend to give our partners more than second chances—even when they have betrayed, disappointed or hurt us physically or emotionally. It's as though we'll do almost anything to defend against rocking the boat, and being alone or wrong about our love choices.
No matter how seasoned and successful you are, you still may experience disappointments and setbacks. Here are tips to empower you. Read this several times: No one is immune from experiencing career setbacks, disappointments and regrets and making mistakes big and small. Setbacks come in many forms for all of us. See if these situations sound like you. I've added possible solutions for each item.
<img border="0" src="http://www.lovevictory.com/uploadimages/35MeetingSantaWEBTMR.jpg"> Wouldn't it be great if you could instantly read men? So far, there isn't any super-power for that. And wouldn't it be great if there were Santa Claus men who are bigger than life--and who can satisfy your every whim and need. Uh-oh, it might seem that there are enough of these kinds of men, but be careful what you wish for. Here are some tips about reading men so that you don't mistake gift-givers from gift-takers.
Have a relationship question and want Dr. Wish's advice? Email her a question, here. Your query may become an article! Q: Every year I drop my New Year's resolutions by February. What can I do to keep them? A: Unfortunately, for many of us, by Valentine's Day your New Year's resolutions feel long forgotten. Let's face it-it's too hard to keep them. But don't get down on yourself if your efforts to change and be better have dwindled to practically zero.
Dr. LeslieBeth Wish, Ed.D, MSS at www.lovevictory.com Reasons Why Getting Along with siblings is So Crucial The Most Common Problems of Having Siblings-in-laws What Can You Do if You Have Siblings-in-law Problems? Why are the siblings so important in approving your choice of mate? It’s ...
If you’ve messed up the first date, you are not alone. Read these three true stories from my clients. 1. “Alyssa” agreed to meet Allen in person after ten days of emails, text messages and phone calls. She was really looking forward to meeting someone who seemed good for her. The problem was that shortly before she met Allen for coffee Alyssa had a huge fight with her mother. Her mother frequently mentioned that Alyssa’s younger sister just married a plastic surgeon. Alyssa’s mother said, “You’ve got to give up these teachers you date all the time.”
Making and keeping New Year’s resolutions is challenging—especially when you want to make the best resolutions about dating. Don’t despair. You can make smart resolutions — and use your brain’s ability to undo old habits to keep your resolutions! Let’s start first with smart resolutions that are based on my research about love issues from thousands of people. The next section offers ways to prepare your brain for lasting change.
Have you ever thought that you found The One—only to realize later after much heartache that the person was The Wrong One?
Travel is great medicine for boosting your sex and love life. Don't have the money or time? Don't worry. All you need to do is cut back on a few unnecessary purchases such as that magazine, or comfort food, or that movie that you don't really need - and then find a day and a half to be together. So, let's get started! STEP 1. HOW MUCH TO SPEND, HOW LONG TO GO!
***Tips for Recovering from Being Suddenly Single*** Women, Loss, Grief and Loneliness: If I’m so great, how come it hurts so much to be alone?n ...
How to Avoid Wedding Stress and Be a Smart Bride: Over-the-Top Wedding Plans Can Reveal Bottom-of-the-Barrel Feelings Weddings and the accompanying engagement parties and showers can get stressful and out of hand for many reasons. Here are the top reasons why planning weddings may not be as ...
Your divorce is final, and you are glad, sad, excited and scared all at the same time. You love your nights to yourself — for a while — and then you wonder if you can ever be optimistic about finding love again. The good news is that this roller coaster of feelings and doubt is normal. And the even better news is that a healthy, intimate relationship is possible. But before you start searching dating websites or asking your friends to introduce you to date-worthy men…
Are statistics about the odds of women finding love and happiness getting you down? Don't fret — get smart and think about you instead! Virtually all of the women in my study for my books said they had trouble "turning down the background noise" about what statistics and society said about women's chances for happiness in love, life and work. Turning Off these Messages that Can Jam Your Head about Love!
Instant Relief from Grief: Tip Sheet Introductio Give Back Stay Connected Cry and Yell Get Inspired Get Help Introductio Grieving is one of life’s most unpleasant events. Like falling in love, experiencing grief can make you feel as though you are going a little crazy—except ...
<img border="0" src="http://www.lovevictory.com/uploadimages/CookieandJoeat-RockConcertWebTMR.jpg"> Activities that excite us make us feel good about life, love and ourselves. We are all pleasure-seekers, and there are endless things that can make us feel re-vitalized. We like to be carried away.
When The Soldier Doesn’t Return: The Needs of American Families of Downed Warriors In Iraq Note: All names have been changed to protect confidentiality. By LeslieBeth Wish, Ed.D, MSS,MA Reprinted with author's permission from www.helpstartshere.org Introduction Sally had been a ...
Here are some thoughts that might surprise you. There is not necessarily a type of person who cheats. Even nice people can be cheaters—and this concept can cloud your ability to see the signs that your partner is a cheater.
Secrets to Hiring Smart: New Ways to Mix Wisdom with New Formats, Questions and Intuition In my career the task of hiring always landed on my desk. There were other “sets of eyes” on the potential employee, but I was often the first or last set of eyes. Over the years, I relied on a unique format and questions, combined with my intuition. There is no magic recipe that will work in every situation, but I’m sharing top tips that have worked.
<img border="0" src="http://www.lovevictory.com/uploadimages/34ThanksgivingHolidayStressWEBTMR.jpg" width="488" height="199"> Holidays for many people can mean being alone and feeling lonely--or being with family members who cause you stress and also make you feel lonely! It seems you can't escape the holiday blues. But you can! Here are some tips.
One of the common plot lines of romantic comedies involves a relationship that has to change from a best of friends into a romantic couple.
We expect to outlive our parents, but we still struggle with grief. Take this quiz to learn about dealing with the loss of a parent. Put an “x” next to one answer for each question. 1. Losing a parent suddenly is worse than ...
No matter how successful and seasoned you are, you may still experience setbacks and disappointments. Setbacks come in many shapes and sizes for each of us. Sometimes they are small, while other times they're huge — or perhaps they just feel that way. Read this sentence out loud several times: No one is immune from experiencing career setbacks, regrets and disappointments, and from making mistakes both big and small.
Even if you are the one saying good-bye in an intimate relationship, you still may not feel strong, wise and happily single and alone again. It is normal to feel scared and doubtful about your decision to leave. Whether you are doing the leaving or you are the one who is being left, it is also normal to feel anger. After all, you invested your heart and hopes, time and possibly your best years. But it is not healthy to stay stuck with your anger so that you never risk falling in love again.
Q: Should I remarry my ex? A: We all like second chances in life. Rarely do we get them. Remarrying your ex is one of the few opportunities for a "do-over." There are no divorce statistics for people who re-marry their ex. However, the divorce rate for all second marriages is about sixty percent. Oops-not very good odds. But remarrying your ex does not have to end in the chaos of Liz Taylor and Richard Burton. Here are some tips from my clients who have succeeded in remarrying their ex.
Q: My partner's become withdrawn since being diagnosed with a serious illness. What should I do?
Q: My boyfriend won't propose even though we've been dating for years. Should I take the initiative? A: Let me just get it over with-I do not recommend that women propose marriage. I'll explain why a few paragraphs later, but first, here is the experience that sparked my deeper thinking about marriage proposals.
If you're like myself and many of my clients, you find forgiveness a difficult prospect. Big questions such as "When is it too late to ask for an apology?", "Is forgiveness necessary for personal and spiritual growth?", and "Should someone apologize for being truthful?" complicate the process.
Have a relationship question and want Dr. Wish's advice? Email her a question, here. Your query may become an article! Q: I'm about to meet my partner's parents. How can I make a good impression?
You’ve read the dating articles. You feel armed with enough of the “right” questions to ask so you’ll never get fooled again. You know to ask about their values, recent breakup, favorite music and movies, where they live, what they do for a living and whether they like animals and their family. Phew! You tell yourself that you are on solid footing.
It’s difficult enough to meet someone who seems like a good love match. But then, over time, things happen between you and your partner that make you wonder: “Is this the right person for me?” It seems as though it should be such an easy question to answer. But once you fall in love, your head and heart can conspire to make you minimize your unhappiness. As the saying goes, love really can make you blind.
Yep—soon it will be time for you to get: HOLIDAY SEASONAL STRESS DISORDER. Symptoms of this disorder include:
The suicide of Robin Williams has shaken—and awakened us up. News of his death has made many of us think:
Uh-oh—another study about women's unhappiness at home. The sociologist Arlie Hochschild wrote in her 1997 book, "The Time that Binds," that time at home with spouses and children was more stressful than time at the office. The author described home as a place where couples had on-going tasks about caring for children, the household, finances, and all the emotional ups and downs of family members.
Do you want to be happy in love? If you answered, "Yes", then you need to know the signs of a good relationship. Common sense will tell you to find someone you trust and like. But you can learn a whole more with research-based advice that delves deeper. The first part of this Women's Love Quiz series tested your relationship smarts. In this second part of the quiz, you'll be challenged to spot the signs of a good relationship and see if you really know what it takes to be happy in love!
Yes—you broke up because it wasn't working. Every relationship has unique details about unhappiness. You may still harbor some doubts, but, for now at least, breaking up feels the right thing to do. It wasn't easy—regardless if the relationship was very bad or just not a good match with a person who was good! You may already know that your next steps after you close that door on this relationship are to:
I'm sure many of you have wondered why a man didn't call back — or call you at all after you had what you thought was a wonderful conversation. It's very confusing. Doubts swirl through your mind such as: was I too quiet or too opinionated? Did I talk about my ex too much? I wish I had a magic answer or a sure-fire way to know a man's heart. After all, some men like agreeable women, while other men like women who challenge them.
Sometimes you just have to end the relationship. But what are the best ways? Test your Break Up Smarts and take this quick quiz. Break Up Quiz 1. Suzanne knows it's not going to work out with Ron. They've been dating for a few months, and she already sees that Ron is selfish and controlling. The best way for Suzanne to break up is: A. Send him a text. She hasn't known him that long so it's no big deal. B. Send him an email. C. Talk to him on the phone.
Yes, it can happen to you—the date with the man you always wanted. But don't let your enthusiasm compromise your safety. Get smart and take the following precautions ahead of time. How to Protect your Safety on Dates
Many New Year's resolutions are broken by the end of January. If that sentence describes you, don't fret. New Year's resolutions are hard to keep because we humans—and probably most primates—have brains that are designed for pleasurable sensations and encounters such as eating delicious food, having sex, socializing or mastering a difficult task.
Bad boys have edginess. They're risk-takers, a trait that's present in successful, charismatic men of power, status, wealth and savvy. So, what's wrong with being attracted to them? The answer is "almost nothing," as long as you don't allow the exhilaration of being with a man of fame, fortune or excitement make you overlook his disrespect of you. Look at the expression on the face of the women with the pink striped top. She's the only one not smiling amongst her privileged friends. Something's wrong.
Has dating etiquette about money really changed from the days when men paid for everything? Yes and No. In the not too long ago past—talk to your parents and grandparents—men paid for almost everything on a date. Oh, once in a while the woman would treat him to something that was not expensive, but the cultural etiquette was that men were expected to pay.
Had rotten parents who abused, neglected, criticized or abandoned you? Or something happened to you later in life such as assault or rape? Or your disappointing love relationships hover overhead like mylar balloons glinting at your failures?
n *Sylvia’s husband had a rule: If you can’t be home right after work, you had to call. When she rushed a co-worker to the hospital, in the confusion, Sylvia called about thirty minutes after she was due home. When she did phone home, he ...
Losing your home for any reason is heart-wrenching. Many families describe the feeling as “the rug being pulled out from under you” or “losing your moorings.” Money issues are one of the top sources of stress for families these days, and the number of families who have ...