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Do You Support Each Other?

We all have dreams, wishes and goals. There are things we want for ourselves, our partner, our family. Sometimes though we find that it is difficult, if not impossible, to make our wish a reality. We may want to start a new business, go back to school, learn a new trade, pick up a new hobby or project, throw a party, have the house a certain way, keep fit, enroll in activities with our children, have more intimate and fun moments with our partner, having another child, etc. But life gets in the way and we just dream about these and never see them materialize.

Primary topic: Codependency

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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

ENHANCING LOVE IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP (PT2 OF 3)

Don’t you just love Love Month? This is it, one-week left to Valentine’s Day. Are you a VDay lover? You don’t have to be! I get how commercialized and gross the holiday gets. Non-the-less, I love the concept and prettiness of it, so I indulge and invite others to do so as well. What do we have to lose by being more Love Aware? In the spirit of Being Loving, here is a little love nugget for you, for experiencing more Self-Love...

Primary topic: Codependency

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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

HOW IS YOUR SELF-DISCIPLINE?

Sometimes we forget, or give up on, what we want to do… Sometimes we get side tracked or distracted and can’t seem to get traction… Sometimes we are afraid to follow are dreams… We believe we don’t have what it takes, and thus hold ourselves back. Can you remember a time in your life when any of these happened for you. Part of the reason this happens is because we don’t have enough personal ownership and self-Discipline. Because I knew I was getting ready to be ready (LOL) for this big project, I chose the Focus Term™ Discipline for myself when I was doing my year-end Strategizing… Eh?

Primary topic: Codependency

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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

Liven Up Your Relationship – Have Fun!

What is the Fun Quotient in your relationship? Couples have the tendency to become complacent in their relationship including the fun aspect of their relating. This is traumatic to the relationship as it stifles its energy flow creating a numb, stuck and disconnect feel and dissatisfied partners.

Primary topic: Codependency

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FEELING FUNKY, VISIONING AND STRATEGIC PLANNING

Boy, oh boy! Are people struggling right about now. If this is you, please know you are not alone and do not worry we’ll get you out of the funk soon enough! There are plenty of reasons for potentially not feeling well: Crunch time at work or business, spotlight on life success, overwhelm with the holidays, financial concerns, family-of-origin stressful dynamics and painful memories, relationship dissatisfaction or spotlight on relationship status, over commitment in all areas of life, poor health, fatigue or burn out, and so many others. Unfortunately, this is pretty universal.

Primary topic: Codependency

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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

Master your mind, master your day…

What is the key to an awesome day? Yes, we can say that all kinds of good things happening to us would make the day awesome. But I dare challenge that notion as we don’t want to be at the mercy of good things happening randomly to us for us to have an awesome day. When good things happen, let’s of course enjoy them and be grateful for them. But let’s not hang our hat on that. Let’s instead create our awesome day- become the of Master your day! As usual, the key is to own your day… I’ve covered this concept from the idea of Designing and Owning our day:

Primary topic: Codependency

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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

DISTANCE FROM YOUR PARTNER!

When we are really frustrated at our partner and become crazy in our interaction with them, in real life or in our mind…, we lose sight of our Self, our partner and our relationship. We instead get mired in a sea of reactivity, and therefore pain. We are not doing anyone any good by getting to this state. This state, thoughts and feelings, is just a reactive experience of a specific set of neurons firing in our brain. This is not who we are. This is not who are partner is. This is not our relationship. This is just some in the moment chemistry.

Primary topic: Codependency

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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

If You Can See It, You Can Create It…

You might not have a chance if you keep this up: A tendency to look for weaknesses, gaps, holes, things to improve, deficiencies and the like, and miss the boat on capitalizing on strengths in your relationship. We bring this tendency to how we view our partner and how we relate with them. We look for their shortcomings, what they forget to do, what they could do better, and what else they can do for us. We use a lack and negative expectations lens. We filter our experience to prove our negative expectations. We expect our partner to fail before they even try.

Primary topic: Codependency

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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

HAVING POST TRAUMA GROWTH?

I’m hearing a whole range of experiences from people, depending on who they are, where they are and how much of an impact the lockdown had in their life for starters. Just know that whatever your version is, whether you are bogging out, are having a reaction, or are feeling guilty for being fine, it’s ok and you are not alone… We are all on our own Journey, and this includes what we make of and take away from this Pandemic…

Primary topic: Codependency

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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

HE KEY IS YOU 2.0…

As we witness our country get ravished by this pandemic, and what seems the worst is yet to come, we have to prepare to weather the storm. To ride the wave… To make sure we can hang on to hope, to see the light at the end of the tunnel, and to look for the silver lining… I know it’s very challenging to do that as things get worse.

Primary topic: Codependency

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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

Implement pleasure and delight habits… (Video)

It is not uncommon for us to become so tunnel vision in our experience that we miss the forest for the tree. We focus on what’s not working, how we’ve been wronged, what we don’t like, how much we have to do, and all the miseries of life. We tend to overwork, neglect ourselves and our loved ones. We are far from living our Best Life and creating our Best Relationship… We can focus and work differently instead… And, we can implement pleasure and delight habits…r

Primary topic: Codependency

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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

IT’S TIME FOR PASSION!

In my recent reading I have come across a piece of writing that has made me think of sexuality and physical intimacy from a different angle. I love when that happens! Give me material that sparks my creative juices and that I can integrate into my work for greater impact, and I’m a very happy camper. This is what tickles me!

Primary topic: Codependency

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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

Spring into a new level in your relationship and life

Springtime is a time for renewal and New Beginnings… It is an opportunity to start fresh again. It is a time to refresh, course correct and reset. All changes in season and any new start, provide the opportunity for New Beginnings… Spring is special in this endeavor as the newness is so obvious with nature springing back to life… There is momentum in this… This is your chance to spring into a new level in your relationship and life…r

Primary topic: Codependency

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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

20 RELATIONSHIP ENRICHMENT TACTICS YOU NEED

What positive and healthy tactics have you embraced recently that are having a good impact on you? That are allowing you to be your Best Self? As you might know, when we show up with the best version of ourselves, we can conquer anything… This includes creating our radiant, authentic and successful relationship. What does showing-up with our Best Self mean? It means we embrace a Relationship Enrichment approach, we: Set empowering effective boundaries so we honor ourselves and don’t get in each other’s wayr

Primary topic: Codependency

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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

How being a Mom impacts you…

Being a Mom has been the greatest gift and blessing in my life. This role is at the core of who I am and part of my purpose at the end of the day… I am so proud of the Journey I have walked with our daughter since the moment she was a desire in our minds until this very moment. The pride and love I have for her is immeasurable. But even though this is my greatest pride and joy, it hasn’t come without its challenges. How being a Mom impacts you…

Primary topic: Codependency

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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

When Do You Get On Your Partner’s Nerves?

Do you know when you get on your partner’s nerves? There is a general underlying theme to the complaints couples usually share and that is that their partner is being egocentric. Egocentrism gets in the way of witnessing our partner’s beauty, gifts and contributions. It keeps us trapped in our mind’s machinations and delusions keeping us from Being our Authentic Self. Egocentrism prevents us from connecting with our partner and from having the relationship we want.

Primary topic: Codependency

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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

"Crying" Gets Your Needs Met!

When we are babies we learn to get our needs met by alerting our parents of a poopie diaper, hungry belly, or an ouchie with our crying. As adults, we continue to try to get our needs met with our ï¿½cryingï¿½. Our crying has become more sophisticated over time and now takes the form of criticism, nagging, put downs, and jab!!

Primary topic: Codependency

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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

REENERGIZE YOUR LIFE

Life is full of little wonderful surprises if we allow ourselves to see them and let them in… When was the last time you were delighted by the unexpected? Are you being flexible with your approach to life, work, schedule, perspectives? Are you letting your energy flow freely? Do you allow your life approach to energize you, sustain you, elevate you? This is how the magic happens… Embracing the new season, we know that Spring is all about what I call: The Five Rs – Recharging, Restoring, Renewing, Reinvigorating and Rejuvenating.

Primary topic: Codependency

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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

CARING IS NOT JUST FOR MOTHERS!

First, if you are a Mom, sending you lots of love and appreciation for all you do and endure as a Mom… Second, if you are not a Mom, I’m sure there is a Mom in your life that you can Celebrate… And, third, we all have a Mother inside us to whatever extent. It’s part of the human condition to Care… This is a perfect time to review how we are doing in the Caring department. How are we being amazing (not perfect) Moms to our children? How are we being amazing Caring individuals to the ones we love? How do we show care, tenderness, nurturing? How do we show up so that others know we Care?

Primary topic: Codependency

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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

READY FOR POSITIVENESS YET?

After large numbers of deaths in NY/NJ, the outbreak seems to be slowing down and the curve flattening a bit in this area. Yay! This is just the beginning of seeing the light at the end of the tunnel. Hey, I’ll take ANY good news. Focusing on the good is Good… What insights have you gotten about yourself as a result of this experience so far? How have you stretched outside your comfort zone to step up your game in self-management and positively responding to this crisis? What are you seeing as possible personal lessons and takeaways up to this point?

Primary topic: Codependency

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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

CHANGE STARTS WITH YOU…

Are you victimizing yourself, or are you being proactive in your life? Pick something to take charge of, to focus on, and Focus on it till you get the results you want… Let’s do this! This applies to anything in your life, obviously your relationship as well… As I usually share, partners have a tendency to focus how their partner is being, how their partner is thinking or looking at something, how their partner is feeling, what their partner is doing, how their partner is spending their time, how their partner is grooming, how their partner goes to the bathroom (sarcasm)…

Primary topic: Codependency

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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

START A NEW RELATIONSHIP, WITH YOUR PARTNER

It’s been a wonderful Season so far of clearing, replenishing, and resetting ourselves. As we move into the lovely holiday weekend with Passover and Easter, if you observe, we can expand on the meaning of the holiday beyond the religious message. I love to experience this time as a time for new beginnings… A time for rebirth, for freely pursuing our heart and our dreams, for beginning anew, for blooming, for thriving…

Primary topic: Codependency

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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

Dream and inspire your alternate reality

I’m sure you’ve heard a version of the saying that if you can see it, you can create it. Yes? What does this mean for you? Does this mean that the Elon Musks of the world get to have huge dreams and then make them happen allowing us to space travel and such? I say we own our own power a bit more and embrace what we can see, we can create also… How about it? Let’s dream and inspire your alternate reality…

Primary topic: Codependency

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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

ARE YOU YOUR OWN WORST ENEMY?

Something that is amazingly striking is how vulnerable we are in all aspects of our humanness. And, how hard we can be on ourselves (and with others!) to top it off! In the stories I hear through the work, and also in plain old conversations with people, I hear the constant criticism, lack mentality, negativity, focus on what’s “wrong”, and the like. Gosh, it makes for an awful stay in that mental space rental. LOLrnr

Primary topic: Codependency

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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

9 TACTICS FOR WEATHERING YOUR QUARANTINE

It is a crazy time in the world, and it behooves us to take care of ourselves well to properly weather this storm and come out as unscathed as possible after this is over. Let’s make smart decisions and set ourselves up to actually thrive. Yes? Let’s do this also! The coronavirus pandemic is impacting every thread in the fabric of our lives from where and how we work, to how our kids are educated, to how much internet bandwidth we need, to what food we have available, to how we entertain ourselves. Even to how much toilet paper we have to wipe our butts. LOL (a little humor never hurts!)r

Primary topic: Codependency

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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

Numbing for coping with stress specially during the holidays…

The Holiday Season is here! This time of year is usually challenging regardless of how crazy the world is out there. What makes this season usually more challenging is that we trip into it and get sucked into the hecticness. This sets us up for chaos, being stretched too thin, overwhelm, drama, and too much noise. Where we end up neglecting, and even abusing, ourselves trying to get it all done or managing what comes up... This is the perfect formula for us to turn to numbing for coping with stress during the holidays…r When we turn to numbing, we actually make things worse…

Primary topic: Codependency

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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

Become Irresistable!

I have noticed that when we have the foot to the pedal, we are moving so fast that we actually miss the beautiful scenery around us. We go about life trying to get things accomplished to such an extent that we burn ourselves out and end up actually accomplishing less… So, what’s the point?

Primary topic: Codependency

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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

TIRED OF FIGHTING WITHOUT RESOLUTION?

So many of our “big projects” are coming to gorgeous fruition. Life indeed is Grand! How about you? What accomplishment or deliciousness are you celebrating from this year? Nothing is irrelevant, a given or expectation. Anything beautiful in your life you Allowed and coCreated. Acknowledge it, own it, celebrate it. We create the life we have, take credit and delight… We get what we put in… This brings me to today’s writing. We are on Element2 of the Successful Couple Strategy™: Element1 – Context & Mindset Element2 – Communication & Alignment Element3 – Clarity & Dynamicsrnr

Primary topic: Codependency

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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

Start anew with a good detox and spring clean!

Spring is almost here. Yay! Do you know what that means? It means it’s time to get ready for New Beginnings… As everything in nature will slowly be coming back to life and starting anew, so can we. We can take this opportunity to come Alive, to engage more with our life, to create new beginnings, to reset, to recharge… We can start anew in any area of our life we choose. The best way to start anew is with a good detox and spring clean!r

Primary topic: Codependency

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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

IT IS TIME TO CONNECT, HERE IS HOW

Whether there is a lot of fighting and bickering or quiet discontent and separateness, most couples struggle in their relationship. You might feel dissatisfaction, loneliness, and hopelessness seep in and take an unrelenting hold of your relationship from which you can’t seem to figure out a way to feel okay in your relationship and with your partner.

Primary topic: Codependency

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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

HOW TO GET OVER WINTER BLAHS

I like to get into Spring Mode early to extend the warmer seasons as much as possible… It’s harder to do when the weather wants to continue to show its winter colors though. LOL But it’s nothing that a Spring Bucket List can’t fix! Are you with me? Let’s leave winter behind regardless of what is happening out there. I did some research on Spring Bucket Lists to prepare for this issue and found most of them a little basic and dull. I think you and I can create our own much better list. Are you up for it?

Primary topic: Codependency

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COPING WITH HEALTHY VS UNHEALTHY HABITS

As we are faced with retriggered trauma, loss, uncertainty, stress and restraints, now is the time to access our best parts not only to weather this storm well but to be ready for what’s next… When we allow ourselves to numb out and shutdown, to sink into a hole, to spiral out of control or to simply press pause on our life and our dreams, we are hindering ourselves now and are making things more challenging for later…

Primary topic: Codependency

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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

Are You Using Your Courage?

Isn’t it sad that most couples are not happy or that relationships are barely working as the partners wish? I attribute this to a lack of courage, to fear. For you see, we tend to lead with our defenses, protection and ego in our relationship. We are not attractive when we use our porcupine mode to approach our partner. Then we wonder how come we don’t get what we desire.

Primary topic: Codependency

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Fun and Pleasure…

There is a tendency towards passiveness in our relationship as time passes. Couples get comfortable in their routine, whether it is an efficient and satisfying routine or not, and lax in their relating, whether they are on the same page or not. They settle into whatever relating they have developed and stick with it, becoming more and more passive in their efforts to keep passion, interest, mystery, and seduction alive.

Primary topic: Codependency

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STEP UP YOUR COMMUNICATION SKILLS!

Last issue covered Boundaries… A hugely important concept that we address in Element1-Context & Mindset, in our Successful Couple Strategy™… Boundary bridges show up everywhere in our life if we are attentive in making sure we lovingly hold our ground and take care of ourselves…

Primary topic: Codependency

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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

***Do You Know How to “Clean” Your Energy?

Share Good Vibes With Your Partner

Primary topic: Codependency

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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

How Badly Do You Want An Awesome Relationship?

Be Awesome With Your Partner!

Primary topic: Codependency

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Missing love, how is your connection and intimacy? (PT4)

Nobody likes to feel disconnected from their partner. Partners might like to have time to themselves and do their own thing. But they like to have that while still feeling connected. Feeling disconnected, not in a good place, not on the same page, not in alignment, not together or not close, intimate and special – doesn’t feel good. Missing love, how is your connection and intimacy? We’ve already established that we have not only been in a Pandemic but also undergoing, and this is not just during the pandemic, a low desire and lack of intimacy Epidemic…r

Primary topic: Codependency

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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

ENHANCING LOVE IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP (PT3 OF 3)

How is the most romantic, loving, nurturing, pink/red week of the year going for you? Doesn’t it feel so lovely to step up the usual TLC and focus on treating your partner? What do you do when you want to step up showing your love? You don’t have to go the whole pink/red flavor, but do put on a more Loving lens… Let’s commit to stepping up our Loving game every day! [To this end there is a sneak peek announcement at the end of the post!]rnr

Primary topic: Codependency

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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

HOW TO GET MORE LOVE FROM YOUR PARTNER

We are just days away from Valentine’s Day. Are you embracing the Love Month? Is your whole house decorated pink like mine is? Haha, just kidding! You believed that though, didn’t you? Yes, I’m known to be a hopeless romantic and to love the Love Season. Yes, I love the pink and the red. And yes, I love the cliché things about VDay. I don’t love the commercialization of it, and when I encourage clients, subscribers and followers to embrace VDay I’m not referring to this aspect of it. I’m referring to taking advantage of this opportunity to play with Love. Why not?

Primary topic: Codependency

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GET YOUR SWAG ON AND DAZZLE YOUR PARTNER

Romance is not just for Valentine’s Day! Romance adds spice, texture and color to life. Unfortunately, most of us don’t utilize this much in our life and relationship. We get too comfortable and busy… This is probably one of the hardest muscle to exercise unless you are in the dating world, and even then you might feel challenged. I hear all the time from my single clients (yes, I do also work with single persons and individuals on attracting love and having an awesome relationship) how difficult it is to figure out what would tickle another person.

Primary topic: Codependency

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***Do You Have the System to Meet Both of Your Needs Yet?

Being seen and accepted for who we are is a basic need that specially plays out in our relationship. I find that the driver behind most conflict and dissatisfaction in relationships has to do with the partners feeling they can't be themselves in one way or another.

Primary topic: Codependency

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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

HOW TO CRUSH TRANSITIONS

Oh boy, it’s that time of year when transitions are most prevalent. How do you manage transitions? How do you gear up for new phases, stages, developments, plans, routines, opportunities, seasons, and such?These show up in all areas of our life. Some of us do better than others at managing transitions well. Leaving something we know, or love, for something new is not always easy. Peeps who experience ADD have specially challenging times with this – switching gears is not easy.

Primary topic: Codependency

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Mastering back2school and fall hecticness

Have you decided how you want the rest of the year to go yet? Yes, this is a decision… Regardless of what the world is doing out there you still have control over your mind, your feelings, your actions, your home, your work and the rest of it… This is a hard concept for some to accept. Some might get hang up on how challenging things will be with back2school and back2hectiness regardless of what form that will take, what will happen with the election, what will happen with the economy, etc.

Primary topic: Codependency

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FLEXIBILITY ENABLES CONNECTION

It is a wonder that couples figure out how to get along and create a joint life together. Partners usually experience love, attention, intimacy, communication, conflict, money, holidays, time, space, and everything else differently. They bring to their experience their history, upbringing, culture, spirituality and many other influences. Yet, they still have one very important thing in common, their need to feel loved, valued and accepted.

Primary topic: Codependency

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Why and How to Grow Wings

I read a while ago, and found it applicable to many areas of our life, that we can handle as much as the span of your wings. I’m sure you’ve heard the saying that God, the Universe, doesn’t bestow (good or bad) onto you more than you can handle? We can use this concept well in our growth, healing and thriving Journey.

Primary topic: Codependency

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By emma-viglucciRecently published1 topic

DO YOU KNOW THAT YOU CREATE YOUR REALITY?

I know it still feels surreal that we are in the midst of a Pandemic and we are, what I’m calling, grounded… And, now that the shutdown has been extended to May 15th in our NY/NJ area, our resilience is being further tested. But, let me tell you that I’m super impressed with the stories I’m hearing from clients on how well they are managing this very stressful and uncertain time.

Primary topic: Codependency

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The Path to Passion & Synergy

The Path to Passion & Synergyr One characteristic satisfied and successful couples have in common is that they are part of each other's lives. Duh-ah! I'm sure this does not come as a surprise. The trick though is how the partners are part of each other's lives. Partners have difficulties negotiating what this means to them and integrating a healthy approach to togetherness and couplehood. Keep reading to learn more. SUCCESSFUL COUPLESr Get On the Same Page & Create a Satisfying Relationshipr Created by Emma K. Viglucci, CFT, LMFT, CITr Marriage and Family Therapist, Writer and Speakerr

Primary topic: Codependency

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Excellent communication also helps increase our bonding

Communication skills and tools are not just necessary for getting on the same page, making joint decisions and problem solving effectively. They are also indispensable for more deeply understanding each other and warmly flowing in our interactions with our partner. Excellent communication also helps increase our bonding.

Primary topic: Codependency

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Do You Want to Succeed?

Do you remember when you were a kid and wanted something really badly? Whether you nagged someone to death to get it, or tried, rehearsed, or practiced incessantly you knew what it would take to get it and went for it. As kids we knew that repeating actions got results: learning to ride a bike, swim, dive, run faster or longer, speak another language, play an instrument, make baskets, ace tests, drive, beat a game, etc. Somehow as we got older we learned to expect quick results, or give up after a couple of tries. Long gone are the days of trial and error, persistence and perseverance.

Primary topic: Codependency

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