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Transforming your year

Everyone tells you that you must have a clear vision of where you want to go and who you want to be. Not everyone tells you exactly how – and how not – to get to that vision. For example, suppose you want a life in which you are well paid and appreciated for your work. You want warm relationships and the time to pursue them. But suppose your nagging belief is that it’s simply not possible. After all, you’ve spent years piling up evidence to tell you that.

Primary topic: Life Coach and Life Coaching

Life Coach and Life Coaching

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By Lynette CraneRecently published1 topic

The Holiday Time and Energy Bandits

Time and energy bandits are habits and thought processes that can suck you dry, leaving you exhausted and harried. One of these bandits, which particularly rears its head at the holiday season, is perfectionism. Now perfectionism is a wonderful trait – in its place. Some of the places where it is advisable to practice perfectionism include brain surgery (or any kind of surgery), pharmacy, air traffic control, operation of any kind of heavy equipment, including motor vehicles, or any other activity that seriously threatens the health and safety of living things.

Primary topic: Life Coach and Life Coaching

Life Coach and Life Coaching

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By Lynette CraneRecently published1 topic

Introvert Nervousness – Friend or Foe?

“I’m now able to give a talk in public, but I’m still nervous. I guess I won’t ever get over it.” The speaker was a woman in one of my seminars, and the topic was introversion and public speaking. Her assumption was that because she was an introvert, nervousness was always there, ready to undermine her performance and her confidence, and she would never be free of that awful feeling.

Primary topic: Life Coach and Life Coaching

Life Coach and Life Coaching

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By Lynette CraneRecently published1 topic

Can an introvert have an exciting life and survive?

Yes, many do. Many do not. Performers are, surprisingly often, introverts, because performing provides a perfect platform for an introvert. A performance usually involves a structured situation with behavior that is well-rehearsed; furthermore, we can usually perform without those interruptions that force us to freeze or think too quickly, that we encounter in social situations. Many of us even learned that we could pour out our feelings and enthusiasm with a feeling of safety we never found daily life.

Primary topic: Life Coach and Life Coaching

Life Coach and Life Coaching

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By Lynette CraneRecently published1 topic

Who do you share your pain with?

We all know, intuitively, what research tells us: we need companions in life with whom to share both our joys and our pains. People who do not have anyone with whom to share tend to lead more stressful, less healthy lives. Unfortunately, not everyone is an ideal companion for such sharing. If, when you have finished sharing your information, you feel worse, that’s a clue that that person wasn’t the healthiest choice.

Primary topic: Life Coach and Life Coaching

Life Coach and Life Coaching

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By Lynette CraneRecently published1 topic

What’s the difference between problem-solving and rumination?

I had occasion to explore this issue myself this week, when I discovered that somehow my utility company had switched the account number and name on the bill it sends to my home each month. Confidently and proudly paying my bills online on the first of each month, I simply looked at the amount due, punched in the numbers, and sent the payments off, mentally dusting off my hands after a chore well done. Little did I know I was sending that amount of money into limbo.

Primary topic: Life Coach and Life Coaching

Life Coach and Life Coaching

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By Lynette CraneRecently published1 topic

You Have Got To Be Committed!

So many entrepreneurs are in for a rude awakening as they continue the search for the ‘EASY’ button. You know the ones I mean – they sign up for all the free teleclasses, free webinars, grab complimentary tickets to numerous events, subscribe to every possible newsletter out there – and still, feel stuck in their business. The ‘EASY’ button does not exist. It is just that simple. Being in business is like being in a dating relationship – it takes commitment!

Primary topic: Life Coach and Life Coaching

Life Coach and Life Coaching

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By Lynette CraneRecently published1 topic

Why Are You Running, If There’s No Prize?

I arrived home from a trip recently and observed the same scenario I see every time I travel. When I get off an airplane, I step on the moving sidewalk and rest my carry-on bag on the moving railing, stepping to the right, just as the instructions say: “stand” on the right, and “walk” on the left. I’m the only one standing. Everyone else is running. As I stand there, passenger after passenger rushes by me, dragging luggage, brushing against me, bumping into me. Many of them glare at me; some even make a remark to their companion (not to me, of course – that would be rude).

Primary topic: Life Coach and Life Coaching

Life Coach and Life Coaching

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By Lynette CraneRecently published1 topic

Who’s writing your life script?

We all live our lives based on assumptions – beliefs we are sure are true about what we are capable of doing, what is acceptable for us to do, and what we think is inevitable. So where do those assumptions come from? I thought of this while attending a play last week. The central characters were an 80-year old man and a 70-something woman, who meet in a dog park. It was sweet, it was touching … and it went nowhere. Well, actually, she went off to Milan to hear an opera at the world-famous opera house he had always dreamed of visiting, but never had. He stayed on the park bench.

Primary topic: Life Coach and Life Coaching

Life Coach and Life Coaching

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By Lynette CraneRecently published1 topic

Underlying Issues

What’s the real source of your stress? Coaches and therapists will tell you that when people are stressed or angry, what they say they are upset about and what is the real cause are two different things.

Primary topic: Life Coach and Life Coaching

Life Coach and Life Coaching

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By Lynette CraneRecently published1 topic

The “Sliding Scale” of Introversion-Extroversion

After my talks, people often come up to me and say, “I used to be an introvert – but I got over it,” or, “I’m not sure; sometimes I think I’m one thing and sometimes the other. Can you be both?” Actually, you can be both, changing from one situation to another, or changing over time from one to the other, then sliding back. That’s why I call the introversion-extroversion dimension a sliding scale.

Primary topic: Life Coach and Life Coaching

Life Coach and Life Coaching

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By Lynette CraneRecently published1 topic

How Can You Laugh When Your World Isn’t Funny?

“What do the simple folk do, to help them escape when they’re blue”, sang the King in the Broadway musical, Camelot. He felt someone had the secret, but he did not. It’s difficult to force yourself to laugh, and annoying if someone else urges you to do so when you don’t feel like it. But developing strategies to bring genuine laughter into your life can be an important part of stress management. Not only do your feelings improve; you health does, too, and your problem-solving abilities take a big step forward.

Primary topic: Life Coach and Life Coaching

Life Coach and Life Coaching

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By Lynette CraneRecently published1 topic

Want to know the best way to save your life?

If you could do one thing right now to reduce stress, would you do it? Or would your overly-crowded life – too much to do, a loved one’s demands are more important than your needs, your job requires you to keep on working so hard – take over?Well, here is the secret to a healthier, happier life: Get more sleep. Sleep well. Sleep soundly and sleep enough. It sounds simple, but it is a key element in my program and it’s something I always check with my clients at the start.

Primary topic: Life Coach and Life Coaching

Life Coach and Life Coaching

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By Lynette CraneRecently published1 topic

The Work of Worry

Does worrying ever do any good? Yes, if it means that you are planning ahead. That is the work of worry: to foresee a problem and take steps to avoid it. Whether it involves getting your car checked before a long road trip, turning off the water to the outside of your house before the big freeze sets in, or setting out a program to complete a project before a deadline, worry can be the motivator. Having taken those steps, you should be able to relax. Many people, however, continue to obsess over the possibility that something bad may happen.

Primary topic: Life Coach and Life Coaching

Life Coach and Life Coaching

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By Lynette CraneRecently published1 topic

Healthful Holiday Hints

The holidays are a particular challenge for those of us who know we must be vigilant every day to maintain our health through good eating. But everyone needs to be careful not to put on weight that is going to be hard to lose later on, or worse yet, develop a health problem. Here are some of the challenges, and how to meet them.The holiday party, with its buffet of delectable treats, many of them high-fat- cheese plates, crackers, cookies made with real butter, rich drinks such as egg nog, can be faced and handled in a healthy and satisfying way if you know how.

Primary topic: Life Coach and Life Coaching

Life Coach and Life Coaching

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By Lynette CraneRecently published1 topic

Whose Deadline Is It, Anyway?

There are real deadlines it’s important to meet: dialing 9.1.1. within seconds after witnessing symptoms of a heart attack or stroke comes to mind immediately, and an example that meets the true definition of “deadline.” Responding to the urgent request of a loved one, especially a child, or of a valued client or customer is another.

Primary topic: Life Coach and Life Coaching

Life Coach and Life Coaching

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By Lynette CraneRecently published1 topic

Take charge of your stressful assumptions

It has been said that the bulk of aggression in the world is the result of poor communication. Sometimes the wrong words are chosen; sometimes the wrong words are heard. In addition to someone producing a communication and another person hearing that communication, there is another layer: the assumptions we make about what we hear. We assume a certain intent, a possible threat, and then we create stories around what that is going to mean to us – in the future.

Primary topic: Life Coach and Life Coaching

Life Coach and Life Coaching

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By Lynette CraneRecently published1 topic

Women’s Warning Signs of a Heart Attack

The “Hollywood Heart Attack,” where the character, clutching his chest, slumps to the floor immediately, does sometimes happen. But many heart attacks do not mimic this model. In particular, women’s symptoms of heart attack may be very different from men’s in both quality and severity. It can be too easy to brush these more subtle symptoms aside; as one woman in my cardiac support group said, “Compared to childbirth, this is nothing!” But of course, they are something. And the sooner you pay attention and get help, the better the outcome.

Primary topic: Life Coach and Life Coaching

Life Coach and Life Coaching

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By Lynette CraneRecently published1 topic

The Yin, Yang and Dopamine in Relationships

Some people like to linger until the very end of a party; others like to leave early. Unfortunately, they frequently marry each other. They may very well have met and been attracted to each other because of these opposite qualities: one represents tranquility, stability, and caution, the other one represents excitement, change, and risk-taking.

Primary topic: Life Coach and Life Coaching

Life Coach and Life Coaching

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By Lynette CraneRecently published1 topic

How Guilt Undermines Your January Resolutions

A professor of mine used to remark, ”The perfectly scientific life is impossible to lead.” You will sometimes fail to follow guidelines for good health. You will feel too tired to exercise, and you may be right. You can be so tired that you are more likely to have an accident or injure yourself. Or you may be in a situation where there is little healthful food available, and you don’t like what is available. So you indulge in the delicious stuff that is available. And then you feel guilty.

Primary topic: Life Coach and Life Coaching

Life Coach and Life Coaching

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By Lynette CraneRecently published1 topic

Networking Is A Life Skill

I hear it over and over again: “I can’t network. I’m an introvert.” “I don’t know what to say.” “I don’t want to brag.” A lot of people don’t like networking, but the bulk of them seem to be introverts. I’m an introvert, too, and I’m also an entrepreneur, having to teach myself along the way how to reach out and build that body of interested people who support and buy what I do. To make it even harder, I retired in Califo ia, moved back to Minneapolis, waited a few years, and then found I wanted to start a business in a city where I had no business contacts and only one friend (a nun).

Primary topic: Life Coach and Life Coaching

Life Coach and Life Coaching

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By Lynette CraneRecently published1 topic

Why can’t you say “NO”?

I work with so many overly-busy women who are stressed beyond belief, yet they still find it difficult to say “no” to the demands that come to them from all sides. Even when they are given permission, or even urged to say no to these demands by friends, family or managers, they still find it almost impossible to open their mouths and let this sound come out. Why is this? Well, here’s one possible reason. Fear of hurting the other person or being seen as “bad” or “selfish”:

Primary topic: Life Coach and Life Coaching

Life Coach and Life Coaching

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By Lynette CraneRecently published1 topic

Business Coaching and Introverts

When you hire a business coach and develop a program or product, the first marketing instructions you get will probably be something like this: “Contact your friends, send them a warm letter, offer them your services or product, and ask them if they know people who would be interested.” Bingo! You’re on your way with a marketing list, sure to grow as your friends enthusiastically spread the word. Oh.

Primary topic: Life Coach and Life Coaching

Life Coach and Life Coaching

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By Lynette CraneRecently published1 topic

Stress and Your Health

In my last article, I talked about “stress stupidity” and how it causes us to make mistakes and lose time. It actually does more than that: A recently released Yale University study, published online the week of January 9, 2012, in the journal Biological Psychiatry, shows that stress causes the brain to shrink because the stress hormones eat away at brain tissue, literally making holes in your brain.

Primary topic: Life Coach and Life Coaching

Life Coach and Life Coaching

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By Lynette CraneRecently published1 topic

Why do some people just seem to have all the luck?

Earlier in my life, I was bemused at the sight of a number of people who had talent and persistence, but never seemed to get the break that allowed them to display that talent. At the same time, it was puzzling to see much less qualified people rise to the top. Not always, not even very often, but often enough that it was disturbing to observe. It seems as if some people just seem to waltz through life, encountering one lucky break or loving, supportive person after another.

Primary topic: Life Coach and Life Coaching

Life Coach and Life Coaching

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By Lynette CraneRecently published1 topic

Choose Your Foods and Choose Your Moods

The holidays can be a time of moods that go up and down. It’s easy to assume that changing moods are the result of what happens to you, or worse yet, just something that comes over you without any explanation whatsoever. Wouldn’t you like to have a way to choose how you feel? A way that works fairly rapidly, despite exte al stress? One way is to avoid automatic eating & drinking. Get off automatic pilot; instead, pause, think, and choose.

Primary topic: Life Coach and Life Coaching

Life Coach and Life Coaching

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By Lynette CraneRecently published1 topic

Make It Easy On Yourself

Have you ever been caught in a race that never ends: one in which the big prize at the end is as far out of reach as it is when you started, and the small rewards along the way that might sustain you have gotten to be scarcer and scarcer? Perhaps the big prize no longer seems enticing, or even appropriate, but you’ve been so busy you haven’t even noticed its allure fading.

Primary topic: Life Coach and Life Coaching

Life Coach and Life Coaching

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By Lynette CraneRecently published1 topic

Do you know where your Will Power has gone?

You know will power – that elusive stuff that other people seem to have, but you don’t? Or maybe you had a lot of it on January 1, excited by visions of a new you, but somehow the visions have gotten dimmer as the weeks have gone by. The parking lot at the fitness center was so crowded on New Year’s Day that new members circled endlessly, watching for someone to leave. (The veterans knew, grudgingly, to come early.) Soon there will be ample parking once again for the dedicated few who seem to keep going day after day, year after year, without succumbing to what I call the February Fade.

Primary topic: Life Coach and Life Coaching

Life Coach and Life Coaching

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By Lynette CraneRecently published1 topic

Rose sniffing

We had a lovely speaker return to my women’s group last week. She is an expert on women’s health, and once again she provided us with arcane and useful information that we could have gotten nowhere else. She did it with such gentle grace and humor that we felt soothed and refreshed at the end of an intense hour and a half. At the end of her talk she announced that this was her last talk. She had resigned from her job in order to have time to smell the roses. How lovely for her. How lousy for us.

Primary topic: Life Coach and Life Coaching

Life Coach and Life Coaching

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By Lynette CraneRecently published1 topic

Is Stress a Choice? Or a Habit?

We often say that stress isn’t just something that happens to you, it’s a choice you make about how to react to what happens to you. In a sense this is true, but it is an unconscious choice. You’re not only unaware that you’re making a choice, but even that there are any other options.

Primary topic: Life Coach and Life Coaching

Life Coach and Life Coaching

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By Lynette CraneRecently published1 topic

The Introvert’s Dilemma – Which door?

A friend and I had a conversation recently, in which she remarked that, when confronted with three side-by-side doors, she would always choose one of the side doors. And I thought about that, because we introverts often slide along the edges of life, skulking. I suspect many of us make these kinds of choices – to be unobtrusive.

Primary topic: Life Coach and Life Coaching

Life Coach and Life Coaching

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By Lynette CraneRecently published1 topic

Be a Good Samaritan and Reduce Your Stress

The stress response in our bodies might be thought of, from one point of view, as the result of a combat between two opposing parts of the nervous system. The sympathetic division, triggered in response to a perceived threat, is responsible for the increased heart rate, higher blood pressure, faster breathing and general inner turmoil of the stress response. Its opposite, the parasympathetic division, triggers a lower heart rate, improved digestion, muscular relaxation, and a sense of serenity.

Primary topic: Life Coach and Life Coaching

Life Coach and Life Coaching

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By Lynette CraneRecently published1 topic

The Confident Introvert Networker

Whether you are networking for business or for personal reasons, being an introvert can make the process painful. It doesn’t have to be. My interest in confidence and its opposite, social anxiety, came as the result of a painful end to a marriage in which I had become increasingly socially isolated. Finding that I had to seek new friends, I decided to go to join groups, such as alumnae groups, and go to meetings and events where I would meet people, only to find that this was very difficult.

Primary topic: Life Coach and Life Coaching

Life Coach and Life Coaching

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By Lynette CraneRecently published1 topic

What If…?

A friend and I took a lovely paddleboat ride on the Mississippi River one day, past old crumbling brick walls backed by sparkling new skyscrapers, learning a lot of history that we had never heard. The good time almost didn’t happen, due to a careless mistake on my part. That mistake did trigger some thoughts about small stresses in life, which in turn triggered this article. When I ordered the tickets for the paddleboat cruise, I was told to bring the printed order form plus a form of picture identification.

Primary topic: Life Coach and Life Coaching

Life Coach and Life Coaching

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By Lynette CraneRecently published1 topic

Are Introverts just too quiet?

I hear it often – in person, from clients, on the internet – “I’m told I’m too quiet, and need to speak out more.” I’ve had more than one client whose job review included that feedback. And the client says to me, “But I only speak when I really have something to say – and then it’s overlooked or discounted. So why bother?” Why indeed do introverts so often feel their ideas and offerings are swept aside by other, louder people? Is the ability to influence other people really based on the ability to speak louder than other people?

Primary topic: Life Coach and Life Coaching

Life Coach and Life Coaching

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By Lynette CraneRecently published1 topic

Becoming a socially connected introvert – without exhausting yourself

I read the introverts forums, I watch the comments, and I feel a little dismayed. “Why won’t people leave me alone?” “I don’t like small talk, so I avoid people.” “Being around people is just so exhausting that I spend all my free time alone.” “I hate even the thought of networking.” One gets the impression that all introverts are grumpy, asocial and even hostile to people who desire more stimulation and activity in their lives (OK, extroverts). Unfortunately, good health and success are tied to the high quality of the relationships we form. Isolation is not.

Primary topic: Life Coach and Life Coaching

Life Coach and Life Coaching

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By Lynette CraneRecently published1 topic

Hassles and the havoc they can create

In the movies, we have often seen a character receive a shock, clutch his heart, and fall to the ground in a heart attack. No one thinks life’s daily hassles are dramatic, but in fact they can be just as deadly as a major shock. Real crises, such as having your house burn down, activate the stress response. So do hassles, those little everyday life events that temporarily frustrate. They also narrow our thinking so that we believe we are in a crisis when, in fact, we are not. They are much more frequent than real crises, and their effects seem to snowball.

Primary topic: Life Coach and Life Coaching

Life Coach and Life Coaching

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By Lynette CraneRecently published1 topic

Can you change the past?

Can you go back and change the past, or are you stuck with what you remember? That’s the key: what you remember. The fact is, our brains are stuffed with memories, only some of which we retrieve, convincing ourselves we have a true and complete picture of the past when in fact we have a partial, often negative, picture of our history.

Primary topic: Life Coach and Life Coaching

Life Coach and Life Coaching

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By Lynette CraneRecently published1 topic

Bullying in the Workplace: Who Bullies Whom?

Over 40% of employees in the workplace have experienced bullying, a persistent pattern of behavior that intimidates, degrades or otherwise undermines the wellbeing of the target. Bullying is four times more prevalent than sexual abuse, and, according to a study at the University of Manitoba, the outcomes for victims of bullying are worse than are those for sexual abuse victims. So who are the bullies? And who are the targets? It’s easy to envision a quiet, introverted person as the victim of an outgoing, brash person. But it’s not that simple.

Primary topic: Life Coach and Life Coaching

Life Coach and Life Coaching

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By Lynette CraneRecently published1 topic

Are you determined not to age?

We live in a youth-oriented society, where the fastest growing group, the Baby Boomers, learned, “Never trust anyone over thirty.” They’ve probably extended that limit by now; I haven’t checked recently to see what it is. 60? 70? We see ads everywhere for products and services to erase wrinkles, get rid of flab (painlessly and quickly), and make your teeth whiter than nature intended (without giving up coffee or red wine). So let’s look at a few facts:

Primary topic: Life Coach and Life Coaching

Life Coach and Life Coaching

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By Lynette CraneRecently published1 topic

Stress – it’s a matter of choice

It’s time for a reminder about the basics of good stress management, and especially about the skills you can easily master that will make you more stress-resistant – i.e., less likely to develop a stress response that you have to “handle.” Life should be about more than just “handling” negative events; it should be about freeing you to make exhilarating choices. Over the past few decades, information on stress management has mushroomed into a huge field. Yet, with all this attention, stress hasn’t gone away; it is now estimated that 85% of sickness is due to stress.

Primary topic: Life Coach and Life Coaching

Life Coach and Life Coaching

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Are you bothered by public speaking?

Your work or life may require speaking in public. Some people think of public speaking as delivering a talk to a large audience; others think that two or more people constitute a large enough audience to be intimidating. Are you one of the rare people who is frightened of public speaking? Note the use of sarcasm here: actually public speaking has long been the #1 fear in the United States, just ahead of nuclear warfare. You are most emphatically not alone.

Primary topic: Life Coach and Life Coaching

Life Coach and Life Coaching

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Have you ever had a psychological sucker punch?

Have you ever had someone explain to you, coldly and logically, why your dream or vision is impossible, and can never come true? Well, I have. Most recently last week. As it happens, I had stopped focusing on my stress management programs during the last year, while I finished my book, The Confident Introvert, and developed programs based on it. But I went back to that topic and am now developing what I think will be a new, exciting, and very complete program, combining elements of stress and habit management that I don’t think have ever been combined in quite this way before.

Primary topic: Life Coach and Life Coaching

Life Coach and Life Coaching

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By Lynette CraneRecently published1 topic

Evaluating Other People

Build relationships and teams by giving value to your interactio This is the last of a series of articles on handling criticism constructively and without stress. Evaluating other people is something you will do all of your life, both formally, as a teacher, parent, or manager, and informally, as in personal relationships with your peers. Giving feedback to others is a skill that is really worth learning. It will make you more effective and powerful in all your relationships, particularly if you recognize that feedback isn’t always negative.

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Life Coach and Life Coaching

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Little habits can make big changes

As 2013 approached, I felt, as many do, that I was being given a clean slate, a chance to order my life better – if only I could stick to that plan. It has long been my dream to not only run my own business, meditate, and exercise daily, but also to resume practicing singing several times a week and to renew my study of French. On paper, it seemed doable. In real life, it never worked more than a day or so. Schedules slipped and slid; everything from small emergencies to illness got in the way.

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Life Coach and Life Coaching

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Just Breathing

Pause, breathe, choose: I remind my clients (and myself) of this sequence frequently, adding that the response we make to a stressful event is our choice, not a given. To reach the point where we recognize other choices, it is important to be able to distance ourselves from the world and center on our own bodies and minds. Correct breathing is the key here. If you have ever studied voice or a wind instrument, you probably know how to do this already.

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Life Coach and Life Coaching

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Are you carrying some introvert baggage?

Many people do; some of them are introverts, the others are extroverts. The basic definition of an introvert is of someone who is very sensitive to exte al stimulation and needs to withdraw periodically because our energy is depleted by too much stimulation, whereas an extrovert is someone who goes out and seeks stimulation, often social stimulation, in order to be energized. That being said, there are a lot of assumptions that go along with introversion, some of which I call “introvert baggage.” Not all of the people who carry this baggage are introverts.

Primary topic: Life Coach and Life Coaching

Life Coach and Life Coaching

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What do you say to a Dementor?

In my last article, “Watch who you share your pain with,” I described several kinds of people who only make your pain worse by saying the wrong things. I call them, collectively, Dementors, familiar to Harry Potter fans as creatures who suck all hope out of you. They may magnify your tiny symptom into sure death, or seemingly provide incontrovertible evidence that your dreams can never succeed.

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Life Coach and Life Coaching

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How A Little Stress Leads to More Stress …and what to do about it

A little stress goes a long way, because it leads to more stress, until you don’t know how to stop the whole process. But there is some good news. An estimated 10% of stress is due to what happens to us such as job loss, accidents, major damage to our home, to ourselves or to a loved one. Here’s the good news, though: 90% of stress is created by our reaction to that 10%! And those reactions can be under your control. Here are some of the ways stress leads to more stress:

Primary topic: Life Coach and Life Coaching

Life Coach and Life Coaching

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No Fault De-Stressing

85% of major illness is now attributed to stress. The figure is alarming because it implies that the responsibility for our well-being lies directly in our own hands, as in a way it does. People who already have a major illness feel dismayed, and even angry, about the new emphasis on “positive psychology,” and the idea that our beliefs and moods can affect our physical health dramatically. They feel “blamed.”

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Life Coach and Life Coaching

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