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There are five steps that I say will help you to eliminate your anxiety. After working with more than 8,000 people and coaching them on a weekly basis to live in states of happiness and peace, and succeed at the highest levels, I can tell you, I’ve dealt with a lot of people with anxiety.
The energy generated from fear, stress and upset is the energy of force. Force takes incredible amounts of energy to exert and therefore it does not have lasting power and it drains you of your own life force. The problem is that most everyone was conditioned with force. Get to school on time ...
Executive Leadership Coaching removes all the barriers to inspiration. When the leader is inspired, the energy of that inspiration pours through and energizes the entire company. Results naturally skyrocket. Executive leadership coaching is a powerful tool for creating that energy and inspiration. It is about designing a collective future for the company that is so inspiring that the entire company – all of the employees, all of the players – can step into that future and take action in alignment with that future.
What you want always manifests. And better then you could have expected. Sounds great doesn’t it...But the reality is, THE DRUNK MONKEY CAN’T STAND THAT. Warning! Warning! Warning! Monkey Alert!!!! Your mind thinks it is psychic and can predict the future...so when you take an ...
When I have clients who are feeling sorry for themselves, I pose the question “If Picasso were in jail, would he still create?” Some say, “No, he wouldn’t.” Others say “If Picasso was in jail, he wouldn’t be able to create the same way, and therefore his creations would not be of the same quality.” These people assume his paintings in jail would be less valuable than other paintings.
Every one of these experiences helps us make new decisions about the world, our desires, and the meaning of life itself. Taking this into account, you now realize that there are no two beings that have had the same experiences. No two people, in other words, live in the same world as you do. In ...
I received this question from a client… “I was in bed thinking about my 5-year-old and the problems he is having with interpersonal relationships at school and a little bit with his nanny. He seems to talk back and he can be a tyrant. Also he is not quite a big follower of authority. I know sometimes he says to me you don’t think I am smart, so obviously this is in his mind.
I’ve got a group of people working with me in my Transforming Fear into Action Class. Their assignment is to think of four outrageous actions that would catapult their life forward. Many were having troubles, even after we went through their entire life, rated their level of satisfaction in each category of life and identified what would make life a 10 in that area. So, here are some ideas on outrageous things you could do this week that would terrify The Drunk Monkey and give yourself an opportunity to see your machine in action.
Prosperity is often associated with money. The more money you have, the more prosperous you become. This has become a common belief that is false. Most of our lives, we have been taught by the our instinct and society to be "go-getters"; meaning, we have been taught to always grab the opportunity to make money as much as we can to have a prosperous living. But for most people who believe in this, seem to have the opposite situation of what they want, resulting to depression and regret. In order to turn your life around now, let us define first prosperity.
Because of the nature of my training and coaching programs, many of my clients come to me with a very spiritual perspective on things. The promise of a spiritual perspective is that you will feel more connected, more loved, more joyous, and feel a sense of oneness. Yet, many spiritual people DO NOT have an abundance of these experiences. In fact, most of the spiritual people I meet have pretty sucky lives. And guess what, I’ve been there too.
When you get the vital difference between power and force, you will engage in a process that will assist you in releasing fear and unlocking unexplainable joy. As you let go of forcing your life, living with “have to do” and “need to do” you suddenly discover that ...
In very simple terms, “You hold your spouse accountable to agreements they never made!” We all experience that intense burst of chemicals in our body during the first 18 months of the relationship. The phrase “Love is Blind” refers to that period in the relationship when we are obsessed with the other person and can not see all the attributes which will later be conflicting. This is the universes way of making sure we mate! Next we decide to dedicate our lives to each other to hold on to that feeling. We are all disappointed when the feeling doesn’t laugh.
Today I received a wonderful testimonial from Jennifer about how controlling her Drunk Monkey positively impacted her marriage. “I am writing this to anyone interested in creating a relationship beyond your wildest dreams & the affect of working with Matthew Ferry has had for our family –in particular in the area of relationship.
A client read my 2009 Prophecy Letter recently and was perplexed by this statement that I’d made in the letter. “I have really mastered the use of negative experiences to my advantage. I can see more clearly then ever that negativity is awesome! So much good happens when something bad happens. So many new opportunities come out of the chaos and destruction.” He asks, “How can I benefit from my negative experiences. Since my mind focuses on these – maybe I can use them to my advantage?” In the end negativity is very very positive. It is where growth occurs.
I recently confronted my client on the fact that she made me a promise and didn’t keep it. Rather then owning it, and simply saying, “You are right, I said I would and I didn’t.” … she did what most powerful people do; She used her enormous power to try and manipulate me into believing that her mediocre try was her best effort. I didn’t buy it. Her tactic was a classic way powerful people screw themselves over and stay small and unfulfilled. Why Use Temper Tantrums Vs. Just Being Honest? Temper tantrums are like sugar.
A lot of my clients come to me and they’re just like the rest of us; they have a big life. They’re up to things and they’re taking things on. When you get a lot of projects going, it’s so easy to get stressed. There are physical ways to combat stress. There’s exercise, diet, meditation, things like that. 100 percent, yes. Do all that. But I’m not going to focus on those. The most effective way to combat stress is just to realize that stress is an illegitimate response to danger that doesn’t even exist in your life.
As a life coach, my job is to help you remove barriers to happiness and success. One big barrier is your mind. I often ask my new clients, “Have you ever considered that your mind is not your friend?” Most are stunned by the idea of it. Your mind, which I call The Drunk Monkey, is just a biological mechanism designed to keep you alive longer. Your mind's job is to help you to avoid danger or become better.
Tonight was a powerful reminder to keep my emotions under control I allowed The Drunk Monkey to derail my emotions and i suddenly found myself stopped at every step of my trip. When I finally released my resistance, the results were magical. Heres what happened. I arrived at the airport later then I would like (45 min till take off). I was nervous about missing my flight. Not a great feeling of ease and allowing, which is my practiced state.
I completed my first marathon back in 1999 and I remember calling my mom and saying to her, “Oh my gosh! I completed my first marathon! It’s such a victory! It’s so amazing!” And she’s like, “It is! It’s huge! It’s so amazing, congratulations!” And I said, “Yes, especially since my knee has been hurt ever since I was a young kid.” And she’s like, “Really? Your knee was hurt? How was your knee hurt?” And I’m like, “Mom, my knee, remember?
One source of immeasurable misery in relationships is thinking that the past will repeat itself. Sorry… People have changed, life is different, and nothing is the same today as it was yesterday. WARNING! Listen to The Drunk Monkey in your head. Mine says “Matthew Ferry, you are insane! There are many things the same today as yesterday you noodle head!” Look again. Everything is slowly changing, eroding, degrading, evolving, emerging and transforming. Especially people.
In life coaching, your coach simply wants the best for you. But your mind is not designed for change. Your mind is designed to keep things the same. Your mind is designed to keep things going in a similar direction, because your mind is designed to keep you safe. The problem is that when you make safe decisions, you are not changing. You are limiting yourself to experiences that will not lift you into the life of your dreams. The fabulous experiences you can experience will occur when you step outside of this safety zone.
Have you ever driven to a sales appointment with your mind focused on how badly the market is doing? Have you driven to a sales appointment harried, exhausted and unsure of your ability to close the deal, even though you have sold your product for years?
Simple : Just keep doing what you are doing. Manifesting is not think and wait. When Law of Attraction is moving successfully in your life, you are in action. You are alive. You are inspired.
As an Inspired Action life coach, I support people with the process of transmuting their anger and moving back towards being happy, positive, fulfilled, and satisfied. This is not always easy to do, but many successfully happy people have created strategies that assist them in moving out of the anger and back to happiness again. Here are three of those strategies.
What makes you nervous? Usually its some future The Drunk Monkey in your head is obsessing over. The way to get relaxed is to see it for what it is. The Drunk Monkey in your head, all that talking is just trying to keep you alive longer by avoiding potentially negative experiences. This is great! Good Job Monkey! The problem happens when it fantasizes about negative futures that don’t even exist. Or when it compares you to some elisive set of standards that don’t exist.
As an Inspired Action life coach, my job is to support my clients in living a life of happiness, joy, peace, and most importantly, bliss. The dictionary defines bliss as supreme happiness. Most people don't have an experience with bliss. Most people don't know what bliss even is. It is that state of loving life so deeply, so turned on, so much amazement about life, that you can hardly stand it. You are nearly brought to tears of joy in the moment, as you recognize how amazing your experience of life is. Bliss is what happens when you follow the inspired action life coaching process.
Getting a job will not make you happy. I know many of you think that it will, but it won’t. In fact, I was reading a survey done by Deliotte Shift. It was a index survey, and they discovered that eight percent of the people who are employed today are dissatisfied with their job. Why? Because happiness is not a set of circumstances, happiness is a skill set that you take on. It’s a set of disciplines. It’s a discipline of being optimistic. That’s a discipline.
Two months ago I published 10 ways you let fear get a hold of you. I continue this exploration with 9 Conditions of Fear. As a Life Coach, my intention is to demonstrate the conditions that make fear more favorable. In phase III of the Inspired Action Coaching process my coaches and I work with people to shift the conditions of life to support happiness and success. Consider this idea, “Your environment dictates who you are!” Most people have allowed the conditions of their life to set themselves up. Rather than being deliberate, they are accidental.
As a child, whenever you were given something tangible (gifts) or intangible (compliments), you were taught to always acknowledge it by saying 'thanks' or 'thank you' because it was the right thing to do. You were being polite. But did you know that being thankful or grateful has other effects on the body as well? Research has shown that gratefulness is good for your health and mental well-being.
As a life coach I focus on a process I call, “Radical Responsibility”. It’s a term I borrowed from my mentor, Dr. David Hawkins author of Power vs. Force. It is the antithesis of being a Victim. Instead of asking, “Why is this happening to me?” you ask, “How am I causing this?” In truth neither question is better or worse, they just give you a different experience of your life. When you ask, “Why is this happening to me?” you are basically saying that there is a world out there that I have to deal with and I don’t like it.
People who are inspired seem to take action effortlessly while those who are not have to figure out a way motivate themselves into action. If things come easy you are inspired. If things are difficult you are not. If things are not coming easily, it’s probably because you are not inspired by what you are doing. Consider, if you are not inspired to do something it’s because you are not really interested in it. I often discover in the coaching process that people who have to force something to happen are trying to prove something to other people by taking the action.
Counting your blessings each day is essential for positive growth. God/Source/Universe is happy to provide for you as long as you are happy about what you already have. If you are dissatisfied with your current situation, that energy muddles up your intentions. The more dissatisfied you are, the more you get what dissatisfies you. Remember, this is an attraction-based universe.
When you spot something synchronistic acknowledge it. Get yourself in high alert today. Be alert to the miracles that are happening. Notice how you think of people and they call. You think about something and it happens. You have this power. You have the power to influence reality. When ...
I’m sitting in row 20 seat E. That’s the middle seat at the back of the plane. This morning, not knowing what seat my assistant had booked me for this trip I wrote in my intentions, rather spontaneously, “I am so thankful to the universe for providing me with first class seats on the way up and back to Seattle this week… or something better!” This isn’t normally something I spend too much time manifesting as I practice being in a state of Ridiculous Bliss where ever I am, regardless of the circumstances. But I know what my clients would say, “Where is your manifesting now Mr.
I answered this on Yahoo Answers and I thought you might enjoy my thoughts.
There are six billion people on this planet. Every single person has a completely different perspective. You know that every single person has had billions of experiences. Experience shapes our opinions, judgments, ideals, preferences, and ultimately our view of life. Every one of these ...
Do you find yourself always saying 'yes' to other people's requests? Are you up to your eyes doing errands for others because you just cannot turn them down and say 'no'? Looking back on your life and the decisions you made in the past, Have you pursued a path – career or personal – that was different from what you wanted simply because that's what was expected of you? If you answered yes to the above then you, and several hundreds of thousands of people in this world, have a stronger than normal desire to please others over yourself.
The Drunk Monkey (your mind) is a survival machine. It’s job is to protect you from possible destruction. Therefore, it is totally addicted to the news. The news organizations have realized that sensationalized news hooks their viewers Drunk Monkeys. The news has no commitment to truth. It has a commitment to making money which means “selling advertising”. The more viewers the news organizations have, the more money these companies make. Clearly, there is a natural pull towards the sensational verses the truth.
I’m sitting in row 20 seat E. That’s the middle seat at the back of the plane. This morning, not knowing what seat my assistant had booked me for this trip I wrote in my intentions, rather spontaneously, “I am so thankful to the universe for providing me with first class seats on the way up and back to Seattle this week… or something better!”
As a life coach, my job is to support my clients in getting inspired and empowered to take action on their most cherished dreams. Fear gets in the way.
You are a practicing Being Unstoppable! You are someone committed to having it all…right? You want the money, you want the freedom, and you want the joy of existence…you want to be inspired and in action on your dreams…feeling the exhilaration of being a fully engaged adult on ...
As an executive coach, I notice one shift in mindset can translate to amazing results. As a life coach, I see people experiencing so much joy, love, peace and happiness in all areas of their lives – business, home, relationships with others, health. Setting the Law of Attraction into motion to achieve what you want can be a powerful force along this path. And I know this, and still I myself make mistakes. sr I made some big mistakes last year and I want to share the results with you.
What is The Contribution Game? How will it manifest my desires? Who Will You Meet Today?
My clients are generally the biggest of the big in their respective industries. Each of them has created massive success. Yet the process they used to get there often seems inapplicable to the other aspects of life like happiness or peace. The process is the same. You must create structures, systems, disciplines and processes that make your happiness automatic. Here are three tips that will start you on this process. 1. Gratitude. The Drunk Monkey (my nickname for the mind) is designed to look for what is wrong and try to fix it, kill it or avoid it.
How do you love the work that you do? So often the work that you are doing doesn’t feel like it is necessarily your life’s purpose. And yet, you were drawn to this work. If you’re interested in finding work that is your life purpose, and you don’t feel like you are there yet, there is a way to get there. You need to actually begin to accept, appreciate, and honor the work that you do.
I answered this on Yahoo Answers and I thought you might enjoy my thoughts. “A friend recently introduced me to The Secret: Law of attraction, a concept I found extremely interesting. Upon further research, I found that it is strongly linked with the new thought movement. Both of these concepts believe that everything in our lives is attracted to us via our thoughts, so illness comes from negative thoughts.
Last night I had one of those nights where my mind worried. Using my techniques I didn’t pay much attention. But I use to get gripped by the madness. Laying there not able to do anything about any conce because it’s midnight, I’m in my PJ’s and I’m trying to go to sleep for god sake!.
So what actions can you take today to immediately take advantage of the power of gratitude? The first thing that I’d recommend is something that I recommend to all of my coaching students when they come to me. That is the 10/10 visualization process. I’ve coached 8,000 people over the years, and most of them have come to me in some sort of stuck state. That’s generally where people come to me. They’re stuck in some way, and one of the quickest ways to get unstuck is through a process of gratitude and visioning, and that’s what the 10/10 visualization is.
As an Inspired Action life coach, my job is to assist my clients in action on their goals and dreams. This is not easy to do because most people have been trained to motivate themselves to take action. The problem is that motivation doesn't last. Motivation is like utilizing sugar in your body. It’s good for a short burst but it’s not sustainable energy.
Visualizing has been taken out of context. The many great men and women who told us about visualizing produced spectacular results. Taken out of context people began to assume that if you visualize, then you will get those results too. Not true. Visualizing is the beginning of the creation process but it is not a magic answer. When mega producers, elite athletes, and genius’ of the past have espoused the power of visualizing, they included it as a part of their process. Not the whole process. It’s the beginning of something you are going to create. Everything begins in the mind.