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Be the Butterfly

Over the past two years, I’ve used various activities to cope with my divorce: yoga, meditation, coffee dates with friends, workshops and the OJC retreat, etc. One simple, yet effective coping mechanism has been inspirational quotes taped to my bathroom mirror. They change periodically depending on my current state of mind and emotions. The first themes were attempts to stay positive in the face of all the changes and struggles. The quotes were reminders that when things felt out of control around me, I still had control over my attitude and actions.

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Rejection as a Step Forward

We can't talk about dating without mentioning the ‘R’ word: Rejection. It’s a basic fear that prevents many people from putting themselves out there. No one wants to feel rejected, unloved, or worse, unlovable. It’s easy to feel stung, or rejected, when we reach out to someone to invite a deeper connection and they do not share our desire. Sometimes it’s easier to simply protect ourselves, and not expose, what we perceive is our hearts, to the humiliation of having our advances spu ed or not embraced.

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3 Financial Steps to Take Before Your Wedding Day

Summer is for weddings, not divorces. But since approximately 10% of marriages fail during the first five years, and 25% don't make it to their 10th anniversary, (according to the U.S. Census Bureau), couples should be proactive and do some financial planning in advance just in case married life is short-lived. If you are getting married soon, here are 3 simple steps you can take now to protect yourself financially if you face a future divorce. If your marriage works out, these strategies are smart fiscal practices that will benefit you and your family throughout the years.

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Alimony and Estimated Tax Payments

As she stood at the mailbox, Suzanne's face went pale when she saw the return address: Department of the United States Treasury, Internal Revenue Service, Official Business. A chill traveled down her spine, a feeling that reminded her of the day she stood in front of the judge as he finalized her divorce. That was 18 months ago, yet it felt like yesterday. Trying not to panic, Suzanne nervously tucked the letter behind her bundle of junk mail as she walked back into the house. Her thoughts raced. What now? Am being audited? I never handled the tax returns!

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Creating Your Best Life

At the recent event, “A Woman’s Day of Inspiration and Joy”, my topic was “Creating Your Best Life”, and in preparation for that day, I spent time thinking about how that might happen. Then I realized there were only two simple steps to acquiring the life of your wildest dreams…a life filled with joy, passion, excitement and success. You have to: 1. Want it for yourself 2. Believe you are worthy of it Very Simple. Then why can’t we do it? What stops us? What do we need to do to succeed at these two steps?

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Your Holiday List

Lately I’ve been reading a lot about the holidays: what to cook, how to decorate, what to buy (and what to ask for…). And gradually it dawned on me -- these articles are all about what to do for others, or what to ask others to do for you! Don’t get me wrong – I think “doing for others” is generous and noble and kind. Problem is, when you’re going through a divorce, there’s likely to be a whole lot of “doing for others”, and usually not an “Other” to do for you.

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Divorce and Term Life Insurance: Avoid These Three Common Mistakes!

Most divorce agreements require that one divorced spouse, usually the one paying child support or alimony, maintain a certain amount of life insurance on themselves to protect the financial future of their ex should they die before their financial obligations terminate. But like many provisions, such as dividing retirement funds or selling the house, fulfilling the terms of the agreement happens after the divorce is already final. What if you discover that your ex can't get life insurance because of his health or that the policy has lapsed?

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Are You Ready for Love Again

After a divorce or break-up of a significant relationship, you may wonder when the time is right to “get back in the game” of dating. Begin too soon and you will destine yourself to repeat the mistakes of your past. Wait too long and you may find yourself settling for the familiar (but unsatisfying) habits of solitary life. Timing is important. Usually, when a person jumps into dating soon after ending a relationship, it signals an attempt to avoid the pain of the current break-up. This is very normal, and in fact, it is often encouraged by friends and family.

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The Four Keys to Flirting with Heart

‘Flirting with heart’ is an expression to describe the conscious way of meeting others, expressing attraction and begin dating! There are no rules to follow and no specific expectations to meet....except one: be in your heart and your light will shine. This light - self-confidence - is what men call SEXY! Conscious flirting and dating, leading with your heart (balanced with your astute mind) is more fun than the traditional style of dating, and it yields much better results!

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What is Energy Healing?

Q. Why do people come to you for healing? A. For any reason....to release emotional heaviness, get clearer on life purpose or goals, release past trauma, minimize physical pain or discomfort, heal through forgiveness, maintain balance, bring in joy, or be in a steady place of openness, self acceptance, inner peace. Q. How does healing work?r

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The Joy of Knowing You

~I feel good being with you. ~I like how I feel in your presence. ~Just sitting beside you nourishes me. ~Knowing you are in the next room provides me comfort and security. ~Even when you are not physically with me, I feel your presence around me and I smile. ~When I close my eyes, I still see you and I feel fulfilled. ~When I am hurting, I see the hurt in your eyes too, you feel my pain and move toward me to soothe it. ~I am content knowing you are happy. ~Long after we part, I reflect on our conversation and I feel myself growing in a positive way.

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Financial Facts Behind Divorce

While it may seem counter-intuitive, the more common divorce becomes, the more complicated it gets. One might expect that because about half of today’s first marriages end in divorce (and around 60 percent of second marriages) the law, the process, even the outcome would become standardized, predictable even. Yet nothing could be farther from the truth.

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The Joy of Faith

Every Sunday morning I feel such joy as I hold hands with my son on his way to Sunday school. We walk together smiling; he is excited to be there and I am peacefully happy giving this gift to my son. Faith. Not important to me what faith community you are connected to nor how you worship. Just simply having faith is good for your soul. Is your faith strong? What source do you pull from when times are tough? When life unexpectedly throws you curveballs, do you sit in silent prayer and ask for strength? Or is it a simply mantra that you repeat over and over.

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Neutrality Allows Us to See Bugs as Bugs

As a kid I grew up on a dead end street with acres of woods behind me. I used to go out into the woods and explore. I admired the lady slippers growing wild, the scent of the land and leaves. Often I would roll over a rock to see if there were bugs unde eath. When there were bugs, I loved to see them scurry when the lid of their home uncovered them. If I lifted a rock and there were no bugs, I was disappointed in the lack of activity.

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C'mon Join the Joy Ride

"Any idiot can face a crisis- it's this day-to-day living that wears you out," said the Russian Playwright, Anton Chekhov. Day to day living can wear you out, for many it is filled with the same old routine- the bills, the kids and their homework, the laundry, and the list goes on and on. How to make those days feel less ordinary and more joyful you ask? Well for starters try some of these ideas: 1. Laugh every day. Call a friend and be silly. Laugh at how awful your day is going. Laughing is a known stress reducer!

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It's All in the Company You Keep

Friends, wonderful friends! They uplift, console, and understand you. They add joy to your life and give you confidence to take the risk of making your dreams come true. They offer a softer place to land when life throws you unexpected curve balls. When you leave the company of such friends you feel full and content. Your soul has been nourished, even if it was just a quick hour and a hot cup of coffee. My day was once made lighter and more joyful after an unexpected hug from a friend in the parking lot of my daughter's daycare.

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Missed Connections

I remember, during those long years when my marriage was unraveling, thinking that my then-husband had an “issue” with emotional intimacy. At the time, it was much easier to point the finger of blame in his direction. Now, ten years and a lot of therapy later, I can see a bit more clearly that the problem was not just his. Yes, despite my deep desire for an emotional connection with him, I played a role in our lack of it.

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Co-creating Love

A dream of relationships imaging co-creating from the pure “seed” of love. Surrounded and supported through hopes and dreams working through the imagination to allow the Space of love, from the pure intent of all that Love is and what Love is to teach you. You see you create to see, feel and learn about what Love feels like to you.

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In Our Silence Our Dreams are Manifested

“I want to know if you can be alone with yourself and if you truly like the company you keep in the empty moments” as stated by Oriah in her book “The Invitation”. Have the courage to sit alone and look deep within yourself. Sit with your own company and be still? Await the words of the heart? What dreams have you put on the back burner? What do you wish for? What goals are you ready to pursue? Do you even know for sure which direction to go in? If you don't know the answers to these questions, do not worry. You only have to take simple steps to find them.

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Social Networking in a Nutshell

Getting 'friended'. Sending Tweets. Linking up. There is no doubt that the world of social networking sites is a great way to make connections. In no time at all, you can build a list of hundreds, even thousands, of potential new clients that are not limited by geography (which is essential if you are developing podcasts or selling downloads online). Then you can promote your services all over the world for nothing! Yes, nothing! Have I explained that FREE is my favorite word, especially when it comes to marketing!

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Having the Courage to Die

What is she talking about now? I can hear you all saying it out loud. Well, let me explain what I mean by having the courage to die. I have talked before about the many parts of self- there is so much that makes us who and what we think we are. There is our negative ego, our younger self, adolescent self, young adult, our past perception of memories, our parents’ influences, teachers, friends, siblings, well you get the point. There comes a point in one’s life when we are faced with the questions…Is this what life is all about?

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Newly Single and the Holidays

For those going through or recently divorced, the holidays add another layer of stress and anxiety: Will I need to interact with my ex? How do I handle the questions and advice from my family? How will I cope with being alone? How do I help my children through this time? This holiday season you may be feeling apprehensive about how to navigate these next few months. Finances may be uncertain, family relationships may be strained, friendships may be undependable. The traditions you’ve enjoyed as a family will no longer be a part of your life.

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Are You a Survivor or Enhancer?

When Theresa’s husband of 15 years announced he wanted a divorce, she was devastated. She says, “I couldn’t believe Alex threw our life away. But I’m strong- I got through it. I’ve moved on and put it behind me.” But has she? Six years later, Theresa and Alex “parallel-parent”, each doing as they wish with little communication between them. When asked about Alex, Theresa becomes tight-lipped and drawn. She still blames him. Now remarried, she and her new husband, Tad, have a good relationship, but they fight about the same issues that plagued her first marriage.

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Something in the Mist

A major shift is happening; I can feel it within and see it throughout my reality. Seems everyone is fighting with all they have to hold on to stuff that just doesn’t fit anymore. I notice the turmoil as they fight their negative ego’s voice, telling them fight harder or you will lose everything. This is a lie of course.

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Twitter 101

Twitter has become one of the most popular social networking sites, mostly due to its ease of maintenance and simple, direct approach. All it entails is the submission of less than 140 characters, push of the enter key and your news, website, press release, etc. is tweeted to all of your followers. Piece of cake, right? Yes, but only after you learn the language, rules and landscape of the Tworld. Otherwise, it's a foreign land. Here is the 'Twrommer's Guide' to using Twitter: - Since you only have 140 characters, you'll want to conserve space by shortening those long and unruly URLs.

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Curious Conversing

Flirting is an activity that sometimes ripples with powerful emotional electricity. It usually starts with a visual- we see someone who looks attractive and piques our interest. Then hopefully, we are inspired to approach that person and ask or share unusual things about ourselves. It can seem intimidating, that first conversation, but nothing helps this process better than giving in to two of humanity’s most enduring and endearing features: our natural curiosity and desire to talk about ourselves.

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mmm...Sound Healing

Those of you who came to the sound healing and 8th chakra event last month in Salem experienced a way of healing in a category all it's own...sound healing. With us that night was cellist Clarence Dow and Didgeridoo player Dave Estes. Following an opening song by Martha Lovely, Judy, Clarence and Dave began playing together with the intention of lifting everyone's energy to a new state of openness, awareness and divine expansion. The evening was a blessing for all of us.

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The Post-Divorce Name Game

In American culture, assuming your new husband’s family name when you get married is an exciting rite of passage. It’s something many women longed for as young girls- creatively covering notebooks with signatures, adding the surname of the latest crush. When you sign your new legal name for the first time, you feel grown up, like a proper married woman.

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Say No to More Commitments and Say Yes to You

When you are desperate for time to yourself and you feel way out of balance in your life, it is time to start saying no! No, I can't do it. No, I'm sorry, but I can't help you. No, I can't stay late tonight and work. No, I can't come in on my day off. Say no. Say it frequently. Say it often. Don't give away all of yourself. Keep some energy. People might not understand or even like it; they may even accuse you of being selfish. But do it anyway.

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Tantra as a Key to Finding Love

In this new age of psychobabble, open sexual expression, and deeply rooted need for healing the Earth and ourselves, Tantra is a perfect practice for finding love. Unfortunately, it is so misunderstood. Contrary to popular belief, Tantra is not sex and sex is not necessarily Tantric- yet sex is a fundamental piece of the puzzle. To put it simply, the practice of Tantra meets sexuality at the cross road with the Divine. These practices can support you in finding love in every moment ‘and’ in finding your Beloved.

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Divorced and Retired: Don't Forget the Social Security Benefits

64 years old, unemployed and closing the book on a 26 year marriage, Beverly needed to make sure that she had explored all of her financial options. She was coming in out of the dark, because during the entire time she had been married, she had never closely managed her finances. As her divorce financial planner, my first instinct was to ensure that Beverly was going to receive Social Security benefits that were due her even after the breakup of the marriage. This is a subject that is often overlooked in divorce discussions when emotions are running high.

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Spring Cleaning

I love spring. Who doesn’t? One of the things I love about spring is that I get to clean out my closets and dressers, deep clean my bathrooms and kitchen… throwing myself into that yearly ritual of getting rid of what doesn’t fit me or my life any longer in order to make room for the possibility of something different… a new pair of shoes, a new arm chair for the family room… a new life? A few weeks ago, my colleague and I spent the weekend designing our upcoming spring retreat for separated and divorced women, the theme of which is From Pain to Peace: A Journey to Acceptance.

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What Makes An Excellent Flirt?

What makes an excellent flirt? What do you think of when you imagine yourself in a situation where you are getting ready to flirt with someone? What do you notice inside yourself in those moments? What do you feel self-confident about and where do you feel you need help? Here are some things to think about: - Flirting is a form communication that verbally and non-verbally expresses your interest in the 'beautiful person' in front of you. Excellent flirting requires excellent communication skills. Words are a flirtatious woman's best friend.

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The Three Myths of Flirting

ANYONE can be successful at flirting and dating, however there are certain misconceptions that you must overcome in order to flirt effectively and naturally. After all, isn’t the goal of flirting to improve not only the number of dates you have ahead of you…but also the quality, strength and depth of the connections? Here are some myths that once you overcome, will allow you to be yourself and lead with your heart in order to attract that special person and create a long-lasting relationship. THE 3 MYTHS OF FLIRTING 1.

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But I Didn't Want to Hurt You

I often hear this from clients: “I didn’t tell my wife I was unhappy because I didn’t want to hurt her.” “I haven’t told my children I’m sick because I don’t want them to worry.” “I can’t tell my boyfriend I want to see other people because he’d be upset.” In other words: “I can’t tell you the truth because I don’t want to hurt you . . .” You have probably used this reasoning yourself, as justification for not speaking your truth. I know I have. The irony is that in trying to “protect you” by not speaking my truth, I am lying to you.

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Embodiment: A Spiritual View

For some reaso I’ve been thinking about the notion of “embodiment” lately. Some of this is from the walks in the woods…which propelled me to blog to begin with. The moment I enter the woods, at Steer Swamp in Marblehead…the trees enfold me. The leaves below cushion me. The branches beside me embrace me. I’ve become part of their community. A guest…more than a visitor. An observer, appreciator. What comes to mind when I visit the woods is the zen koan that goes something like…if there is no one in the woods to hear a tree fall, does the tree make noise?

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A Week in the Life of ADHD

Do you know someone who is frequently late or forgetful? Corners the market on forgotten birthday apologies, or struggles chaotically with the demanding needs of their overly busy world? This week, I lovingly tell a real-life adult-with-ADHD story, so that perhaps others can understand and appreciate the whirlwind of our days. The best laid plans, the chaos, the putting out fires, the procrastination and barely making deadlines. Meet Catherine, and see if she sounds familiar to you…

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How You Do Anything

Two significant things have happened to me in this last year. I turned 50 and I began working with my own business/life coach. Both have me thinking more about where I am in my life and my work. What I want to change…what I am satisfied with. Up until about six months ago I had been fairly content with how I was serving the ADHD community. I had been specializing in working with people with ADHD for nearly nine years, I had established a good reputation, had steady referrals and was contributing to ADHD awareness in many ways. However, I had a gnawing feeling it wasn’t enough.

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The Relationship Dance

We’ve all experienced the dance of a relationship – whether it’s an intimate partnership, a friendship, or a work relationship – together choreographing those steps that over time develop into an established routine. Sometimes the steps are smooth and coordinated with the other partner, and the dance has a flow and ease to it. Sometimes, the steps are awkward or unbalanced, and the dance is clumsy, or worse, difficult and painful.

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How Wonderful the Feeling of a Woman...

How wonderful the feeling of a woman who is full, who is content, who feels worthy and who makes the right choices How wonderful the feeling of a woman who makes the right decisions, who believes in her strengths, her capabilities and doesn’t spend much time trying to correct her weaknesses How wonderful the feeling of a woman who capitalizes on her strengths, who doesn’t let the past define her, who doesn’t try to be better than anyone else in her life

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Something Happens in the Presence of Love

On the way to my healing room from the teaching space there is a stylized plaque I purchased at Kripalu that says “Love Heals.” I hung it at the entryway to affirm to all who enter my healing room who the true source of healing is. Something happens in the presence of love. There is an increased ability to trust, surrender, let go and release.

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The Circle of Time

If you drew a big circle on a piece of paper and I asked you to divide it up like a pie, each slice representing how you spend your time, would there be nice big chunks of pie devoted to REST, RELAXATION, REFLECTION, RECREATION???? When I do this exercise with people, the majority of them have way too much time devoted to work, chores and responsibilities and not enough time devoted to those four R’s (as introduced in the book The Inner Game of Stress by T. Gallwey). Where is the balance?

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Making Room

You have to be willing to let go of the life you’ve planned in order to have the life you were meant to have. rn~ Joseph Campbell This week, while my boys are with their dad on a fancy Caribbean cruise, I will be home, cleaning my house from top to bottom, inside and out, in that yearly ritual of soap and obsession called Spring Cleaning. I’m actually not bitter. Okay, I’d love to be on a Caribbean cruise, that’s true. But I also really love the sense of new beginnings that results from this yearly process.

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Effect of Divorce on the Family Business

It is an unfortunate American reality that half of all first marriages and nearly 60% of second marriages end in divorce. When business partners divorce, the financial and emotional challenges become more complex. In addition to negotiating the separation agreement, dividing marital assets, assessing liabilities, and determining support arrangements, they must address the myriad issues involving the valuation of their business and succession planning.r

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