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Critical Thinking: Was George Orwell A Prophet?

Nowadays, George Orwell or 1984 is often mentioned when it comes to what is taking place in the world. The reason for this is that today’s world is becoming more oppressive as time goes by. In the book, he goes into great detail to illustrate what it is like to live under a totalitarian regime, and it is clear that this is anything but pleasant. One of the lines from the book that is routinely referred to is, “In times of universal deceit, telling the truth is a revolutionary act”. Another Meaning

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Relationships: Why Do Some People Expect Their Partner To Meet All Of Their Needs?

If a few hundred people were asked about what the purpose of an intimate relationship is, there is likely to be more than one answer. For some people, being in an intimate relationship could be a way for them to fulfil their basic needs, to have someone to share their life, and to grow. When someone has this outlook, it could show that they don’t feel as though they are missing something. Another person is then not there to complete them; they are there to complement them. A Companion

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“Don’t Just Be Another Brick In The Wall!”

Towards the end of 2003, I went to a number of different countries, and one of the countries that I visited was Australia. But while I was going to another country, it wouldn’t be completely accurate to say that I was going on holiday. The reaso I was going away was to mark the first anniversary of the Bali bombings, which was to be held at the Parliament House in Canberra. Along with going there, I would also be going to Bali for another ceremony. The Year Before

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Relationships: Can Childhood Trauma Define How Someone Sees The Opposite Sex?

As an adult, someone can see the opposite sex as being one way, or they can see them as being another way. A very black and white way of looking at this would be to say that they can see them in a positive light or they can see them in a negative light. However, regardless of what view they have, there is the chance that they won’t merely see this as just a view that they have. As far as they are conce ed, the view that they have can be seen as a reflection of what they are actually like. Just an Observer

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Makeup And The False-Self

The other day I saw a picture of a woman’s face on social media and this picture had received a fair amount ‘likes’. That wasn’t it though, as she had received a number of positive comments. One of these comments went into how good she looked and there were others that went even further, calling her “beautiful”. I thought that this woman must have appreciated all this positive feedback. A Mask

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

We Are All On Our Own Path!

I was talking to someone the other day who was finding it hard to get through to another person in their life. They could see that this person was unable to make progress in an area of their life and this caused them to offer their advice. But while it was their intention to assist them, this person ended up getting defensive and retracting. Based on their reaction, it was as though they were being criticised in some way. Confusion

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

You Don't Need Anyone To Love You!

It’s not uncommon for someone to say that they want someone to love them, and this is what will motivate them to look for another person to be with. They might believe that everything will be fine after they have found someone like this. At an emotional level, they are likely to feel empty, and so it is to be expected that they will come to the conclusion that they are missing something. Their missing piece will be out there somewhere, in someone else, and the sooner this piece is found the better. The Norm

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Critical Thinking: Are Some People Injustice Collectors?

It is not uncommon to hear about people who have experiences each day where they feel taken advantage of or harmed in some way. As a result of this, it can be normal for someone like this to feel oppressed and/or victimised, along with feeling offended. And, it might not matter if they are around others or if they are online, as there is always likely to be something that will have a big impact on them. The kind of experiences that they have will most likely be backed up by the kind of experiences that their friends have. Validation

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Critical Thinking: Is It A Surprise That Some Presidents/Prime Ministers Have Personality Disorders?

In the recent presidential election, the mainstream media portrayed one candidate as being good and the other as being bad. And up until a new president was announced, there were a number of people who thought that America would have a female president for the first time. For some people, this was seen as a sign of how sexist America is and had absolutely nothing to do with anything else. This was also one of the reasons that Hillary Clinton put forward when she was asked why she lost. One Outlook

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Don't Do Anything For Recognition!

About a month ago, I had a call from a publisher that was trying to sell me some kind of publishing package. This was a publisher that had contacted me a number of times in the past and, each time this took place, I made it clear that I was not willing to go down this route. After I spoke to them on this occasion, they ended up sending me an email and part of this email went into how they could help me to gain the recognition that I deserved for all the work I had done. There might have been a time when this would have pulled me in, but that time was well and truly over. No Impact

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Relationships: Can The Fear Of Abandonment Cause Someone To Attract People Who Are Emotionally Dependent?

In order for two people to have a relationship together, they will both need to be able to behave like interdependent adults. The reason for this is that if only one of them acts like an interdependent adult, it will stop this from taking place. Instead, what will happen is that one of them will be like a parent and the other will be like a child. This is then not going to be something that takes place from time to time; it will take place more or less all of the time. Unavoidable

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Relationships: Is It Normal For Someone To Shut Down If Their Partner Is Not Responsive?

At the start of a relationship, one may find that their partner is fairly or even extremely responsive. What this means is that this person will listen to what they have to say, stop doing certain things if they have negative effect on them, and be open to feedback, amongst other things. In other words, one will feel seen and heard by this person, and they will know that they exist when they are around them. Along with this, one will most likely behave in the same way when they are around this person. An Affirming Experience

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Suicidal Thoughts: Why Do Some People Have Suicidal Thoughts?

In recent years, a lot has been said about the amount of people who are committing suicide. This may show that it is more common than before or it may show that this is something that is receiving more exposure than before. It has also been said that more men commit suicide than women, but that this is only because men are far more likely accomplish this outcome. This is then something that affects both genders. Breaking down the Walls

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Putting People On A Pedestal Stops Us From Growing

I was thinking the other day about how much of an obsession there is with celebrities in today’s world. Actors, sports stars, singers, and even people who have been on reality TV are often seen as gods/goddesses. On the surface, it can seem as though most people in the west are not very religious and have moved on from this, but it might be more accurate to say that they simply have different gods now. In general, they don’t look up to someone in the sky, but what a lot of people do do, is look up to the people they see on TV or on a stage, for instance. Everyday Life

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Critical Thinking: Is It A Bad Idea For Someone To Check Their Smartphone When They Wake Up?

Nowadays, it is not uncommon for someone to have a very strong attachment to their Smartphone; so close in fact, that it can be practically another part of them. It won’t be physically connected to their body, but it can be as though it is. A Number of Benefits Yet, as there is so much that can be done with a one of these devices, this is not much of a surprise. Calls can be made and messages can be sent, along with so many other things that can take place.

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Image-Obsessed: Can Someone Try To Look Perfect When They Feel Worthless?

If a woman wanted to change her appearance in the past, she may have had a boob job. Nowadays, this is just one of a number of procedures that a woman can have to change how she looks. Plenty of Options If she isn’t happy with her weight, she could have fat removed, and this will mean that she won’t have to wait a matter of weeks or months to lose it. Alte atively, she might not be pleased with the size of her lips, and this can be taken care of by injecting something into them.

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Critical Thinking: Is The War A Reflection Of What Is Taking Place Inside The Collective Consciousness?

Right now, there is a war taking place in Ukraine and hundreds of innocent people are being killed. If someone watches TV or has a Smartphone, they are likely to have heard a lot about what is going on. Due to this, they could be deeply worried about what is going on and this could make it hard to them to focus on other areas of their life. Furthermore, after what took place with the contagion and what is still taking place and now this, they could wonder what will be next. The Extreme

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Energy Vampires: Is Someone An Energy Vampire If They Are Always Offended?

Nowadays, it is not uncommon to hear about someone who is offended about something, and this can take place in the real world and online. If someone was to come from a culture where this rarely takes place, they might be drawn in. But, if they live somewhere where this is has become the norm, they might not get drawn in by it. Over the past few years, they may have heard about a lot of people who have been offended by something. Part of Life

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

“This Woman Is An Inspiration!”

A few weeks ago, I was doing a bit of research online for an article that I was going to put together. I was going to write an article about how women are being conditioned to see themselves as victims. During this time, I came across an article titled: 'Victimhood narrative' taught in schools fuels anxiety in young women, academic claims’. In this article, Dr Joanna Williams had been asked to share her views on one of the ways in which children are being indoctrinated at school. Nailed It

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Relationships: What Is The Difference Between A Man Who Hates Women And A Man Who Hates Men?

What might not surprise someone is that some men hate women, yet what might surprise them is that there are some men who hate men. It might be hard for them to accept this, especially as they are men themselves. A Different Response Then again, this might be something that they are only too aware of, meaning that it is not going to be hard for them to accept this. If man does hate women, he is likely to receive a lot negative feedback from others.

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

I Believe In You

Perhaps you are going through a challenging time right now or maybe your life has been tough for a while. Either way, a big part of you may wonder if you have what it takes to move forward. So even if a small part of you believes that you do have what it takes, this part of you won’t exert much influence over your life. The part of you that doubts that you have what it takes is then going to have the most influence. An Important Question

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Is It A Surprise For Someone Who Is Popular To Be Lonely?

A few days ago I watched a short video about someone who lived a very lonely existence even though they were extremely popular. On the outside, they looked happy and as though they were connected to life, but when they were by themselves, they felt unhappy and disconnected. The image that this person presented to the world was then in stark contrast to how they felt on the inside. I wasn’t surprised by what I saw, though; if anything, I thought that this was a common occurrence. Two Sides

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Self-Worth: Can Someone Try To Create The Perfect Body When They Feel Worthless?

If one was to think about their life, they may find that they have the need to be perfect in every area of it, or this might only apply to one area. When this is something that applies to all areas of their life, they are likely to experience a lot of pressure. But when it doesn’t, they are still likely to experience a lot of stress in one area of their life. As a result of this, other areas of their life could end up being effected, and it is then going to be a challenge for them to relax. Their Career

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Self-Worth: Does Someone Need To Develop Self-Worth If They Feel Worthless?

When it comes to how someone behaves, there are a number of things that can play a part. And one thing that will have a big effect on how they behave is how they feel about themselves. Three Options There are going to be people who generally feel good, others who don’t, and those who swing from one side to the other. As a result of this, they can all have a different experience on this earth.

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Critical Thinking: Does Someone Need To Develop The Ability To Observe Their Mind If They Are Always Offended?

During one’s time at school, they are likely to have noticed that not everyone responded in the same way when it came to being told off by a teacher. There may have been people who just generally shrugged when this happened, while there may have been others who typically lost control. A Clear Difference It would then have seemed as though some people had the ability to control themselves and other people didn’t. But even though some people didn’t exercise self-control, one could put this down to their age.

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Free Speech: Has The Term 'Hate Speech' Been Created To Silence People?

If someone was asked to share their thoughts about ‘hate speech’, they might have a number of things to say. Firstly, they could say that it has no place in today’s world, which is why it is a good thing that it is banned. The Main Benefit On top of this, they could say that it will be a lot easier for people to relax and to feel safe, knowing that this kind of speech won’t be tolerated anymore. And, if one was asked to elaborate on what they believe is the definition of ‘hate speech’, they could say that it relates to anything that incites discrimination, hostility or violence.

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Relationships: Can Someone’s Adult Relationships Reflect What Took Place During Their Early Years?

If someone has the inclination to end up in relationships that are not very fulfilling or are even abusive, it can be normal for them to experience pain. Also, as a result of what keeps taking place, they can come to see themselves as unlucky. This area of their life is then going to be more or less out of their control, meaning that there will be very little that they can do about it. Due to having this outlook, they may even have moments when they will feel like a victim. Exte al Support

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Relationships: Can Shame Stop Someone From Reaching Out To Others?

What can’t be denied is that no one is their own island; human beings need each other. This is why it has been said that although some people say that they are independent, this is nothing more than an illusion. Therefore, while it might be hard for them to accept it, it doesn’t change the fact that they are interdependent. When someone can accept this, and doesn’t believe that there is anything wrong with needing others, their life is going to be a lot easier than it would be otherwise. A Small Part

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Self-Worth: Can Someone Be An Underachiever When They Don't Value Themselves?

When someone values themselves, they can do what it takes to achieve their goals. Quite simply, they are not going to be willing to settle in life, and this will be what pushes them forward. As a result of this, they could be in a position where they have achieved a number of their goals. Alte atively, one might have only just started to value themselves, and this means that they might not have achieved much at this point in time. One Direction

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“I Don’t Care If Your Father Is In Hospital!”

As I have said in a previous article, my father had to go into hospital in the middle of 2011, and this was a time when I was under a lot of stress. My mother had had a stroke the previous year and soon my life would change once again. During the time that my father was in hospital, I would help to run our family guest house when I wasn’t at work. I had a lot going on at this time, and this helped to keep my mind off what was taking place. At Other Times

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True-Self: Is It Harder For Someone To Express Their True-Self When They Are Emotionally Dependent?

In order for someone to be able to fulfil their needs, they will need to be in touch with them. But that’s not to say that this is all there is to it, as one will also need to feel as though it is safe enough for them to fulfil them. The Two Levels It could be said that, as a human being, one of their greatness needs will be to feel safe, and once they feel this way, it will allow them to fulfil their so-called higher needs. However, if one generally feels safe, this is not going to be something that they will need to think about.

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

“You Need Therapy!”

Shorty after I left where I was working in 2012, I felt overwhelmed with stress and emotional pain. Due to this, I head back to the spiritual shop where I had had a reading a little while before, and I spoke to the owner. Her name was Sheila, and she was down to earth, genuine and supportive. I think I opened up to her about what I was going through and she recommended a woman who did Reiki healing. Something Different

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Communication: Where Can Someone Improve Their Conversational Skills?

Although someone may have the desire to improve their conversational skills, it doesn’t mean that they will know what to do next. If they were to think about what they can do to make progress in this area of their life, their mind could end up going blank. One thing that they could do is to look for information online. This could be a time when one will pick up a few tips that they will be able to implement in their day-to-day life. Ready

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True-Self: Why Do Some People Only Feel Safe When They Are Playing A Role?

Although there are going to be moments in someone’s life when they will need to be serious, they won’t need to behave in this way all the time. Along with this, one will need to be easy going at times, and at other times, they will need to be firm. Multifaceted Ultimately, how one will need to behave can all depend on what kind of environment they are in and what the context is. Yet, as they are going to have more than one side to their nature, it is not going to be a challenge for them to adapt and to change their behaviour.

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Critical Thinking: Why Do So Many Men Follow Female Models Online?

There are quite possibly hundreds, if not thousands, of female models who share pictures of themselves online. And just as there are a number of these models online, there are also going to be a number of reasons as to why a woman would want to live her life in this way. For one woman, this could primarily be a way for her to express herself, while for another; this could primarily be a way for her to silence the voice within her that says that she is not enough. Both of these women, then, are going to be coming from a radically different place. A Small Part

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Fathers: Does A Father Play An Important Role In A Child's Development?

It has been widely reported that a lot of children are now growing up without a father, and this is in addition to the adults who also grew up without one. There are, of course, a number of reasons as to why this is the case. Firstly, moral decay has led to an increase in hedonism, which has resulted in the decline of personal responsibility. If, then, a man has a child/children and the relationship is not going well, he could just end up disappearing without feeling the need to play his part. Another Part

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People Pleasing: Is Someone More Likely To Please Others If They Are Emotionally Dependent?

In order for someone to live a fulfilling life, there are going to be at last two things that will need to be in place. On the one hand, they will need to be aware of their needs, and on the other; they will need to feel safe enough to fulfil them. From here, one will have the ability to behave in a way that is in alignment with their true-self. This can then allow them to move towards their goals and to achieve what they want to achieve. One Outlook

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Self-Worth: How Can People Who Are Attractive Act Confident Even Though They Feel Worthless?

When someone is in touch with their inherent value, it is going to be a lot easier for them to act in a confident manner. For one thing, they are not going to feel as though they have anything to hide. The Truth Deep down, they will realise that who they are is enough, and this will allow them to express their true-self. Consequently, how they come across is generally going to be a reflection of who they are.

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Child Abuse: Is It A Surprise That Some Parents Deny They Were Abusive?

If someone comes to see that their early years were a time when they were not treated very well, there are a number of things that can take place. Firstly, they can start to think about what they can do to heal the damage that was caused, and, secondly, they can have the need to talk about what took place with their parents. There is also the chance that they haven’t even thought about what they can do to heal themselves. In this case, their need to talk to their parents about what happened could consume them. The Next Step

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Critical Thinking: Is The Establishment Only Interested In Silencing Dissenters?

A little while ago, three public figures tried to enter the UK, only to end up behind bars for a few days. These people were seen as a threat due to the views that they had, and this meant that they had to go somewhere else once they were released. An Odd Scenario If this is taken at face value, it can sound as though the people in power were simply looking out for their fellow human beings. Their main job, after all, is to protect the citizens who give them the money and the power to do what they do.

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Free Speech: Does The Attack On Free Speech Show How Feminized The Western World Has Become?

While men are a physical expression of the masculine and women are a physical expression of the feminine, it doesn’t mean that each sex only has masculine or feminine traits within them. Now, this is not to say that each person on this planet is made up of half of one side and half of the other. A Big Difference It would be easy to say that men are more masculine on the inside and women are more feminine on the inside. The reason this is easy to say is that it doesn’t require much thought.

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“You Are Always Happy!”

During the time when my father was in hospital, towards the end of 2011, I did my best to carry on as normal. This would typically mean that I would act as though I was happy and that everything was fine. But as I had been this way for most of my life, it wasn’t as if I was doing anything new; it was simply business as usual. This meant that there were a number of people where I worked who were not aware of what I was going through. A Select Few

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Emotionally Dependent: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Emotionally Dependent On Others?

In order for someone to be able to express their true-self, it will be essential for them to be an integrated human being. What this means is that their mind (thoughts), heart (emotions) and body (instincts) will generally work together. Through being this way, they will be in touch with their needs and they will be able to go about fulfilling them. There will be no reason for them to focus solely on other people’s needs and to do what they can to please them. Boundaries

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Are You Relying On Luck To Get What You Want?

When I used to go to different bars and clubs on a regular basis many, many years ago, there were often men who would talk about how they hoped to ‘get lucky’. Sometimes I knew the people who would say this and, at other times, this was something that I would overhear. To these men, it was as though they didn’t have any control over whether or not they would attract a woman. It was something that was completely out of their hands, which was why they had to get lucky. Another Example

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Don’t Make Another Person The Centre Of Your World

When I was reading the book, ‘Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway’, there was a chapter that went into how important it was to have many different areas of interest in life, and not to put all our eggs in one basket, so to speak. The author, Susan Jeffers, pointed out that a lot of people make their partner the centre of their life.

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Energetic Abuse: Can Someone Energetically Abuse Another Person?

If one was asked to talk about what abuse looks like, they may say that this is what happens when someone is put down, hit, sexually taken advantage of, or emotionally invalidated. When something like this takes place, it will be clear that someone is not being treated in the right way. At the same time, even though all of these behaviours are expressions of abuse, it wouldn’t be right to say that it will always be clear that this is the case. One reason for this is that if someone has been treated badly for a very long time, they may have become accustomed to being treated in this way.r

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Living In The Mind Leads To A Very Unstable Existence

After a conversatio I had with someone the other day, it made me think about how different it is to live in the body compared with the mind. In a way, living in the mind is similar to being on a bouncy castle, while living in the body is similar to being a tree. The reason for this is that the mind is unstable and is unable to live in the now; it doesn’t have the ability to experience stability or to be present. On the other hand, the body is stable and in the now, and is not thrown around by anything or caught up in what may or may not happen. A Big Difference

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Self-Development: Can Someone Get Into Self-Development To Fulfil Their Unmet Childhood Needs?

Although someone can be aware of why they are doing something, they can also be completely out of touch with this reason. However, even if this is the case, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this. Two Levels One can have a clear idea as to why they want to do something, and this could match up with what is taking place at a deeper level. Their mind and body are then going to be working together.

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

The Healing Power Of Presence

Earlier on, whilst I was out running, I was reflecting on how important presence is when it comes to healing. It is important in all areas, of course, but this was the area that I primarily thought about. For example, when a healer has been able to let in a certain amount of presence (I say let in as presence is always there and not something we develop), they will be able to be present with a client. This is likely to be a time when try will be connected to their heart, as opposed to being caught up in their head. Transformation

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Authority Figures: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Have Trouble With Authority Figures?

If someone was to reflect on how they behave when they are in the presence of an authority figure, they may find that they are typically able to hold their own. This will mean that, in general, they won’t retract and neither will they have the need to take up too much space. In other words, they will feel comfortable enough to be themselves. Being this way is going to allow them to be in their own power and it may even cause the other person to warm to them. An Incentive

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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