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Healing Toxic Shame Doesn’t Happen Ove ight

It has been said that shame is the hardest feeling to tolerate and it is not hard to see why. This is because when someone experiences shame, they will feel bad and as though there is something wrong with them. One can then experience guilt, with this being a sign that they have done something bad, and they can experience shame, with this being a sign that they are bad. After a while, and perhaps after they have made amends, the guilt and the shame should pass. Back In Balance

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Therapy: Why Would Someone Say That The Type Of Therapy That They Are Having Is The Best?

After someone has worked with a therapist for a little while, they may find that their life has started to change. As to what caused them to have therapy in the first place, there can be a number of reasons. For example, their mind may have been out of control and their emotions may have also been all over the place. Regardless of what was going on for them in the beginning, the time that they have spent in this persons company will have been worth it. It’s All New

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Expectations: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Have ‘Negative’ Expectations?

It has been said that someone shouldn’t have any expectations; however, it has also been said that having expectations is simply part of the human experience. If they are simply part of the human experience, it is not going to be possible to remove all expectations. So, if someone was to try to remove them, they would be wasting their precious time and energy. Furthermore, there are going to be the expectations that someone is aware of and there are going to be those that they are not aware of. Two Levels

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Human Contact: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Fear Human Contact?

Although there are those who are able to be by themselves and to be with others, there are also those who are unable to relate to this. As a result of this, they are likely to feel uncomfortable around others and they can feel uncomfortable being by themselves. For that reason, their life is going to be far harder than it needs to be as whatever option they go for, they are not going to be happy and at ease. At the same time, there is likely to be at least one thing that they can do in each of these experiences to deal with their discomfort. The First Experience

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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Toxic Shame: What Are The Different Levels Of Toxic Shame?

When it comes to shame, it could be said that there is normal, or healthy, shame, and then there is abnormal, or unhealthy, shame. Another way of looking at this would be to say there is shame and there is toxic shame. What this means is that shame is not bad per se; it is simply part of the human experience – for some people that is. It becomes a problem when there is too much of it, causing someone to be loaded up with the stuff. A Problem

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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Child Abuse: Can Someone Believe That They Deserve To Suffer If They Were Abused As A Child?

If someone was abused as a child, what took place will be over but it doesn’t mean that they will have put what took place firmly behind them. So, in the same way that a soldier who has left a warzone can carry the effects of what they experienced, one can also be in the same position. However, although this can be the case, it doesn’t mean that one will be able to make the connection. If they were to think about what took place during their early years, it could be one big blur. A Mystery

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Critical Thinking: Does The Establishment Want People To Have A Victim/Perpetrator Consciousness?

There are numerous ways in which someone can perceive life and while some of these ways will be empowering, others will be disempowering. Ergo, if someone believes that the world is a safe place overall and that people are generally kind, they are likely to experience life in a certain way. On the other hand, if they believe that the world is not safe in general and that people are generally unkind, they are also likely to experience life in a certain way. There is a strong chance that the former will have a far better time on this earth than the latter. Not an Observer

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The Media: Does The Mainstream Media Traumatise People?

No matter where in the world someone is or what time it is, the mainstream media will be there to inform them about what is taking place. This source of information will tell them about what is going on around them and that is going on further afield. The main reason for this is that one no longer needs to watch TV, listen to the radio or read newspapers in order to stay update; the only thing that they need to do is to go online. So, providing they have a Smartphone, they will be fine. A Different Experience

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"You Should Know What My Needs Are!"

There will be times when it is possible for someone to know what another person’s needs are and times when it won’t be. That is, of course, unless someone has the ability to read minds; if they do, they will always know. But, if this ability is put to one side, another person will need to make it clear what their needs are. If they don’t do this, it will be normal for a lot of their needs to go unmet and they might try to do just about everything by themselves. A Key Ability

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Critical Thinking: Has Trauma Had An Effect On How The Physical Body Is Viewed In Today’s World?

Although a lot has changed over the years, it is not uncommon for the physical body to be seen as nothing more than a lump of meat. It is then an area that is not affected by what is taking place in someone’s internal world (their thoughts, emotions, feelings or beliefs) or what is taking place in their outer world. Still, this doesn’t mean that stress is not widely seen as something that has a destructive effect on both the mind and body. Even so, it is often something that ends up being put to one side and not given the attention that it deserves. No Reason

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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Negative Feelings: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Be Attached To ‘Negative’ Feelings?

If someone was to take the time to take a step back and to reflect on their life, they may find that they rarely feel good. Along with how they feel, there is going to be what takes place. At this point in time, they could believe that what takes place causes them to feel as they do. Therefore, their life is only going to change if they have different experiences - experiences that are life-affirming. A Closer Look

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Childhood Trauma: Can Someone Have A Fear Of Being Annihilated If They Experienced Childhood Trauma?

One thing that can take place, that’s if someone has experienced childhood trauma, is that they can typically live ‘up top’. This means that their point of focus will primarily be in their head. When their point of focus is in their head, they won’t be aware of what is taking place in their body. This means that their feelings and most of their needs will be a mystery to them. The Norm

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Father Wounds: Can A Man Have A Lot of Unmet Childhood Needs To Grieve After His Father Has Passed On?

If a man is in a position where he has just lost his father, he could be experiencing life in one of two ways. He could be in a very bad way emotionally, or he could be emotionally shut down. Then again, there could be moments when he feels overwhelmed with grief and moments when he is out of touch with how he feels. Either way, this is going to be a deeply challenging time for him. Exte al Support

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Relationships: Does Someone Need To Emotionally Separate From Their Caregivers To Be Emotionally Available?

It is one thing for someone to be in a relationship and it is another thing altogether for their emotional self to also be involved. The former involves one being with another person, the latter involves them opening up and actually being emotionally connected to them. Taking this into account, just because someone is in a relationship, it doesn’t mean that every part of their being will be involved. It could be seen as the difference between one just putting their hand in the sea and getting their whole body wet. A Big Difference

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Your Beliefs Are Creating Your Life

Before I got on ‘the path’ in 2003, I had no idea what beliefs were, let alone the impact that my beliefs were having on my own life. At this stage of my life, I didn’t think that I had much of an effect on my life and that I was nothing more than an observer of it. This all changed in December 2006, when I heard an audio series where someone called Dov Baron was interviewed. To say that I was impressed by what he had to say would be an understatement – I was blown away by it. A Great Teacher

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Critical Thinking: Is Humanity Being Victimised By The Collective Unconscious?

In today’s world, and perhaps the world has been this way for most of human history, it is often believed that everything is separate. In other words, a lot of people only operate out of their five senses. Therefore, even if something ‘bad’ happens that affects a lot of people, it won’t be as though they have played a part in what has taken place. They will be on the same planet but they will merely be a passive observer of what is going on. The Outlook

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Decisions: Can Childhood Trauma Make It Hard For Someone To Make Decisions?

Even if someone is not aware of the fact that they experienced trauma during their early years, what they may be aware of is the fact that they find it hard to make decisions. It might not matter if it is a big or a small decision as it could still be a challenge. As a result of this, they could have a tendency to not make decisions. This is going to mean that they will be used to sitting on the fence, so to speak, and not taking the next step. Nowhere to Run

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Emotionally Weak: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Emotionally Weak?

It could be said that someone’s life would be a lot easier if they were unable to experience emotions. The primary reason for this is that they would no longer experience emotional pain. As a result of this, they would never feel sad, powerless, helpless, or hopeless, and fear and anxiety would no longer bother them either. This would allow them to lead a more centred life. The Downside

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Needs: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Hide Their Own Needs?

While it would be easy to say that some people have needs and others are needless, everyone has needs. However, although some people are open about their needs, there are others who try to cover them up. This is one of the reasons why it can appear as though not everyone has needs. As for the people who are incredibly needy, this can be a sign that they are carrying a lot of unmet childhood needs. One Experience

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People Pleasing: Why Do Some People Believe That They Will Be Rejected If They Don’t Please Others?

While someone will have their own needs, it doesn’t mean that they will pay attention to them. Instead, they can have the tendency to do what other people want and what they think they want. As a result of this, their life is not going to be an expression of who they are. Living in this way may allow them to receive a fair amount of approval but what it probably won’t do is allow them to live a fulfilling life. The Norm

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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Self-Worth: Can It Be Hard For Someone To Just Be If They Feel Worthless?

When it comes to self-worth, this could be seen as something that is an inherent part of someone. Unlike self-esteem, then, it is not something that is defined by how other people respond to them. Taking this into account, the former is what will allow someone to feel good about themselves and to know that they have value. Receiving approval from others will feel good but as they have a felt sense of their own value, it won’t be something that they are dependent on. Two Ways

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Being Seen: Can Childhood Trauma Set Someone Up To Believe That They Need To Hide Themselves?

For some people, it will be hard for them to accept that someone would be able to hide themselves when they are around others. In their eyes, this will be seen as something that could only take place if they were away from others. Here, someone would be away from others and this would prevent their fellow human beings from being able to see them. So, in this instance, they would definitely be hiding from other people. In Plain Sight

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Critical Thinking: Is The Disharmony ‘Out There’ A Reflection Of The Disharmony That Is Taking Place Internally?

When it comes to what is currently taking place in the world, it is clear that it is not a very harmonious time. Due to the measures that have been put in place, irrespective of if they are the right ones, the world has been totally disrupted.

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Critical Thinking: Does The Mainstream Media Define How People Perceive Reality?

For quite some time now, more and more people have turned their back on the mainstream media. While some of these people rarely, if ever, find out about what is going on, there are others that now look towards the alte ative media for answers. However, with what is currently going on, there has been an upsurge in the number of people who look towards the legacy media to inform them. This could primarily be put down to the fact there has been an increase of fear on planet earth and, as a result of this, there has been a greater need to know what is going on. A Good Time

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

You Need To Take Action!You Need To Take Action!

There is a lot of information available that goes into how important it is to take action and what someone can do to get themselves moving. This could be seen as a sign that a lot of people don’t realise how vital it is to take action and find it hard to get the ball moving, so to speak. Thus, after looking into this kind of information, one could come to believe that the only way that anything will happen is if they do something. Additionally, they could conclude that the best time to do something is now. A Common Theme

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Mother Wounds: Can An Abusive Mother Cause A Man To Feel Comfortable With Being Treated Badly By Women?

If a man was to think about what his interactions have been like with women over the years, he could come into contact with a number of memories that he would rather forget about forever. This doesn’t mean that every moment he has shared with a woman will have been unpleasant. No, what it means that is that a lot of the moments that he has shared with a woman won’t have been very uplifting. In other words, there will have been more negative experiences than positive experiences. One Area

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People Pleasing: Can Someone Have The Need To Please Others If They Don't Feel Safe In Their Body?

What someone may find is that they have a strong need to please others, making it hard for them to live their own life. Or to be more accurate – this can stop them from being able to live their own life. So by having the need to do what other people want as opposed to what they themselves want, their life is not going to be very fulfilling. And the only way that this is going to change is if they change their behaviour. The Challenge

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Self-Absorbed: Can Someone Suffer If They Only Focus On Themselves?

One thing that social media has done is made it easy for someone to focus on themselves. So regardless of if it relates to how their pictures look, how people respond to what they share or how many friends they have, it is all going to be about them. In the past someone would have only have had to worry about how they looked when they were around others, but now they can worry about how they look online. Not being around others is then not going to be necessary in order for them to worry about how they look. One Focus

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Powerless: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Feel Powerless?

After living a pretty miserable existence for many, many years, someone may come to see that feeling powerless is a normal part of their life. This means that they are unlikely to feel this way from time to time, they can more or less always feel this way. If they don’t feel this way, based on what has happened in the past, they might think that it won’t be long until they do. Still, if they are given a break from feeling this way, they could become consumed by how they feel. The Exception

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Relationships: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Lose Themselves In A Relationship?

When someone is in a relationship, the ideal will be for them to be in touch with who they are and to express their true-self. By being this way, being close to another person will have changed them, but it won’t have caused them to abandon themselves. Therefore, when they are around the people who they are close to, it won’t be as though they have become someone else entirely. These people may notice a few differences if they are perceptive, yet that could be about as far as it will go. A Healthy Position

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Repetition Compulsion: Why Would Someone Repeat The Past?

The other night, I watched a video of a brown bear that kept walking around in circles. This bear was not in a cage, though, it was outside and was thus, free to go anywhere that it wanted. Apparently, it wasn’t that long ago that this bear was in a cage and didn’t have the freedom that it does now. This bear’s environment had then changed but its behaviour had stayed the same. A Crazy Scenario

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Individuation: Is Individuation A Lifelong Process?

When someone is born, they will have a separate body but that will be as far as it will go. Not only will they be unable to see that they are separate from everyone and everything, they will also lack a sense of self. This is why it has been said that each human being needs to go through two births in order to truly be born. The first is, of course, the physical birth, and the second is the emotional birth. Two Key Parts

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Commitment: Can Childhood Trauma Make It Hard For Someone To Commit?

When it comes to achieving something, developing a skill or having an intimate relationship, for instance, it will be essential for someone to make a commitment. Through making a decision to stick with something, they will be able to make progress and to reap the benefits of doing so. If this doesn’t take place, they won’t be able to move forward in one area of their life, and this will have a negative effect on their wellbeing. It will be as though they are standing in one place and are unable to go anywhere. One Area

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Rejection: Can Someone Feel Rejected Before They Are Even Born?

If one was to strike up a conversation with someone who they are attracted to, they may end up being rejected by them. Now, one way of looking at this would be to say that this person didn’t reject them, they just rejected the version of them that showed up and there can be a number of reasons as to why this happened. But, with this aside, one can end up experiencing a far amount of pain and this experience could stay with them for quite some time. The next time they see someone who they like, they might not take the next step and they could be this way for a little while.

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“The Only Way Out Is Through”

A few days ago, I wrote an article about something I had heard from a TV series called Arrow. What I touched upon in this article is not the only thing in this show that has caught my attention; there are a number of other things. Something that caught my attention was when the main character, Oliver Queen, was told that, “the only way out is through.” Without giving too much away, in case you haven’t seen this episode and plan to, he is in a tough situation and needs to find a way out. On The Onside

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Emotionally Reactive: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Be Emotionally Reactive?

If someone’s mind and emotions were settled and they felt at peace, they may wonder what it would be like to experience life in this way more often. Then again, thanks to how rarely they experience life in this way, they could be totally consumed by what is taking place. Perhaps they have taken the time to be in nature or maybe they have had something to drink, for instance. Regardless of what it is that has allowed them to have a different inner experience, it will be a welcome relief from how they usually experience life. The Norm

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Personal Power: Does Someone Need To Feel Safe In Order To Embrace Their Personal Power?

If someone is in touch with and is able to express their personal power, there will be no need for them to control others. They will have control over themselves and their own life, which will take away their desire to infringe on another person’s boundaries. Through being this way, they will be able to assert themselves and to make it clear if they don’t want to do something. They will then be able to express their true-self and this will allow them to fulfil their needs. A Fulfilling Existence

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Childhood Trauma: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Feel Like An Empty Vessel?

One thing that is often said in the self-development world is that someone shouldn’t seek approval from others. This is typically seen as something that will hold them back and prevent them from living a fulfilling existence. A quote by Eckhart Tolle, a spiritual teacher and author, goes deeper into this and explains why it is not a good idea. He says, "Stop looking outside for scraps of pleasure or fulfilment, for validation, security, or love - you have a treasure within that is infinitely greater than anything the world can offer." Different Needs

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Mother Wounds: Can A Man Be Attracted To Unavailable Women If His Mother Was Unavailable?

If a man was to look back on his life, he may see that he has often been drawn to women who are not available. In fact, he could find that he is primarily drawn to women like this and is rarely if ever is drawn to women who are available. When it comes to the relationships that he’s had, then, he may see that the women he has been with have not been able to fully commit to him. So, he may see that some of these women were caught up with their ex, some were in a relationship already, whilst others were not really into him. Another Scenario

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True-Self: Can Someone Lose Touch With Their True-Self If They Disconnect From Their Feelings?

In order for someone to be in touch with all of their feelings, they will need to be in touch with their body. The reason for this is that their feelings are primarily found in their body, not their head. Ergo, if someone has a good connection with their body, it will allow them to connect with all of their feelings. Through having this connection with this part of their being, they will also be aware of what their needs are. Inner Directed

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Intimacy: Can It Take A Relationship For Someone To Realise They Are Emotionally Disconnected?

Now that someone is in a relationship, it could be crystal clear that it is hard for them to connect to how they feel. Up until this point, it might not have even occurred to them that this was the case. Or, if they were aware that this was a challenge for them, it might not have stood out in the same way. As a result of this, this might not have been something that absorbed too much of their attention. A Different Experience

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Motivation: Can Someone Lose Motivation When They Heal Their Inner Wounds?

When it comes to whether or not someone is in a good place mentally and emotionally, how motivated they are is often taken into account. Therefore, if someone is highly motivated, they can be seen as being in a good way. Someone like this can relentlessly move towards their goals, finding it hard to just sit still and to just be. Relaxing and just being could be seen as a complete waste of time; time that they could be using to move forward. Exte al Feedback

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Needs: Can The Fear Of Abandonment Stop Someone From Revealing Their Needs?

Although each person on this planet is an individual who has their own needs, it doesn’t mean that this is something that everyone embodies. Thus, there are going to be people who act like an individual, while there will be others who won’t. If someone does, they are going to be aware of their needs and they are going to do what they can to fulfil them. One is then not just going to look like an individual; they will act like one. In Balance

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Relationships: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Emotionally Shut Down Around Others?

When someone is in touch with their emotional self around others, it will allow them to feel connected to them and to fully embrace the moment. Being this way will also allow them to develop deeper relationships with others. So, whether it relates to a friend or an intimate partner, one will be able to feel deeply connected to them and to express how they feel. Expressing their feelings will play an important part in the other person not only feeling close to them but also knowing where they stand. An Essential Ability

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Self-Awareness: Does Someone’s Ego-Mind Make It Almost Impossible For Them To Face Their Inner Wounds?

In the same way that a mirror will reflect back what is taking place on the outside of someone’s being, their outer world will mirror back what is taking place on the inside of their being. However, although the former is something that is self-evident, the same can’t be said for the latter. Therefore, while the average person will be able to accept the first part, they could quite easily dismiss the second part. In their eyes, they could be nothing more than an observer of what is going on around them. A Bystander

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Childhood Trauma: Why Do Some People Fall Apart When Their Life Has No Structure?

Now that some, or all, of the structure from someone’s life has been removed, they could be in a very bad way. In a way, it could be as though they were on solid ground and now they are trying to keep their head above water. To be clearer, their emotional self will be all over the place and they could find it hard to think clearly. Further, their sense of self could have more or less disappeared, causing them to feel completely lost. An Analogy

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Critical Thinking: Does Humanity Need To Heal Their Own Self-Hate In Order For The World To Be More Loving?

In recent years, a lot has been said about how much hate there is in the world. One thing that is seen as having played a part in the rise of hate is social media, with these platforms often being viewed as breeding grounds for hate. So, as part of an ongoing crackdown on hate, videos and posts have been removed. It doesn’t end there, though, as some people have had their profiles removed and been banned from using these platforms. Both Worlds

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Self-Sabotage: Can Someone Sabotage Their Life If They Are Carrying Self-Hate?

Now, even though someone can want to achieve something or to improve their life in general, it doesn’t mean that they won’t hold themselves back. But, while they can hold themselves back, this can be something that they are not even aware of. Consequently, what is going on exte ally will be seen as the reason why they are unable to make progress. Nonetheless, if they are doing all the ‘right’ things, why would they have a different view? Ticking All the Boxes

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Critical Thinking: Is A Large Part Of Humanity Stuck In The Drama Triangle?

The mainstream media routinely gives exposure to stories where one person, or a group of people, is the victim and another person, or a group of people, is the perpetrator. One person will then have been randomly harmed in some way by another person. The former will have been powerless to do anything about what was going on, while the latter will have had all the power. In other words, there will have been a power imbalance. The Solution

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Projection: Will Someone’s Past Be Projected Onto The Present If They Were Abused As A Child?

Now that someone is an adult, what took place during their formative years could be something that they have more or less forgotten about. If this was a stage of their life that was somewhat nurturing, it could be said that this won’t be a problem. However, if this stage of their life was anything but nurturing, then this is likely to be a problem. The reason for this is that although they will no longer be a child, it doesn’t mean that what they experienced will be well and truly behind them. The past is present

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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