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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Woman Waste Her Life Trying To Understand A Mother-Enmeshed Man?

After a woman has been in a relationship with a mother-enmeshed man, she is unlikely to be in a very good way. Not only can she be in a lot of pain but she can also have a number of questions. Perhaps she was with a man like this for a number of months or maybe her time with him lasted even longer. The longer she spent with him, the more pain she is likely to be in and the more questions she may have. Inner Conflict

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Mother Wounds: Can A Man Feel Worthless If He Had An Abusive Mother?

If a man was to step back and reflect on how he experiences life, what could soon stand out is that he doesn’t feel as though he has any value. He could see how this has held him back when it comes to his career and his relationships with the opposite sex. He might have continually made one step forward and two steps back when it comes to his career and been unable to make a great deal of headway. Then again, he might not have a career and might have just gone from one job to another. A Bleak Existence

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Experience A Conflict Between His Thoughts And Feelings?

For as long as a man, who is entangled with his mother, is not aware of the fact that he is this way, he is likely to be out of touch with most of his needs and feelings. By being this way, he will have no trouble being there for his mother and focusing on her needs. This is likely to just be what is normal and, therefore, there will be no need for him to change his behaviour, even though behaving in this way won’t truly be serving him. In order to stop himself from facing reality, he is likely to have a number of defences in place. Invisible

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man Too Underdeveloped To Break Away From His Mother?

Now, if a man is overly focused on his mother and unable to live his own life, this could be something that baffles him. He could struggle to understand why he is so focused on her and so neglectful towards himself. In general, he could feel as though she has complete control over him and that he has to do just about whatever it is that she wants him to do. Thanks to this, it can be normal for him to feel angry, frustrated and deeply helpless. Liberation

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Passivity: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Be Passive?

What someone could find is that they often lack energy and find it hard to do things. In general, they might only leave their home when they have to go to work and need food. Along with this, they could go out to see friends, watch TV and they may exercise every now and then. But, even when they do go out to see others, it could typically only be because someone reached out to them. Missing Out What could be clear is that being this way is stopping them from being able to truly embrace life. They are just going to be going through the motions and won’t be really living.

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Being Seen: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Believe That They Don’t Deserve To Be Seen?

As someone is an interdependent human being, it will be important for them to have relationships where they are seen and heard. When this takes place, not only will their physical self be seen but their inner world will also be seen. This will take place by them opening up about how they feel, expressing their needs, and sharing what is and isn’t going well in their life. What this will do is strengthen their sense of self and have a positive effect on their well-being. The Opposite

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Child Abuse: Why Would An Abusive Parent Only Abuse Their Child/Children?

One thing that someone could wonder, if they were abused as a child, is why one of their parents abused them but treated others differently. They could see that while this parent was not always pleasant to others, they were not abusive toward them. Therefore, they might have had moments when they were rude, but they wouldn’t have physically harmed another or been verbally abusive, for instance. Naturally, as this parent had at least two very different sides, it will be hard for them to get their head around what took place. One Part

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Emasculation: Can A Man Be Emasculated By A Woman?

If a man is in a relationship with a woman who is undermining him, he could have at least one friend who finds it hard to accept why he doesn’t cut his ties with her. Over the days, weeks and perhaps months that he has been with her, this friend might have had a number of conversations with him. But, although they will have made it clear that this woman is not good for him and he himself might have also agreed, it won’t have had much of an impact. Instead, he will have continued to put up with what is going on. His Experience

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

False Self: Can Someone Need To Let Go Of Their Parents Projections If They Were Abused As A Child?

When it comes to how someone experiences life, how they see themselves will have a big impact. However, they might not even think about how they see themselves and, even if they do, this could just be seen as who they are. If, then, they have an empowering view of themselves, this is not going to matter. But, if they have a disempowering view of themselves, it is likely to mean that they won’t have a very fulfilling life. Stepping Back

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Father Wounds: Can A Man Reject His Feminine Aspect If He Had An Abusive Father?

On one side, a man will have a masculine aspect, and, on the other, he will have a feminine aspect. But, although he will have two sides to this nature, it doesn’t mean that this is something that will stand out. He could generally come across as though he is only made up of the masculine aspect and doesn’t possess a feminine aspect. If it was put forward to him that he has both sides, he could also say that this is not true, or words to that effect. His Personality

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Mother Wounds: Can A Man Expect To Be Abandoned If His Mother Was Emotionally Unavailable?

Recently, a man may have been in a relationship that seemed to be going well and then, out of nowhere, it came to an end. As a result of this, he could be in a pretty bad way and find it hard to function. When he is not feeling low and flat, he could be filled with a deep sense of sadness and feel hopeless and helpless. Assuming that this is so, he is unlikely to be interested in doing a number of the things that he used to enjoy doing. A Lack of Motivation

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Mother Wounds: Can A Man Have The Need To Hide His Feelings If He Had An Emotionally Unavailable Mother?

If a man was to take a step back and reflect on how he typically behaves, he could see that he has the tendency to hide how he feels. As a result of this, most if not all of the people in his life are not going to know what is really going on for him. This is going to mean that he will keep a lot to himself and he could often feel deeply alone. It is then not going to matter how many people are in his life as it will be as if he is on an island in the middle of nowhere. An Act

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Fear What Has Already Taken Place?

After having recently experienced something that has enabled him to see clearly, a man who is overly focused on his mother may now feel a strong need to live his own life. At this point, he could wonder why it has taken him so long to see clearly. Then again, he could look back and see that due to how caught up he was in his mother's world, it simply wasn’t possible for him to see clearly. It was then to be expected that it would take a while for him to wake up. For Example

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Mother-Enmeshed Men: Has A Mother-Enmeshed Man Been Brought Up To Feel Comfortable With One-Sided Relationships?

If a man is in a position where he does a lot for his mother and very little for himself, he is going to be more like his mother’s parent than her son. As with a parent-child relationship, he will be giving a lot but he won’t receive a great deal back. Now, of course, if he was her parent, she wouldn’t be there to fulfil his needs. But as he isn’t her parent and a number of his own needs will be overlooked as he is not there for himself, his own tank is not going to be filled up, so to speak. Deeply Deprived

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Mother-Enmeshed Man Feel That He Would Die If He Lived His Own Life?

If a man, who is overly focused on his mother’s life, was at the stage where he is aware of what is going on and is able to step back and reflect on this behaviour, he could find that not behaving this way is seen as something that would lead to his demise. He is then going to have two options: either he neglects himself and lives, or he is there for himself and dies.

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Personal Power: Does Someone Need To Face Their Darkness If They Want Embrace Their Personal Power?

In general, there are feelings that are seen as “good” and feelings that are seen as being “bad”. As a result of this, it can be normal for someone to deny certain feelings and to embrace others. To go one step further, they could view themselves as a “good” person who only experiences “good” feelings. For example, they could see themselves as someone who is always happy, friendly and accepting of others. Both Ways

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Abandoned: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Feel Abandoned?

In general, someone could rarely spend time by themselves, with them preferring to spend time around others. Along with this, they may have been in a relationship for most of their life. This could show that they have been with one person for a long time, or they may have been with a number of people. If they were to spend time by themselves, they could soon end up feeling anxious. An Automatic Process

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Child Abuse: Why Would A Parent Make Their Child Into Their Parent?

Now that someone is an adult, it doesn’t mean that they will have their own life. No, practically their whole life could revolve around their parent or parents, with them behaving more like their parent than their child. Naturally, if a lot of their time and energy is being directed towards their parent, assuming it is only one, their life is going to suffer. If they had an endless amount of time and energy, this wouldn’t be the case. A Way of Life

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Mother-Enmeshed Men: What Would A Mother-Enmeshed Man Find It Hard To Say No To His Mother?

It has been said that someone’s yes will only mean something if they also have the ability to say no. The reason for this is if they are unable to say no, they will say yes out of their need to please another person. On the other hand, if they felt comfortable saying no, they would be able to say yes and really mean it. They would be going along with something because they want to, not because they fear displeasing another or others. One Scenario

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Repression: Can Repression Cause Someone To Believe That What Is Going On ‘Out There’ Is Defining How They Feel?

If someone is in a position where they feel powerless, they could end up coming to the conclusion that it’s because of what is taking place in their life. For example, they might have lost their job, been through a breakup, or have a friend that lacks boundaries and is controlling. Therefore, if it wasn’t for what is taking place, there would be no reason for them to feel this way. Naturally, as what has taken place will have had a big impact on them, it will seem to be the cause. A Patte

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Self-Ownership: Can Child Abuse Stop Someone From Developing A Felt Sense Of Self Ownership?

Now, even though it could be said that someone owns their body and mind and that no one has a right to control them or make them do something that they don’t want to do, it doesn’t mean that this is something that they actually realise. Thanks to this, they could often be controlled by others and do things that they don’t truly want to do. If so, in a number of their relationships, they could be treated like an object. Conflict

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Child Abuse: Can An Abusive Parent Be Too Wounded To Acknowledge That They Were Abusive?

What someone may hope, if they were abused as a child, is that their parent or parents will validate what they went through. This will then be a time when one or both of their parents will be able to both hear what they say and express remorse. But, what they may soon find is that this doesn’t take place and that they end up hitting a brick wall, so to speak. So, after talking to one of their parents about what happened, what they said could end up being dismissed. An Odd Scenario

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Critical Thinking: Was The Recent Pandemic An Example Of How Humanity Can Be Victimised By Their Own Repressed Darkness?

Now that the dust has started to settle, numerous questions have been asked about why certain things were done at the height of the pandemic. For example, it has been said that the masks that were mandatory didn’t make any difference. And, along with this, it has been said that the public was misled about the vaccine as it was made available before all the necessary tests had taken place. Assuming that both of these points are accurate, these are points that were made at the height of the pandemic but were largely dismissed. Not Black And White

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Rage: Can A Man Carry A Lot Of Repressed Rage If He Had An Abusive Mother?

Although a man may carry a lot of rage, this might not be something that he is consciously aware of. But, even if this is the case, it doesn’t mean that this won’t have an effect on how he experiences life. There is a strong chance that he will spend a lot of time in a collapsed physical state and won’t have a great deal of energy. In other words, he is likely to suffer from depression. Part of life

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Self-Sabotage: Why Is It Hard For Someone To Realise That They Are Sabotaging Their Life?

If someone hasn’t been able to move forward in at least one area of their life, they could believe that it is due to what is going on “out there”. What is taking place in the exte al world is then going to be the reason why their life is the way that it is. This can be backed up by the fact that they may have been doing all the “right” things. In other words, they won’t have been sitting around waiting for their life will change; they will have been taking action. A Natural Outcome

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Live In Their Head?

If someone doesn’t have a strong connection with their body, they are not going to be in touch with a big part of them. It is this part of them that a number of their needs and feelings will be found. Taking this into account, not having a strong connection with this part of them is going to undermine them. This is because they will be out of touch with the guidance that is inside them and they are not going to be able to meet a number of their needs. Unaware

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Critical Thinking: Can A Crisis Allow Humanity To Connect To Their True Feelings?

In the same way that an individual can go through a challenging time, humanity as a whole can also go through a challenging time. When it comes to what can unsettle an individual, it can be a breakup, a loss, or some kind of setback. On the other hand, when it comes to what can unsettle humanity as a whole, it can relate to a war, an epidemic or a shortage. In the first case, someone will experience certain feelings but most of the people in their life are likely to experience different feelings, and, in the second case, a large part of the population will experience certain feelings.

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

False Self: Can Someone Feel Like A Child Below Their False Self?

When it comes to how someone behaves, it can primarily be the result of what is taking place in their body or what is taking place inside their head. In order words, it can be a reflection of their true self or their false self. Therefore, in order for one to express their true self, they will need to be in touch with their body. At this point, one could wonder why their true self is found in their body, not their head. Going Deeper

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Mother-Enmeshed Man Act Like An Extension Of His Mother?

Physically, a man will be separate from his mother, but, although this will be the case, it doesn’t mean that he will act as though he is separate from her. What can be normal is for him to act as though he is part of her. Consequently, her needs will be his needs and he will spend a lot of his time and energy meeting her needs. A number of his needs are then going to be overlooked, with him neglecting himself in the process. Totally Oblivious

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Child Abuse: Is Someone Engaging In Repetition Compulsion If They Are Looking For Their Abusive Parents To See Them?

If someone grew up with at least one parent who was unable to truly see them, they are likely to have a strong need to be seen now that they are an adult. In addition to this need, though, they can also have a fear of being seen. When it comes to their need to be seen, this will relate to their need to have their personal reality acknowledged. This will include their needs, feelings and thoughts and for them to be physically seen. An Individual

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

False Self: Can A Man Have The Need To Act Tough If He Had An Emotionally Distant Father?

In general, a man could come across as though nothing fazes him and this could mean that a number of men look up to him. If this is the case, he could be seen as an example of how a man should be. Like a big oak tree, then, he is rarely going to be affected by what is going on around him and he will typically be in control of himself as a result. As he is this way, it could mean that he is ‘successful’ in at least one area of his life. A Number of Values

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Father Wounds: Can A Man Have A Disempowering Self-Image If His Father Wasn’t A Good Role Model?

What a man may find, if he was to take a step back and reflect, is that he doesn’t have a very positive view of himself. For a large part of his life, this may have been something that was just under the radar, so to speak. Consequently, the view that he has of himself would have just been what he was like and he wouldn’t have questioned it. Now, however, part of him will know that how he sees himself is not fixed and that it can change. For Example When it comes to how he sees himself, he could find that he has some, if not all, of the following views: That he is incapabler

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Mother Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother Enmeshed Man Realise That He Is Not Living His Own Life?

One thing that can cross a woman’s mind, that’s if she is in a relationship with a man who is entangled with his mother, is if he can see that he is not living his own life. By being on the outside, so to speak, she will be able to clearly see what is going on. As opposed to putting his own needs first and doing what is right for him, he will have the tendency to put his mother’s needs first and to do what is right for her. This could be something that a number of other people have noticed throughout his life but haven’t mentioned. Knocked Away

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Mother Wounds: Can Mothers Day Be Hard For Someone If They Had An Abusive Mother?

For some people, Mother’s Day is a day when they can show gratitude towards their mother for all the things that she has done for them and continues to do for them. This day is then going to be a day of celebration and a special day. What this may illustrate is that their mother is loving and kind and has more or less always been there for them. She will then have been an archetypical mother and it is to be expected that they would love and appreciate her. Another Reality

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Woman Attract Mother-Enmeshed Men If She Has An Underdeveloped Feminine Aspect?

After being with a man who is overly focused on his mother for however long, a woman could be pretty fed up and feel drained. There can be a number of reasons as to why she is this way. First, there will be the fact she is sharing him with his mother, and, second, she is likely to be the one who is making most of the decisions and leading the relationship. She is then going to be deprived, on the one hand, and acting like a parent, on the other. Lop Sided

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Negative Feelings: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Be Attached To ‘Negative’ Feelings?

What someone may find, if they were able to step back and reflect on how they usually feel, is that they have the tendency to experience ‘negative’ feelings. So, they could often feel rejected, worthless, unloved, hopeless, helpless and abandoned. That’s not to say that these feelings will always be experienced at the same time but that these will be feelings that they are familiar with. Now, what could enter their mind is that they feel this way due to what is going on exte ally. It’s clear

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Sense Of Deserving: Can Developmental Trauma Stop Someone From Developing A Sense Of Deserving?

On one side, there is the ability to give, and, on the other, there is the ability to receive. When someone has the ability to both give and receive, it could be said that they will be in balance. The reason for this is that they will be playing their part by giving or contributing to the world and by being able to receive, they will be able to replenish themselves and then continue to give. Naturally, if only the former took place but not the latter, they wouldn’t be able to give a great deal and they would probably spend a lot of time feeling exhausted. An Analogy

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Childhood Trauma: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Believe That It Isn’t Safe Enough For Them To Exist?

For some people, feeling safe is just going to be part of life and this is likely to allow them to embrace life. However, for others, this is going to be something that they seldom experience and, due to this, it will be a challenge for them to embrace life. What this illustrates is how important it is for someone to feel safe in their own body if they want to live a fulfilling life. Now, regardless of whether someone does or doesn’t feel safe, they might not be consciously aware of how they experience life. In The Background

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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Healing Journey: Can Someone Feel Low When They Are Grieving Unmet Childhood Needs?

When someone is on a healing journey and is thus working through their emotional wounds, there are going to be moments when they will be in a lot of pain. The reason for this is that they will be facing up to the fact that certain needs won’t be met. These will be needs that go back to when they were a child, a toddler and even an infant. Once they have become aware of an unmet need, it will give them the chance to face the pain that they were unable to face all those years ago. A Time of Surrender

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Mother Wounds: Can Developmental Trauma Cause A Man To Put Women On A Pedestal?

When a man is around certain women, it might be hard for him to keep it together, so to speak. What this can mean is that during this time, he ends up feeling anxious and can’t function as he normally would. This is likely to be an experience that he has when he is around a woman to who he is attracted and would perhaps like to take things further. He is then just going to be in the presence of another human being but it will be as though this is not the case. Two Levels

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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Mother-Enmeshed Man: Is It A Positive Sign If A Mother-Enmeshed Man Starts To Get Angry About His Life?

It can be hard for a woman to understand, that’s if she is in a relationship with a man who is emotionally entangled with his mother, why her partner is so focused on his mother. This might not have stood out in the beginning, but as time passed, it will have become crystal clear. There will have been how available he was at the beginning and how available he is now. Due to how much time he will spend doing things for his mother, he won’t have a lot of time left to be there for her. Not an Issue

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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Relationships: Can Developmental Trauma Take Away Someone’s Desire To Attach To Others?

Just because someone is an interdependent human being, it doesn’t mean that they will act like one. They can spend a lot of time by themselves and have very little if any interest in being around others. This is not to say that they won’t have any friends but it is likely that they won’t be very close to or see them very often. And, if they do see one of their friends, it could show that this friend reached out to them. One Area

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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Trust: Can Childhood Trauma Stop Someone From Being Able To Trust Others?

According to Erik Erikson, the first developmental stage that someone goes through relates to whether they can or can’t trust others. Now, providing that their primary caregiver, who is likely to be their mother, is consistent with their care, this stage should go well. This will mean that this parent will need to consistently provide them with food, comfort, and caring. What this will do is help to settle down, if not completely resolve, the sense of uncertainty that they will have about the world. Strong Foundations

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Child Abuse: Did A Highly Critical Parent Exte alise Their Inner Critic?

During someone’s formative years, they may have had at least one parent who was very harsh. If so, it would have been normal for them to be put down by this parent and treated like they were nothing. Therefore, even if there were moments when this parent did treat them differently, it wouldn’t have had much of an impact. It also wouldn’t have mattered if they had another parent who was different. A Deep Impact

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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Love: Can Early Deprivation Give Someone The Need To Struggle For Love?

What is not uncommon is for someone to continually end up in relationships with people who are unable to be there for them. Ending up with people who are ‘emotionally unavailable’ is then going to be the norm. The outcome of this is that when they have been in a relationship, they will have been deprived of the emotional and perhaps physical nutrients that they needed. They would then have been in a relationship but it will have been as though they were single. The Experience

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Mother Wounds: Can A Man Expect To Be Humiliated By A Woman If He Had An Abusive Mother?

If a man was to think about the interactions that he has had with women over the years, he could find that he has often felt ashamed and worthless in their presence. He could see that in most of these cases, it was because he was often put down. Due to the experiences that he has had, he might typically prefer to keep his distance from a woman. This may mean that he only has casual encounters or he might not even go that far. Protection mode

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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Mother-Enmeshed Man: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Need To Develop A Healthy Sense of Entitlement?

One thing that a mother-enmeshed man will probably need to do is to get back in touch with all of his needs. The other part of this is that he will need to realise that his needs are not bad and that they are important. Currently, he can be in a position where he is not even aware of most of his needs, and if he was to reconnect to certain needs, he could feel the need to ignore them. As a result of this, it will be normal for him to be there for others and his mother, in particular. Positive Feedback

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Carry A Lot Of Disgust?

If a man’s life revolves around his mother, he is not going to have much time for another woman. If he was to get into a relationship, then, he is unlikely to have much time for her. His mother will come first and his partner will come second. In the beginning, his partner might not have much of an issue with this, but, as time passes, this is unlikely to be the case. Spread Too Thin

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Have A False Self?

If a man spends a lot of time doing things for his mother, he can come across as though he has no needs. Unlike a lot of people on the planet, then, he will be a selfless human being. By being this way, not only can his mother provide him with a lot of approval, plenty of other people can too. Therefore, he can be used to receiving a fair amount of positive feedback from others. A Steady Stream of positivity

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Need To Get Back Into His Body?

Now, although a man can’t leave his body and get into another person’s body, what he can do is mentally leave his body and focus on another person. When this takes place, he won’t have a strong connection with what is going on inside him but he will be aware of what is going on inside another. If a man is in this position, he can be focused on his mother and what is going on for her. Instead of being rooted in his body and in tune with his needs and feelings, then, he will be caught up in her needs and feelings. Self-Neglect

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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