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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Early Deprivation: Can Someone Find It Hard To Say No If They Had Abusive Parents?

What someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that it is difficult for them to make it clear when they don’t want to do something. Instead, they can find that they have the inclination to go along with things that they don’t want to do. They might see that they have only just started to be his way, or they might see that this is how they have been for as long as they can remember. If they can relate to the latter, they are likely to be well and truly fed up with experiencing life his way. One Area

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Early Deprivation: Why Would A Man Have Had A Devouring Mother?

If a man were to think about what his mother is like, he could think about someone who is controlling, critical, cold and domineering. Therefore, when he is around her, he is not going to feel free, supported, loved or valued. Due to this, he might think that he needs to spend as little time as possible around her. He may even have moments when he thinks about cutting her out of his life, with this being seen as the only way for him to protect himself from her undermining nature. Inner conflict

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Mother-Enmeshed Men: Was A Mother-Enmeshed Man Brought Up To Be His Mother's Emotional Regulator?

If a man spends a lot of time doing things for his mother and often thinks about her when he is not with her, he is going to be directing a lot of his time and energy toward her. Thanks to this, he might not have much of a life. And, if he is dating or in a relationship with a woman, he might not have much time for her, and when he is with her, he might not be very present. This is something that she might often bring up. One Outcome

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Mother-Enmeshed Men: Was A Mother-Enmeshed Man Brought Up To Feel Responsible For His Mothers Moods?

What a man may find, if he were to step back and reflect on his life, is that when his mother feels down, he usually does what he can to make her feel better. For example, he might call her if he is not free, but if he is free, he might go and see her. If he does go and see her, this could be a time when he will take her something to cheer her up. Or if he doesn’t take her anything, when he is there, he could try to make her laugh. Another outcome

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Repression: Can Repression Cause Someone To Be Aware But Unconscious?

If someone has an area of their life that is not very fulfilling, they can look into what they can do to change it. During this time, they can learn about how, once they become aware of how they are behaving, they will be able to change the behaviours that are not serving them and thus, change this area of their life. For example, they might see that they continually end up with people who are emotionally unavailable and out of reach. So, they can look into what signs they need to become aware of that show that another person is not ready to have a real relationship. Clarity

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Early Deprivation: Can A Man Have Sex To Receive The Love He Missed Out On As A Child?

Over the years, a man may have spent a fair amount of time learning about how to please a woman sexually. So, he might have watched videos, read articles and books, and had numerous conversations with other men in order to improve this area of his life. Along with this, he might have had sex with a number of women over the years. This could mean that he typically only has casual encounters and seldom dates, let alone has relationships with women. A Common Occurrence

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Early Deprivation: What Can Happen If Mans Mother Projected Her Disowned Darkness Into Him?

What a man may find, if he were to step back and reflect on his life, is that he often feels worthless, down and even has moments when he thinks about ending his life. He might see that he has only started to feel this way in recent years, or he might see that he has been this way for as long as he can remember. Now, he might decide to keep this to himself, or he might reach out to a trusted friend. If he does reach out and talks about what is going on for him, his friend could be very understanding and supportive. Exte al Support

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Woman Blame Mother-Enmeshed Men To Avoid Her Emotional Wounds?

Not too long ago, a woman may have been with a man who was overly focused on his mother. And, now that it is over, she could feel tired and confused, but also greatly relieved. This is because she is likely to have given a lot while receiving very little, and yet, no matter what she did, it might not have changed his behaviour. Thus, due to this, it will make sense if she is thankful that it has come to an end. The Same Old Story

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Depression: Can Depression Be A Defence Against Pain?

Even though someone might have been able to function and perhaps function very well for most of their life, it could now be very difficult for them to do so. The reason for this is that they could generally have very little, if any, energy. If so, it won’t just be a challenge for them to do things; they won’t have much interest in doing anything. As a result, it is likely to be hard for them to perform at work, they might struggle to eat, and might rarely see friends or family. One Big Battle

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Human Doing: Can Someone Act Like A Human Doing If They Had An Unavailable Mother?

Even though someone is a human being and can, thus, be as well as do, it can be as if they only have the ability to do. They are then going to be more like a human doing than a human being. So, practically from the moment that they wake up until the moment that they go to sleep, they can be on the go. They might work five days a week, or they could work seven days a week. A lot going on But if they only work five days a week, when they are not working, they could be working on other things. For example, they might have their own business, or they could volunteer.

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Lose The Ability To Feel Their Feelings?

Although someone has an emotional self, it doesn’t mean that they will always realise this. The reason for this is that they might typically be out of touch with how they feel. Due to this, they can have a lot going on at a mental level and often experience strong sensations, but that will be about it. However, if this is just what is normal, they might not question why they are experiencing life in this way. Stepping Back

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man’s Mother Unable To See Beyond Her Own Needs?

If a man, who has the inclination to focus on and meet his mother's needs, were to step back and reflect on his life, what he may find is that he is ignoring himself. He can see that unless he is asleep or working, he is often doing things for her. What he can also see is that if he is not doing something for her, he can be trying to make her feel better. Thanks to this, he is going to be giving a lot to her, while receiving very little, if anything, back. Time For A Change

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Woman Energetically Unavailable If She Ends Up With Mother-Enmeshed Men?

A few weeks or months ago, a woman may have been with a man who was overly focused on his mother. Due to this, he would have directed a lot of time and energy toward his mother, having very little time for her. At the beginning, though, he might have spent less time doing things for his mother and been more available. If so, as the weeks and months passed, this would have gradually changed. An Exhausting Time

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Woman’s Unconscious Mind Cause Her To End Up With Mother-Enmeshed Men?

If a woman is in a position where she has been with a number of men who were overly focused on their mothers and emotionally out of reach, or even men who were emotionally unavailable, she is likely to be well and truly fed up. She could see that this area of her life has been this way for as long as she can remember. This will mean that she has wanted to be with a man who is emotionally unavailable and able to have a real relationship for a while, but she hasn’t been able to experience this. It is then to be expected that she wouldn’t be happy about this area of her life.

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Mother-Enmeshed Men: Would Wouldn’t A Mother-Enmeshed Man Be Able To Accept That He Is Enmeshed?

A man can not only be overly focused on his mother, but he can also be oblivious to how caught up he is in her world. However, even if this was pointed out, it doesn’t mean that he would be able to see clearly. If, then, he were to end up dating a woman and she were able to see what was going on, she might not get very far. As she is on the outside and perhaps has been in this position before, it could be obvious to her. Out of reach

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Woman Who Attracts Mother-Enmeshed Men Be Held Back By Her Friends?

After having been with a number of men who were overly focused on their mother and were emotionally out of reach, a woman could feel helpless and hopeless. If this is so, this won’t be a surprise, as this area of her life will be anything but affirming. Over the years, she might have shared a lot about what is going on in this area of her life with her friends. Throughout his time, they might have largely been supportive and had her back when she was not in a good way. One Scenario

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Early Deprivation: Can A Woman Be Emotionally Unavailable If She Experienced Early Deprivation?

For a little while now, a woman might have wanted to be with a man who is not just physically but also emotionally available. In fact, she might have wanted this for most, if not all, of her adult life. What can then be normal is for her to have been with men who were physically in reach but emotionally out of reach. Thanks to this, it wouldn’t have been possible for her to experience a deep emotional connection with them and feel seen, heard and supported. The outcome

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Early Deprivation: Is It A Good Idea For An Abusive Parent To Contact Their Estranged Adult Child?

At this point in time, a parent who didn’t treat their adult child very well throughout their early years may want to get back in touch with them and have a relationship with them. What this can show is that they haven’t spoken to them for weeks, months or even years. When they last spoke, they might have had an argument, and their adult child might have made it clear that they don’t want to talk to them anymore. Since then, they might have thought about how they miss their adult child and want them in their life. Another Reason

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Early Deprivation: Why Would Someone Continually Replay Their Depriving Childhood?

If someone were to think about the last relationship they were in, they can be filled with frustration, anger and even a sense of despair. This can be because the person they were with was not unavailable. It could go further than this, though, as they might have been verbally and even physically abusive. As a result of what it was like, it might have taken them a number of weeks, months or longer to recover. A Patte

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Relationships: Why Would A Man Get Back With A Woman Who Abused Him?

For a number of weeks, months or even years, a man may have been in a relationship with a woman who didn’t treat him very well. This may have been a time when she would often put him down, humiliate him, disregard his needs and feelings, ignore him and even physically harm him. Due to this, this is likely to have been a time when it was normal for him to feel low and down. He might have ended up losing all motivation and had very little interest in doing just about anything. Two Stages

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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