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Tapping Your Anger Away With EFT

Anger is a part of all our lives. If we’re really fortunate, we may not have a lot of people around us that make us mad. If we’re less fortunate, we may find that every day is a test for us, and that we spend an awful lot of time trying to stay calm in the face of irritations, aggravations and stressors. I was married to a man for 12 years that didn’t think anything I did was right. He infuriated me by nit picking about every detail of our lives. If I went to the trouble of baking a cake for him, it was too dry. If I cooked a nice dinner, the food wasn’t hot enough.

Primary topic: Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)

Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)

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Creepy, Crawly Things - EFT For Phobias

Spiders. Roaches. Ants. Worms. Snakes. Lizards. If all the hair on the back of your neck is not standing up now, you’re probably in the minority. There just aren’t that many people who like creepy, crawly things. There are the insect collectors, and the snake lovers and people who just adore spiders, but for most of us, myself included, those critters are all pretty low on our list of favorite things. Although I don’t love creepy, crawly critters, I can honestly say that I’m not normally scared of them either. My daughtersnake is a snake love who kept a pet python for years.

Primary topic: Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)

Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)

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7 Ways That EFT Can Improve Your Life

EFT, or Emotional Freedom Techniques, can make a huge difference in the quality of your life. There are so many ways in which EFT can help you to live your best life that it’s difficult to narrow it down to 7. EFT can help with both emotional issues and physical issues and if you are diligent about tapping, the results will come. Following are 7 of the most compelling reasons to learn how to use EFT, and to utilize it on a daily basis. 1. EFT can lower your stress level. Stress can impact on your life and your health in many negative ways.

Primary topic: Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)

Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)

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EFT and the Dentist

Nobody enjoys going to the dentist. It's something that we all know we have to do, but most of us dread. Even routine dental work can evoke an "oh, no!" feeling in a lot of us. I suspect that a lot of people had experiences similar to those that I had as a child. My parents took me to a kindly old dentist (and I DO mean old!) whose equipment was so old that what should have been white was yellow. He always said the same thing: "This won't hurt a bit.", but it often did hurt. I learned not to believe him, and that distrust extended to every other dentist, for my entire life.

Primary topic: Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)

Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)

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When You Feel Stuck in a Relationship

I lived through a bad marriage…well, a terrible one…so I know all about being stuck in a relationship. I know what it’s like to be miserable every single day, and still stay. I know what it’s like to wish that you were anywhere except where you are. I know what it’s like to feel happy when your husband is gone, and sad when he gets back home. Looking back from where I am now, I’m amazed that I was able to endure that marriage for as long as I did, but I was scared of leaving.

Primary topic: Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)

Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)

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EFT and the Power of Forgiveness

In 2005, after several years of chronic pain and all the misery that goes along with that, I was diagnosed with fibromyalgia and chronic fatigue syndrome. My rheumatologist’s solution was to immediately medicate me. I was prescribed an antidepressant, 2 pain killers, and something to help me sleep at night. Admittedly, I did get some relief from the medication. Unfortunately, with fibromyalgia you still have bad days.

Primary topic: Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)

Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)

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EFT For Dealing With Limiting Beliefs

Limiting beliefs are universal. No matter who we are, or what we’re doing, it’s always a bit hard to step outside of our comfort zone. Doing something new and different can be intimidating. Even if it’s something that we want with every fiber of our being, there can be things holding us back from achieving what we want. This is a perfect time for folks to listen for those tail enders.

Primary topic: Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)

Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)

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EFT For Grief and Pain For a Birthmother

Just forty minutes of EFT dissolved a lifetime of pain and grief for a birth mother that I worked with, and gave her back her life. I specialize in working with adoptees and birth mothers, and would like to share a story about a birth-mom client that I recently worked with. Nancy (not her real name) was birth mother to a 16 year old daughter relinquished in what was supposed to have been an open adoption. An agreement was reached betwee Nancy and the adoptive parents which was supposed to have provided for regular visits with the daughter that Nancy relinquished.

Primary topic: Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)

Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)

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An Attitude of Gratitude: EFT For Recognizing The Gifts in Your Life

There are times when all of us get into the “poor me” mindset. My house isn’t big enough, my kids aren’t good enough, my partner isn’t attentive enough, my job isn’t fulfilling enough. Somehow, it’s easy to see that glass as half empty. At the time that we’re doing that complaining, we are overlooking some seriously important and wonderful parts of our lives. Maybe your house isn’t as large as you’d like, but the fact that you HAVE a house is something to be grateful for, especially in this rough economy.

Primary topic: Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)

Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)

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Learning To Like Yourself With EFT

Not liking ourselves is an issue for many of us. Even though we may project a different face to the world, deep down inside far too many of us don’t like ourselves very much. It seems to always be easier to find things to criticize about ourselves than to find things to praise. How often have you found yourself making some kind of silly mistake, and then saying to yourself, inside your head, “You big idiot!”? Self talk is a definite indicator of how well we like or don’t like ourselves.

Primary topic: Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)

Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)

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The Nervous Bridegroom and How EFT Helped

Recently I got a phone call from the distraught mother of a potential groom. This mother called me because her son was supposed to get married in just a few days, and was suddenly getting cold feet and telling his mom that he wasn’t sure he could go through with it. Her first question to her son was “Do you love her?”, referring to her soon to be daughter in law. The answer was an immediate YES! The next question was “So what’s the problem?”. It turned out that the problem was her son’s doubts about himself. What if he failed miserably at marriage?

Primary topic: Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)

Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)

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Dealing With Divorce

Divorce is traumatic. Having been through it personally, I can speak to the fact that even if you are ending a terrible marriage, there is still trauma and grieving. You may not be grieving the reality of your marriage, but rather grieving the death of all your hopes and dreams..what you hoped your marriage would become. When I ended a twelve year disaster of a marriage with divorce, I never expected to feel anything except relief that it was finally over with. I was shocked and dismayed to find that I felt a deep sadness over what my marriage might have become and never did.

Primary topic: Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)

Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)

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No More Donuts For Me!

Recently I was leading a small group of tappers in weekly tap-togethers. Once of our main objectives was to try eliminating unhealthy junk food from our diets. When you have a weakness for a certain kind of snack food, it can be incredibly difficult to not eat that particular kind of food.

Primary topic: Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)

Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)

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Claustrophobia Gone With EFT

Claustrophobia can be a crippling condition for people who suffer with it. It can severely limit the things they do and the places they go. For others, they may not even realize that they are claustrophobic until something happens to trigger the condition. This was the case for me. I never liked small, enclosed places, but never really had a problem until I was sent for an MRI last year. Even though the place I was sent did what are called "open MRIs", there is still a very small area enclosed on 3 sides and an open area on the 4th side.

Primary topic: Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)

Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)

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Using EFT to Cope With Everyday Stress

Everyone has those times in their lives. The kids are driving you crazy and can’t go out because it’s raining. You partner just came home from work grumbling and swearing under their breath. You feel like you’re coming down with a cold, and, oh yes, you just found out that you had a check bounce! For most of us, one or two stressful issues can be handled, but once we reach a certain point, we are overwhelmed with our lives and the level of our stress.

Primary topic: Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)

Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)

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EFT For Dealing With a Problem Cat

I am the mom to 3 wonderful and loving cats, each of whom I adore. Each of them is very different from the others, and very special in his or her own unique way, and my daughter and I have taken great pleasure from having these three as a part of our lives. Of the three cats, the most timid is Blue. She is a beautiful cat, brown and white, with the most beautiful blue eyes I’ve ever seen in a cat, hence her name. My daughter rescued Blue when she was a kitten and her mother was run over by a car.

Primary topic: Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)

Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)

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The Pain of Adoptees

No, I’m not an adoptee myself. But I am the owner of the Finding in Florida reunion registry, as well as the Finding in Florida Mailing List, which is about 350 strong. I’ve worked with adoptees and birth families for 16 years. I’ve also facilitated 2 different adoption search and support groups in my local area. I’ve dealt with LOTS of adoptees over the years. The most common pai I’ve found with adoptees is the pain of abandonment. Even if logically you know that you weren’t actually abandoned, that doesn’t seem to stop adoptees from feeling that way.

Primary topic: Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)

Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)

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Putting Yourself First

Are you one of those people who is constantly doing things for others, while always putting yourself at the bottom of your own list of priorities? If so, it’s time to look at how you move yourself to the top of the list, where you belong. When you consistently put others ahead of yourself, putting all your energy into doing for them, by the time that you get to yourself, you’ve used up all your energy. There is a big difference between being selfish and recognizing that you are important too.

Primary topic: Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)

Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)

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The Magic of EFT

EFT is magic! Okay, maybe it's not actually magic, but the results are so amazing that it's hard to remember that. EFT has had a profound affect on my life. I had been diagnosed with fibromyalgia, chronic fatigue syndrome and osteoarthritis. I was in pain every minute of every day. I was taking prescription painkillers daily, and stronger painkillers nightly. Even, so I had bad days, and sometimes really bad days. Thanks to EFT, I am now virtually pain free. No more of the daily misery of struggling just to do normal tasks. No more prescription painkillers.

Primary topic: Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)

Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)

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How Am I Angry? Let Me Count The Ways!

Anger is one of the strongest emotions that we experience. It can range from mild annoyance to full blown, over the top fury that consumes you. Feeling anger when something happens that is hurtful or upsetting is normal. Unfortunately, for a lot of us it’s also normal to continue to carry anger for years, or even for a lifetime. What we don’t realize when we continue to carry anger over our past is the toll that it takes on us. Anger is an active emotion.

Primary topic: Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)

Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)

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Worry Free With EFT!

Anxiety and worry are part of everyone’s life these days. Marrying, having children, working, getting the bills paid..those are all anxiety provoking. There really isn’t a way to eliminate anxiety and worry from our lives, but by using EFT, we can neutralize a lot of that worry, allowing us to come from a much more positive place in our day to day lives. One of the most frustrating kinds of worry is when we worry about things over which we have absolutely no control.

Primary topic: Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)

Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)

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Forgiving Yourself: EFT For Self Forgiveness

Forgiveness can be a contentious topic. When someone has wronged you, and you’re carrying a lot of hurt and anger at that person, others around you will tell you that you need to forgive. Forgiveness means different things to different people. To some, forgiving means absolving someone of guilt for something they have done. For many others, including myself, forgiveness does not mean that you’re saying that the person who hurt you is absolved of guilt. It means that you realize that in order to live your life, you need to emotionally let go of what may have been holding you back.

Primary topic: Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)

Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)

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Adoptees and Regrets

I’ve been working with adoptees for nearly 20 years now, and I thought I had heard pretty much every regret there was to hear from an adoptee, but yesterday I heard one I hadn’t heard before, and it caused me to feel a profound sadness. An adoptee contacted me about scheduling an EFT session, and on my intake form she said that one of her biggest regrets was having been born.

Primary topic: Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)

Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)

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Adoption Search: Opening a Can of Worms?

Adoption search is a complex topic. There are so many things that can happen during or at the end of a search that it boggles the mind. Adoptees in search of birth families seem to have the best track record. Since they have access to non-identifying information, they have an advantage over birth family members. Their adoptive parents may also have information, even identifying information, conce ing their family of origin. All of this can be extremely helpful in a search. At the end of an adoptee’s search, the situation can go in different ways.

Primary topic: Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)

Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)

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Adoptees: Will Everyone Abandon Me?

Fear of abandonment is a a very common issue for adoptees, as is anger over having been abandoned by their birthmother. After all, if their own biological mother didn’t care enough to stick around and be a part of their life, why should anyone else? Sadly, many adoptees blame themselves on some deep level that even they don’t really understand. They think that there is something wrong with them, and that’s why the woman who gave birth to them didn’t keep and raise them.

Primary topic: Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)

Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)

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Pulled Muscles: Can EFT Help?

Recently I had one of those experiences that we probably all have from time to time, but wish we had skipped it. I pulled a muscle, and anyone who has done that knows how painful it can be. I’ve done it before, so I knew immediately what was wrong, but the thought of dealing with a lot of pain for days didn’t appeal much to me. The last time I pulled a muscle, it was in my chest, and every breath that I took hurt. The pain was so bad that it scared me, and I saw my doctor.

Primary topic: Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)

Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)

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Coming Out of the "Birthmom Closet"

I am birthmother to a 41 year old son. Back when I was pregnant with him, mine was a shameful secret, because only “bad girls” got pregnant. I’m happy to say that the world has changed a lot in that respect. Girls who become pregnant today face a very different set of problems tha I did. Many girls today even chose to keep and raise their children, an opportunity that was not imaginable 40 years ago. Over the last 18 years I have gotten to know many birthmothers who relinquished their children in the sixties and seventies.

Primary topic: Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)

Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)

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Birthmoms: Do They Have The Right To Search?

Being a birthmom myself, this is an issue that is near and dear to my heart. I spent many years feeling that I did not have the right to search for my son. When the social worker at the adoption agency told me that by signing the relinquishment papers I was giving up my right to ever have my son in my life again, I believed her. Emotionally, I tucked my son away in a corner of my mind, and only acknowledged him when he snuck out for birthdays, holidays or other special occasions.

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Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)

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Work Related Stress and EFT

Lots of us live with work related stress. I did for a very long time. I didn’t handle it well. I seemed to be in a constant state of upset, as my high stress job impacted on my life and on my emotions. My boss was a jerk, my deadlines were unrealistic, and I was only noticed if I screwed up. Not a pleasant way to exist. When I could no longer stand the unending stress and accompanying headaches (and lets not forget the crying binges) I started looking around for a magic bullet. No more talking therapy. I’d been there and done that and found it totally ineffective.

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Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)

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Adoption Search and Rejection

Rejection. It’s a word that nobody involved in an adoption search wants to think about. Unfortunately, rejection is something that every searcher needs to consider. It happens. It’s terribly sad for all conce ed, and can emotionally deeply wound the person being rejected, but it is one of the possible outcomes of any search. Having personally been through a 7 year search myself, and having held the hands of hundreds of searching adoptees and birthmothers, I know how common it is for searchers to say that they’re prepared for any outcome in their search.

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Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)

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My Aching Head

Headaches…we all get them, and they’re not much fun. Often our headaches are a result of stress, anxiety, anger, frustration and other negative emotions.

Primary topic: Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)

Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)

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EFT & Music: Tap in the Happiness!

EFT is most often thought of as a way of dealing with emotional or physical problems, and part of the tapping process is to name and tap on the negative emotions that you feel around any given situation. What many people don’t realize, however, is that EFT can also be used to intensify the good feelings you experience. For most of us, listening to music brings back memories. Most often they are good memories of happy times, the kinds of memories that make you smile and look back with nostalgia.

Primary topic: Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)

Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)

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EFT and the Amazing Disappearing Hives

As an EFT practitioner, I have many examples of how our mind can cause actual physical changes in our body. I have never seen a case more compelling, however, then an experience that I had myself. I was scheduled to do a session with someone that I was a bit intimidated by. By the day before the session, I was full of anxiety about the session, although I really wasn’t at all sure what the reason was for all that anxiety. I woke on the morning of the scheduled session and noticed some itching in the palms of my hands.

Primary topic: Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)

Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)

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Not Good Enough

Do you present a confident face to the world, while in your heart of hearts you feel like you’re not really good enough? Maybe that means not good enough at your job, maybe it means not a good enough mother or wife, maybe it just means not a good enough person. Whatever your feelings of inadequacy relate to, know that EFT can help you change how you feel about yourself, so that the confident face you present to the world becomes your true face. Often there are childhood issues related to not feeling that you’re good enough.

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Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)

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