Mitchell Milch

LCSW

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Couples Counseling, Life Transitions; Divorce, Stress & Anger Management, Addictions Expert

Mitchell Milch

Mitchell Milch Quick Facts

Main Areas
Marriage & Family Counseling, Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy
Career Focus
Psychotherapist, Author, Instructor
Affiliation
IPPNJ, NASW

I have worked as a psychotherapist for 16 years and my commitment to provide my patients quality care has motivated me to continue my postgraduate education to earn a 6 year postgraduate certification as a psychoanalyst. Teaching at the university level and writing have also helped me expand my knowledge base for the benefit of my patients.

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Here you come with your signature limp and stifled grimace of pain. Your stark look of disappointment suggests that ice, anti-inflammatory drugs and electro stimulation therapy have collectively done little to alleviate your demoralizing leg pains. Your doctor, the reluctant physician, knows what’s coming next and how he would like to respond. However, fidelity to his Hippocratic Oath will not permit a surrender to the impulse to run and hide unde eath his desk.

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As a social worker I spent 6 years assessing the mental health treatment needs of adults who get caught in the revolving door to a state criminal justice system in New England. In piecing together the histories of these clients I spoke with their parents when these opportunities arise. What was often the case during these interviews is that these parents pled ignorance when it comes to how events in the lives of their families impacted their children. Clearly, these parents were either unwilling and/or unable to empathize and build bridges to their children’s rich inner worlds.

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This article attempts to make sense of our vulnerabilities to developing abusive or to use a more popular term; addictive relationships to activities of daily living. I will review the outstanding features of those of us caught up in addictive relationships. Then, I will highlight some ...

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With this article I am mindful of running the risk of opening a cosmic can of spiritual worms. So, I will stubbornly stay above the fray and opt out on debating the righteousness of any one set of spiritual beliefs versus another. I write this article hopeful it may engage your curiosity about ...

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Anger is a lit match that can be blown on and cooled or thrown onto a pile of paper on which kerosene is poured. It’s an opportunity for friends and lovers to resolve conflicts to the benefit of both parties and bring these parties closer to each other or it can be an invitation to start a war ...

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There is no doubt that divorce is a weighty matter both literally and figuratively. This often calamitous and life changing event can flood us with emotions and render our defenses as porous as Swiss cheese. During these times of crisis the ambush of poorly understood and thus often, ...

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Watch Jane or Bob max out on their credit cards. Is that their partner Jim or Mary registering a feeble protest? Listen to Spot bark and scratch his neck in befuddlement when Jim or Mary pay off the abused credit cards and then, look stunned when the sun rises on another spending spree? ...

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Survivor Guilt On the evening of the 6th anniversary of 9/11 I watched the heart wrenching television images of children of those whose lives were tragically taken on that ill fated morning in 2001. These images stirred me to write about the topic of survivor guilt that is never too far from ...

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People don’t fall into neat little categories no matter how hard we try to classify them. Still, in my psychotherapy practice I do notice a strong correlation between folks with chronic anger management problems and those who exhibit self defeating personality traits. These clients’ identities are often organized around a core belief that they are “victims” by virtue of the fact that they continue to suffer from parental improprieties long after growing up and leaving home.

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Single Parents And Security Blankets Among other things, a good marriage is a salve against the slings and arrows of outrageous fortune. It is also a shelter from the storm of Murphy’s Law and, a safe haven of mutual support and security where we insulate ourselves from the impersonal and ...

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At the risk of offending my reading audience the title of this article drips with sarcasm to nndrive home a point. It’s probably no surprise to any of you men that as a group we have nnbeen reluctantly dragged by the tide of reformist movements that have revamped gender nnroles. ...

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We have finite energy stores to manage our lives. If we spend an inordinate amount of time planning our meals, cooking, eating and sadly, recovering from episodes of over indulgence, we may not have enough energy left for other matters of importance. Over dependence on one form of nurturance does not adequately compensate for others. Self-deprivations increase our appetites for more readily available substitutes. Too much of one good thing never satisfies unfulfilled appetites for others. This is the anatomy of disordered eating

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Hello and thank you for visiting my experts page!

Please take this opportunity to tour my website at www.healthymindsets.com and listen to the stories of folks just like you who took their inspired visions seriously and made them self-fulfilling prophecies. Below are examples of challenges overcome by patients who became clear on what they wanted to change, and then learned to attract responses of others consistent with their reinvented self- images.

Psychotherapy: Normal Folks Solving Problems Of Every Day Living

Will you talk to anyone about your relationship except your partner because discussions with your partner are exasperating, painful and depressing cycles of attack and counterattack?

Do you find yourself feeling compelled to please your partner, failing no matter how hard you try, and getting no respect and consideration for trying? To make matters worse do you find yourself unwilling to stand up for yourself for fear of being rejected and/or abandoned?

Does your self esteem rise and fall like an unstable stock market as if everyone controls how you feel about yourself and treat yourself except you?

Do you expect perfection of yourself and others so as to feel unhappy with yourself and others, leaving others hurt and unhappy with you?

Do you ever feel so empty, numb or cut off from yourself that the pain of feeling useless and worthless to yourself and others drives you to drink, drug, eat, gamble, spend, or have sex to escape your misery?

If you can identify with the stories above then, you are not alone and I can help. I will provide you a place of safety and security and together we will answer the question: What tools, strategies, and mindsets do you need to learn from myself for you to improve the quality of your life?

How Does Psychotherapy Work?

A greenhouse is a controlled environment that establishes as close to ideal conditions as possible to protect and nurture growing plants during their stages of greatest vulnerability to potentially inhospitable outside forces. The greenhouse is an excellent metaphor to describe the therapeutic alliance. It’s a warm environment controlled to maximize conditions that encourage and promote your freedom and safety to experiment risk free, with new ways of relating to and implementing effective strategies for achieving your most cherished goals.

Another helpful metaphor and teaching tool is the renovation of a building. Just like a building that depends on scaffolding to maintain the structure’s integrity while it’s weight bearing supports are being reinforced or replaced, I lend my experience, creativity and training to help you maintain the structural integrity or current infrastructure of mindsets you currently use to navigate your way through life. Meanwhile, together we replace, rehabilitate, strengthen and rebuild obsolete, self-defeating, misleading and ineffective mindsets that have brought you into psychotherapy. Once the renovation is complete, you will have grown in your trust and appreciation of your creative capacities for engineering desired change in your life so as to render the scaffolding( my services) no longer necessary.

Contacting Mitchell Milch

Mitchell Milch, LCSW

216 Dayton Street, 2nd Floor, Office #1(Please visit Contact page on my website for detailed driving directions)

Ridgewood, New Jersey 07450

mhmilch@healthymindsets.com

www.healthymindsets.com

201-647-6607

How to get started

I am available to meet for a consultation from Monday-Friday, 8AM-10 PM. Please do not hesitate to call or write if you have any questions about my practice. I am contracted with a host of insurance companies and ofer a sliding payment scale when warranted.

e-mail: mhmilch@healthyindsets.com

Ph) 201-647-6607

Address: 100 Dayton Street, 1st Floor

Ridgewood, NJ 07450