What are the reasons behind the problems in Marriage?

When people make a significant decision to spend the rest of their lives together and get married, they embark on a journey full of hope and promises to each other. In the beginning, the married couples feel they have a bright future that is full of optimism and anticipation. After a certain period, flaws start to appear in the marriage. rnCouples start to see faults in each other and within their marriage. Invariably this manifests in arguments, conflicts, differences of opinions, misunderstandings, unfulfilled expectations, lack of communication, irritating habits and the inability to adjust with each other. Thus, a cycle of misunderstanding and negative opinions towards each other develops and the marriage begins to become a strain. rnParam Pujya Dada Bhagwan has provided solutions through spiritual science that can heal, support and resolve problems in a marriage. Spiritual Science Provides Scientific Solutions to Overcome Difficulties in Marriages: - Do not interfere in each other’s affairs 1) In every marriage, husband and wife have their own departments or areas of work. For example, the wife takes care of the kitchen and household department and brings up of the children. The husband will manage the financial department to manage their living. Learn to respect each other’s areas of work. Conflicts occur when either one of the spouses meddles in areas which they know very little about. So, try not to interfere in each other’s roles unless asked to do so. 2) If you learn to respect each other’s boundaries of expertise, then married life will run smoothly.rnOnly speak the words that you would like to hear rnIf either one of you has been upset, then wait until things cool down then utter the following words of ‘Guru Mantra’ (words that give results) to them. “No matter what you say to me and no matter how upset you get with me, I miss you when you are not around!.” Express these words to them ‘that you do not like being separated from them’. 3) Do not be shy in expressing your love and appreciation towards your partner. Never assume your spouse knows how you feel about them. 4) Change the words from 'mine' and 'yours' to ‘ours’ and ‘we’ - this will eliminate quarrels and rivalry and affirm unity. Unity in Opinions - To avoid differences of opinions, conflicts and arguments try this: 1) Learn to adjust – The person who wants peace and happiness in life has to take this initiative and make adjustments whenever needed. For example- if either of the spouses says ‘I want to eat this particular dish or I want to do this’ then learn the art of making adjustments and go along with their wishes. The more you learn to adjust the more you will be taken care of. 2) Do not allow differences of opinion to enter into your marriage, be strong and sincere to this belief. Opinions are a major cause of destruction in a marriage. So make sure not to have any predetermined beliefs and opinions about your spouse and if you happen to have them, clean your slate by asking for forgiveness within. - Harmony in marriage 1) Your inner intent should be that you want to maintain harmony at home. If you keep harmony and peace at home, you will win over the world. 2) Have the intent not to hurt any living being to the slightest extent through my mind, my speech, and body. The science behind this intent will bring forth. 3) It may not be your intention to hurt anyone, but sometimes it may happen. Then you can ask for forgiveness for the hurt that you have caused. Since you cannot instantly change your behavior, you ask for forgiveness and this is a way that will help change your conduct. This works scientifically because by asking for forgiveness for your behavior, you are no longer protecting your conduct and over time you will alter your behavior. Gradually you will experience harmony in your relationship. Akram Vignan has shown many married couples how to live their lives in harmony with their spouse through the attainment of Self-realization, the realization of who you really are. By understanding the science behind cause and effect in their relationships, many couples have understood how to live happy and a conflict-free marriage. They have learned to adjust to each other when misunderstanding happens. Their relationships are based on mutual respect, honesty and truthfulness. Such is the science behind the knowledge of the Self which brings bliss in your marital life.