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Everyone is searching for a happier and stronger relationship; but with the jobs, kids, running the household and other mundane responsibilities – it can be really hard to maintain that spark that keeps the love alive! Here are 7 secrets for rekindling the spark & romance for a stronger relationship.
If you want to be competitive in today’s global economy, you must raise your emotional intelligence. Emotional Intelligence consists of the ability to recognize, use, understand and manage our emotions in a way that helps develop healthy relationships in both our professional and personal lives. Succinctly, Emotional Intelligence influences the way we react to stress and the way we interact with others. Emotional intelligence is composed of four main attributes: 1. Self-awareness – the ability to recognize one’s own emotions and how they influence one’s behaviors and thoughts.
Before the collapse of Wall Street you would have rarely read an article in The Wall Street journal, The New York Times Business Section, SUCCESS Magazine or any other serious business publications discuss the importance of “soft skills” and relationship building. The past few years have seen the topic of “soft skills” and relationship building appear more frequently because companies are increasingly more cognizant of the value of developing and sustaining relationships with both their clients/customers and their employees.
It would be impossible for me to tell you how many times I have heard someone say: “I shouldn't have to ask for “it” (whatever “it” might be) from his or her partner. If my partner really loved me, he/she would know what I want.” And I often find myself replying: “Oh really, so your partner is a mind reader? Amazing.” Response: “Come on Dr. Patty Ann, you know what I mean, if he/she really knew me they would know what I want. I shouldn't have to ask for it.” My brilliant reply is quite simple: “You could not be more wrong!”
If you are one of the many women underpaid for your work, it is your individual responsibility to make sure you do what you can to correct this situation. Sure, there are many exte al variables that prevent women from getting paid what they are worth, but each individual woman must handle her own situation and insist she earn the salary she deserves. (Leave it to the Sheryl Sandberg’s of the world to spearhead policy and legislative change to close the gender wage gap; but until these changes occur, you must take action into your hands.)
Spring is a time for renewal and fresh beginnings. People come out of hibe ation from the long winter months to enjoy the outdoors and fresh air. Many people plant seeds in their garden and spruce up the inside of their homes by throwing out old things and replacing them with fresh new items. Now is a great time to do a little spring-cleaning in your relationship as well! Over time, hanging onto emotional baggage from past fights and hurts fills our relationship with emotional baggage and a heaviness that doesn’t allow for positivity and loving feelings to spring forth.
Our wedding vows include the words: “for richer or poorer” – but as we all know, keeping this vow is easier said than done. For almost three decades, I’ve seen love diminish when couples fight over money! To avoid these damaging fights about money, follow these five (5) simple guidelines for handling money issues throughout your relationship - so you don’t have to end up fighting about money.
Sight, sound, touch, smell and taste – these are our five senses which we are going to use to create love and romance in your bedroom this Valentine’s.
According to a recent study by Salary.com, 55 percent of women felt nervous about negotiating their salaries, compared to 39 percent of men. Some common reasons for this are that many women feel as if they need permission to ask for a raise and they lack confidence with their negotiating skills. There are other reasons for women not asking to get paid what they are worth, but for now my focus is to provide you with tools for effective negotiation. To insure women get paid what they are worth, following are six tips for effectively negotiating salaries and total compensation packages.
Women know true success is found within our relationships - not money. The way we communicate with ourselves and with others ultimately determines the overall quality of our life – and the success or lack thereof – of everything we do! One of the essential skills needed for success in business and life is predicated upon effective communication skills. Below are the 3 most effective communication skills necessary for creating success in your business and your life.
Networking is all about developing relationships with people - with the goal of one day doing business with them. If we assume the majority of people we meet will not remember our name, or much at all about us after meeting us, what may we do to help ourselves to be memorable? How do we create a favorable and memorable image in the mind of our ideal clients?
There are few things as wonderful as young love, especially when it happens in Spring! Remember when you first met the partner of your dreams? Everything felt so alive, right? You probably felt a general blissful wonder while your endorphins ran on high. Every time you saw or thought of your sweetie, the butterflies chu ed, and your heart thump, thump, thumped at the mere thought of your new love! Then as time went on, those butterflies took flight and found other couples rea
Spring is in the air and many people are getting out into their gardens and making plans to spring clean the attic, or the entire house! Time to dust, get rid of those pesky cobwebs and throw out what you don't need anymore. Do this for your relationship, too. The same old, same old can get tiring. If your relationship feels like it's in a rut, a little spring energy and vitality tune-up is all it needs to be fun and alive again! Here are three super simple ways to give your
Many people may not be able to remember the last time they had a good laugh with their romantic partner – but laughter really may be the best medicine when it comes to romance. My son traveled throughout Europe and experienced many of the great cultures and people of this wonderful continent. But his favorite country – and people – was the Irish. When I asked him what it was he liked most about Ireland and the Irish people, he said: ‘The country is so beautiful but that’s not
Spring is a time for renewal. During the hum-drum, dark, cold days of winter, we can often lose focus of what’s important in our lives. And this can take a toll on our relationship. As we all know (but don’t always practice) our relationships are not readily disposable (or at least they shouldn’t be). So why not renew your relationship as you leave the cold winter behind and prepare for the joys of spring? There are many ways to recapture love and romance that might have coo
March is finally here! Sure, it’s officially still winter but at least we can finally say good-bye and good riddance to February – the longest shortest month of the year. The arrival of March signals that spring is just around the corner - the season for renewal and new beginnings. Most of us take some kind of inventory during the month of March, and when we do, we’re usually pretty surprised to see how much unnecessary stuff we have accumulated over the winter. If we stop
Even if February 14th crept up on you, you still have time to make this month your best ever! Here are five more ways to make Valentine's Day, and EVERY day, the passionate and romantic! 1. If Wheaties is the breakfast cereal of champions, then champagne is the drink of lovers! Champagne, in moderation, is known to lower one’s inhibitions and produces a feeling of warmth throughout the body. If this doesn’t set the tone for you, I don't know what will! But if you are not int
February – the month of love and romance – is upon us. If you are looking for a fun and exciting way to spice up your bedroom for this most romantic night, why not start with your five senses? Creating a sensory, romantic ambiance with your five senses is sure to put an exclamation point at the end of your Valentine’s Day. Smellr Let’s start with your sense of smell since this is usually the first thing we are aware of when we enter a room. It’s really easy to create a roman
Maybe it's true that Valentine's Day was invented by Hallmark, but I don't care. I still love Valentine's Day! Walk into any store and you see pink paper hearts floating from the ceilings or windows. Little cupid angels are pointing their arrows right at your heart and there is an overall feeling of love in the air! One of the things I love about Valentine’s Day is the history and symbolism of the items used to depict the holiday of love. Take the two hearts with an arrow th
February 14th – Valentine’s Day – is the official love day of the year. Anyone in any type of romantic relationship must honor this day – in one way or another. Whether you are in a long-term relationship or a brand new one, the time has arrived to celebrate your relationship. Here are 5 easy ways to heat up the flames of passion and love on Valentine’s Day and show your partner how you feel about them! 1. Since roses are the symbol of romance and passion, start your day by
Did you make a New Year's Resolution? If you did, have you stuck with it? Or has it already gone by the wayside? If you didn't, is this because you don't believe in them? Or did you just forget to make one? If you haven’t made one or it’s been neglected, there’s no reason why you can’t make a new resolution dedicated to your relationship. Let’s make 2011 the best year ever for your relationship. Here are three great ways to get your relationship in shape: 1. Prioritize your
Many of us make a toast to health and happiness in the New Year. One great way to improve your health in 2011 is to reduce stress. Here are three ways to de-stress your life and relationship this year. 1. Communicate When you are feeling stressed or overwhelmed, tell your partner. Let them know the source of your stress: Is it work? The kids? Financial worries? Health issues? You? (Yes, you read that correctly – you may be the source of your partner’s stress.) Many times we
Sex. It’s everywhere! On television, in magazines, on billboards. How can a topic that is written and talked about so often have so much misinformation attached to it? It is fairly safe to say the subject of sex practically consumes us as a society. I don’t think there is one issue of any women’s magazine that doesn’t contain at least one article about sex! Television, Internet and radio shows offer countless shows and programs offering a ton of sexual information. Despite
I’m sure you know the beloved fairytale “Snow White and the 7 Dwarfs.” Remember the part of the fairytale when the witch looks in the mirror and says, “Mirror, mirror on the wall, who’s the fairest of them all?” And the response the witch hears back is: “Snow White.” This unexpected response from the mirror to the witch’s question takes the witch by utter surprise and leaves her seething in anger. The mirror revealed the truth that everybody else knew, but that the witch was
The holiday season is here and with it comes stress. Sometimes this stress can be too much for a relationship. If you feel your relationship is teetering on the edge, here are five effective and very do-able relationship tools you can use now to prevent a relationship break up. 1. Take a time out from each other. If your partner has just told you they want to break up or want a divorce – or if you feel this way – take a time out from each other to gather your thoughts. When
The holiday season is upon us, with all the rush, rush, rushing it brings. Sometimes just thinking about all the extra things we have to do – shopping, baking, decorating, can be overwhelming. Most women are already stressed out enough without adding all the extra holiday “to-do” stuff on the list. A dirty little secret about the holidays is that many relationships do NOT survive them. Many couples break up during the holidays because all the stress gets under their skin and
Few issues bring out the worst in relationships and couples like money. Whether you’re rolling in the dough or struggling to make ends met, money is the number one reason couples fight. When people enter into a romantic relationship, they bring a portfolio of emotions, hopes, fears, strengths and weakness – all of which have been shaped by our past. But it’s very seldom that we address the portfolio of emotions we bring to money and finances, and so it usually becomes the 60
Some people are capable of doing many things well while under stress, but being in the mood for sex and/or feeling sexy usually isn’t one of them. Stress is pretty high up there as one of the top reasons for why couples are not having sex! Here are 5 common stressors that might be getting in the way of, or actually completely killing, your sex drive. And good news – there are solutions to each! Stressor #1: Prescription Medication Many prescription drugs have the side effec
Whether we admit it or not, we all think we’re going to fall in love with Prince (or Princess) Charming and live the rest of our days together in a Disney fairytale “happily ever after.” And we take the words “happily ever after” literally. Truth be told, I don’t know anyone who has lived “happily ever after” all day, every day, day in and day out as the Disney fairytale romances suggest. However, you can live happily ever after if your relationship is based upon realistic e
Money makes the world go round. It’s also is the number one reason why couples fight. Here are 7 ways or guidelines for handling money issues throughout your relationship so you don’t have to end up fighting about money. Consider these guidelines to be your relationship tools for keeping the spark alive in your relationship whether you are dealing with the richer or poorer times in your relationship. 1. Know thyself. Be aware of what money really represents to you (this mig
There are many fantastic ways to spark romance and intimacy in your relationship that are simple, inexpensive and virtually guaranteed to bring back that lovin’ feeling – whether it is gone, gone, gone; hanging by a thread; or desperate for a fresh breath of creativity or new life! Here are four of my favorites: 1. Romantic Date Idea: If you’ve been dating or married for a while, having a romantic date night is sure to bring back the spark. Send the kids to a friend’s house