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If you feel frustrated, conce ed, or challenged when it comes to both setting your goals and achieving results, you are certainly not alone. Especially in our American Dream-driven society, people often feel a pressure to arrive at their goals “ASAP.” While this may seem to be a ...
Do you sometimes feel hurt by the things the people you care about say? Do you find yourself thinking, "What did I do to deserve being talked to that way?" In any relationship, problems can be amplified by the stressful resentment people feel when their feelings have been hurt. This article reveals practical advice for moving from hurt feelings and relationship tension, back to creating the relationships you truly want to have. Got hurt feelings? What can you do to improve the situation when someone says something you don't like?
Are you involved in a relationship that isn't as happy as you had hoped for? Do you ever feel confused or frustrated about how to get the love and respect you desire? If so... you probably feel scared about what the future holds if you stay in this unhappy relationship. Read on to discover ...
Do you wonder what happened to that yummy closeness you used to have with your mate? Is the sweetness of that chocolate-like intimacy missing from your relationship? Read on to discover 7 simple ways you can whip the confectionery delight of intimacy back into any relationship. So what do intimacy and chocolate have in common? Chocolate, the majority of us crave it. We enjoy smelling it, cooking with it, and of course eating it! Most of us would drive a few extra miles out of our way to try the newest chocolate confection.
It can be easy to feel hurt by the strong words your loved ones tell you. You might find yourself wondering why they would say something like that to you? What have you done to deserve that kind of pain? Anyone who has ever been in a close relationship knows that problems can get out of hand ...
Wouldn't it be nice if you could tell when someone was going to be a cheating girlfriend or cheating boyfriend BEFORE you get involved with them? Don’t you wish there was something you could do that would help you avoid having a cheating spouse? There is something you can do, and it begins with ...
Do you sometimes feel like a piece of paper blown every-which-way in the wind, and without much say in the matter? Or do you often find yourself doing what you think you "should do", rather than what you want to do? If so, imagine feeling the true freedom of always choosing what you will do, and when you'll do it! If you want to start responding to life on your own terms--well read on for a glimpse of the quickest way you can experience this freedom--which is by redefining your relationship to responsibility. Do you often do things because you think you "have to"?
Sayings such as; "it's a dog-eat-dog world" and you better "look out for number one", come from a mindset of lack, limitation and fear. This kind of mindset creates intense competition, where hearing NO is more common than hearing YES. Competition is an encouraged part of our culture. It is considered the best way to get ahead. We’re taught that “winning” is the way to success, while “losing” is a stamp of disgrace.
Communication Is Important Right? Most people realize how important communication is for improving their marriage intimacy. They know they must be open and honest with their partner and that they must be willing to listen to their partners wants and needs. Yet knowing what you should be doing and actually doing it are two different things. One of the problems with achieving effective communication is thinking that simply talking and listening is the same as good communication.
Do you ever avoid talking about the impact of wars around the world or the economic situation for fear it may turn into a debate, or even a full blown argument? If so, it's time for you to take back the power to have meaningful, enjoyable conversations with your friends. If you're like most people, listening to the news these days can be quite stressful. It's hard not to worry about the impact of wars around the world, and the constant anxiety about the economic situation is bound to fill your mind with images of doom and gloom.
How often have you needed help but were afraid to ask for it because you were afraid of hearing that dreaded word "NO"? Do you think this fear had any influence on you reaching your goals or your level of personal success? What if you believed that there was a "yes" hidden beneath every "no", what could you ask for than?
Have you ever wondered what unconditional love actually means, or what it would take to give yourself or someone else this kind of love? We believe everything in your world is a reflection of YOU. And that's the good news! Why? Because if everything starts with you, then you don't have to ...
Are there some relationships in your life that just take more work to maintain than you're enjoying? Do you find yourself wanting to be compassionate and be able to listen in a caring way but it's just not supporting you and the kind of life you want to have? We agree that nurturing love and ...
Has someone close to you broken your trust by lying? Is it difficult to get back on track and reestablish that trust relationship you thought you had? If so, there is hope! It's possible to get back to having a healthy and satisfying relationship with a person who has been lying. Understanding ...
Do you treat your friends with love and respect, but when it's their turn, they let you down? Do you end up feeling resentful when your friends just don't give into the friendship as much as you do? Knowing how to deal with this resentment in a positive way--or even better, avoiding it ...
In trying to keep up with this world's increasingly fast pace, it's easy to lose sight of what's important. Perhaps you live day-to-day, task-to-task without the balance in your life that keeps what's most important to you in the forefront. How do you live your life productively and also ...
When couples begin to have problems, their first instinct is often to look at what they're not getting. They recognize that they're not happy and that they don't have the level of marriage intimacy that they want or need. This leads to introspection and wondering what it is that's missing. While this can certainly be a worthwhile endeavor if it means finding core problems and corresponding solutions, but often taking one simple step can help immediately. That step is learning to be grateful for what you have right now.
Do any of these self-critical thoughts ever run through your mind in an endless loop; "Why do I do such stupid things?" or "What a jerk I am!" or "What's wrong with me?" If so, how would you like to edit that loop and turn those negative thoughts into a self-confidence building pep talk? of our waking day we spend criticizing ourselves? It's like we're tuned in to the Top 40 of Mental Blues radio station. Have you experienced how really horrible you can end up feeling within moments of tuning in to the self-criticism station?
Nobody wants to settle for a life without the things they really want, but what if you’re still unsure of what those things are for you? How do you move forward to create a life that fills you with joy? A deeper look may reveal things you never knew about yourself--and without being clear ...
Have you ever started a new relationship that seemed just perfect--the one you've been waiting for--and then seemingly out of the blue, it all starts to go bad? If so, you're not alone. We're guessing you, like most of us, want a healthy, successful relationship with a caring loving partner. ...
Relationship Confidence! It begins by identifying WHAT you want that's missing from your relationship, and then learning how to craft a clear INTENTION that will support you in getting it. Intentions - What Do They Have To Do With Relationships? You may believe that intentions are mostly used for setting goals for your career or increasing the amount of income you produce in your business. Or you might think "intention setting" is just a "new age" idea that isn't grounded in practical reality.
Do you sometimes feel like a piece of paper blown every-which-way in the wind, and without much say in the matter? Or do you often find yourself doing what you think you "should do", rather than what you want to do? If so, imagine feeling the true freedom of always choosing what you will do, and when you'll do it! If you want to start responding to life on your own terms--well read on for a glimpse of the quickest way you can experience this freedom--which is by redefining your relationship to responsibility. Do you often do things because you think you "have to"?
Are You Still Working As a Team? Choosing someone to spend your life with was likely not a decision you made lightly. In the first few months or years of marriage, many couples find that closeness, marriage intimacy and working together come easily. Everything is new and exciting when you're just starting out, but once the day to day stresses begin to take their toll, you'll likely need to spend more time actively working on your marriage. One of the best things you can do to improve your marriage is to be sure that you're working as a team.
There will come a time when you're ready to move forward after grieving the death of a spouse, to get on with your life and move ahead and discover what this new chapter has to offer. When this happens, you may find it challenging to stop dwelling ete ally on what you have lost, and begin to ...
Here is some relationship advice that offers you the first step toward building, saving or maintaining happy, healthy personal connections. Any relationship is on the way to being saved, if you clue into the “I need” versus the “I am grateful statement behind everyone’s words. Read on to see how. One of the main reasons for relationship break-up is due to poor communication skills. We think because we are forming words and talking that we are getting our meaning across to the other person. But this is hardly the case.
Do you ever find it difficult to love yourself because you think you're unlovable, you're a failure, or you're just not worth the time? Does your inner critic put you down when you fail live up to your own expectations? If so, and you're looking for a way to win the inner battle with yourself ...
Have you ever wondered what unconditional love actually means, or what it would take to give yourself or someone else this kind of love? We believe everything in your world is a reflection of YOU. And that's the good news! Why? Because if everything starts with you, then you don't have to FIX, ...
Creating a successful life requires examining your choices and actions. It is the ongoing commitment to personal development and spiritual growth that ensures you will design the happy and healthy life you envision for yourself. Part of this exploration is to consider societal issues and ethical problems that arise on a daily basis. Here’s one you can consider to help you develop a framework for looking at these issues on your own. Our question to ponder for today is: Fear of getting a ticket is the best way to stop people from using their cell phones while driving.
When couples are on shaky ground, they often think that it's best to lay low and let the storm pass. They think that because they are having trouble, it would be the worst possible time to make changes. “Why shake things up when we're already on shaky ground?” they ask themselves. The truth is that if you've lost your marriage intimacy and closeness, it's time to take action. When you're working on changing your marriage, it's normal to be frightened and nervous. Many people accept the idea that the devil they know is better than the devil they don't know.
Do you want to believe in magical relationships--the click your heels three times--answer to having healthy, happy and intimate relationships? But does your own life make this desire look impossible? Do you sometimes think, if only I had a partner who was willing to do their fair share. Well look no further. Here's you will find a kind of pixie dust--sprinkle liberally and begin experiencing that magical relationship you've always wanted. Do you pay attention to doing your fair-share in a relationship but when it comes to your partner, you think their share is less than equal?
Have you ever noticed the labels people have placed on you over the years? Have you been branded with comments like, “selfish” or “clean freak” In the resentment of the moment, have you also applied labels to people you know? The Label Me This- Brand You That contest is all about proving who’s right and who’s wrong. How would you like to opt out of this contest and become the real winner in all your relationships? If so, read on and discover some simple first steps! The Label Me This-Brand You That contest is one you have entered and didn’t even know it.
If you're married, you may have began to notice that your marriage seems a bit comfortable--not at all like when you were dating--in fact you may have even heard yourself thinking something like, I can relax, they're not going anywhere. The problem is with this kind of thinking is that many couples find themselves feeling frustrated and thinking their being taking it for granted. These symptoms ultimately cause a lack of marriage intimacy and when the intimacy in a marriage begins to decline, it becomes a problem.
Are you suffering from poor self esteem due to body image issues? Have fad diets left you feeling confused and frustrated? We'd like you to consider that rather than your challenge being purely a physical one, the difficulty you are having losing weight might also have an undiscovered ...
Are you starting to feel as though the intimacy in your relationship is dissolving right before your very eyes? If so, it doesn't have to be this way. Intimacy and relationships don't have to be mutually exclusive. You can begin to rekindle the intimacy in your relationship by learning a few simple techniques that will lead you back to the love, and intimacy you once had. Interesting things happen as time goes on... For many people marriage, intimacy, and relationships seem really easy when everything first get started.
Ask anyone who is in a long term relationship, whether married or not, and they will tell you that these intense relationships can be hard to manage! They tell us that "it's hard work" to keep a marriage going well and that it's also about "give and take" and "compromise". Achieving complete marriage intimacy is the goal of most couples, but how do we get there and what do we need to learn?
Marriage Intimacy Doesn't Happen by Itself Many couples assume that the longer they're married, the closer they'll be to one another. They assume that marriage intimacy comes from knowing their partner well, and the better they know their partner, the more intimate they will be with one another. However, the truth is that being intimate with your partner requires you to be conscious of your actions and words - and it doesn't happen magically. The good news is that there are some simple tips that can greatly improve your marriage.
Got Ups and Downs We've never met a relationship that doesn't have its share of ups and downs. Now the problem is that few couples are willing or able to spend the time and/or money it takes to do conventional relationship therapy. This is no reflection on the level of committed to the success of their relationship-only that they might have limits as to what they find an doable considering there are preferences, time constraints, and financial situation. One preference might be to do it on their own (not with a third party such as a therapist).
The beginning of any relationship is usually the easiest part, but maintaining that relationship-- supporting its health, and happiness is where most of us can use some help. One of the keys to preserving the freshness of a new and vital relationship is by keeping the lines of communication open. Here Are Five Tips That Will Help Keep the Lines Open: 1. Express yourself authentically. Make a promise to yourself to let your partner know your thoughts or feelings. Keeping them bottled up inside you is very destructive to your relationship.
The American Dream of financial success, Achieving Excellence in a sport or area of interest, Looking for Key Results in personal goals… we’ve all at one point or another hoped and wished for these. Most of us have also had dreams about developing happy, healthy relationships or increasing self discipline. Who hasn’t had Big dreams? But what happens when the dream is nothing more than a bygone wish?
Don't we all want to grow into the fullest and most authentic expression of ourselves? Shakespeare wrote, "To thine own self be true." When it comes to creating a successful life the place to start is with ourselves. Read on and discover a daily practice to help you really get to know yourself! Success in life can mean different things for different people. But one thing that's common to most people's definition is the ability to be true to ourselves no matter what is going on around us.
Does the dark cloud of "I'm not good enough" raining on your parade? Is a lack of Self-Confidence preventing you from getting to that "silver lining" of your goals? If so, you're not alone. Many people walk around with their protective umbrellas of caution opened to prevent them from getting drenched by all those raindrops of self-doubt. As the song goes, "Raindrops keep falling on my head." So "Nothing ventured, nothing lost" seems to be their motto. Low self-esteem and lack of self-confidence often prevent people from basking in the sunshine of success.
Do you get down on yourself so often that you feel depressed or weighed down by your negative thoughts? Have you lost the self confidence you once had? It may be helpful to know that you’re not alone. Many people have an internal dialogue that fuels negative thoughts and hinders their ...
Do you keep getting in relationships where it seems as if you're being taken for granted--where you give, and you give, but get little or nothing in return? Are you beginning to wonder why people keep treating you this way? If so, you are probably also feeling pretty confused, sad, and are ...
Do you lack the self-esteem and confidence you need to create healthy and satisfying relationships? Do you sometimes find yourself worrying so much about what other people think of you that motivation or positive thinking is all but out of your reach? Low self-esteem is a common problem that ...
Would you like to build your self-confidence and self-esteem? Are you worried it might not be possible because you've had such a long history of put-downs, failures, and negative self-concept? If so, read on because this article will show you why it's never too late to increase your self esteem ...
Are honesty and building trust important to you, and yet sometimes--even though you just don't feel like it--when your friends and family ask you to do something or go somewhere, you agree to their request anyway? It's not uncommon or "wrong" to want to do what feels good to you. Even if the ...
Do you worry yourself sick over being sick? Do you wish you felt more peaceful instead? If so, you will be glad to learn that you can break yourself of this worrying habit with a little information and a commitment to practice the steps in this article. Whether you are coping with chronic ...
Take a moment to think about what you want and how negotiation could play a part in it. Do you want more rewarding interactions with your family? Think it’s time for a raise at work? What if you could negotiate a business loan to start that business you’ve always wanted? You can ...
If you struggle to create cohesiveness with others in your business or in the workplace in general, you will benefit from reading on. This article is all about creating strong, mutually beneficial relationships that promote increased productivity while leaving everyone feeling like they got what ...
Does it seem as if people want more than you can give? Do you feel pressured to keep them all happy? If so, you're not alone. Change this uncomfortable pattern now by learning new ways of creating more love and respect, as well as little-known methods that will help you to create happy and ...