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Mother Wounds: Can A Man Feel Unlovable If He Had A Mother Who Was Unavailable?

Although a man may have the desire to be in a loving relationship, it doesn’t mean that he will believe that this is possible. The reason for this is that he might have had this desire for quite some time and not been able to make much progress. He could look back on his life and see that he has been with a number of women who were not very loving. If he has been with at least one woman who was like this, this would have been a time when he wasn’t treated well. A Hopeless Place

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Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Find It Hard To Activate Himself?

If a man is overly preoccupied with his mother’s needs and just about his whole life revolves around her, he is going to be more like her parent than her son. But, although he will be neglecting himself, he can believe that he is doing the right thing. Along with this, there will be the people who believe that he is behaving in the right way by being there for his mother. This can relate to family members and friends, with these people describing him as a selfless human being. A Very Different View

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Self Sabotage: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Sabotage Their Life?

What someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that at least one area of their life is not going as they would like it to go. This could be an area of their life that they have tried to change for a very long time. But, no matter what they have done, they might not have been able to make a great deal of progress. Or, they could see that there have been moments when they have been able to move forward only to end up back where they started, or close to it. A Strange Scenario

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Self-Acceptance: Can Someone’s Childhood Stop Them From Being Able To Accept Themselves?

What someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that they have the inclination to hide themselves. As a result of this, how they generally come across won’t reflect who they truly are. This will mean that a number of their needs and feelings will rarely influence their behaviour with them largely being driven by the needs and feelings of others. Still, although they will be this way, this is not to say that the average person will realise this. Two Experiences

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Being Seen: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Continually End Up In Situations Where They Are Not Seen?

Just because someone has the need to be seen, it doesn’t mean that they will generally be able to fulfil this need. They could often feel invisible and as though they don’t even exist. But, if this is just what is normal, it is unlikely to be something that will stand out. This is then just going to be how their life is and they are likely to lead a miserable life, with them often feeling hopeless and helpless. Stepping Back

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Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man Waiting For His Mother To Liberate Him?

If a man spends a lot of his time and energy doing things for his mother, it will be pretty clear to the outside observer that he is out of balance. That is, of course, unless he is seen as living in the right way. If he is seen as living in the right way, it could show that this person believes that a man should be there for his mother. According to this person, a man’s purpose will be to take of his mother and put his own life to one side. The Reality

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Mother-Enmeshed Men: Was A Mother-Enmeshed Mans Father An Enabler?

After being able to see that his mother used him during his early years to meet some of her adult and unmet childhood needs, a man can end up experiencing a lot of anger and rage towards her. What can make this even worse is that this can be what has also taken place throughout his adult years. As a result of this, he will have suffered greatly as a child and his suffering will have continued. The person, who was supposed to build him up and help prepare him for the real world, will have done the complete opposite. One Outlook

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Submissive: Can Someone Be Submissive If They Were Abused As A Child?

In general, someone can find that they are easy-going and rarely if ever assert themselves. They are then going to typically go with the flow and not act like a separate individual who has their own needs and feelings. It could be as though their own will is not very strong and even non-existent at times, as they will allow themselves to be easily influenced and directed by others. So, as opposed to being an adult, they can be more like a child in a lot of cases. One Area

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Support: Can Someone Have Trouble Being Supported If They Were Neglected As A Child?

In general, someone could have the tendency to overlook their own needs and to be there for others. Naturally, this is not going to allow them to lead a fulfilling life but it can just be what feels comfortable. By behaving in this way, they may find that it is not difficult for them to receive approval and attention from others. Along with this, it will probably allow them to receive enough money to survive. One Big Act

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Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Live In Flight Mode As An Adult?

Although someone is a human being, based on how they typically behave, they could be described as a human doing. The reason for this is that they could practically always be on the go. And, if they were to sit still for a short moment, they could soon end up feeling deeply irritated and end up doing something before long. Based on how they live their life, it will be as though they are being drip-fed an energy drink. One outcome

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Developmental Trauma: Can Someone Be Frozen In Time If They Experienced Developmental Trauma?

Just because someone is now an adult and their developmental years are thing of the past, it doesn’t mean that they have truly moved on from this stage of their life. However, if this is the case, they might not be consciously aware of it. The signs that reflect that they haven’t moved on from this stage of their life are then going to be outside of their conscious awareness. As a result of this, they can end up suffering in silence. Completely Helpless

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Energy: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Give Their Energy To Others?

Even though someone will have their own life to lead, it doesn’t mean that it will be normal for them to focus on their own life. What could be normal is for them to spend a lot of time doing things for others. Not only this, but when they are not doing things for others, they could spend a lot of time thinking about what is going on for others. It might not stop there, though, as when it comes to what they do for themselves, this might not have a lot to do with what is in alignment with their true self. Invisible

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Be Depressed?

Due to the mask that a mother-enmeshed man is likely to wear, he can create the impression that he is happy and is pleased with his life. Behind the facade that he presents to the world, though, will be what is actually going on for him. If he was to be with himself and embraced how he really felt, he could soon feel down and deeply depressed. The experience that he has is then going to be radically different to the one that he typically has around others. Two Extremes

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Past Life: Can Past Life Trauma Give Someone The Need To Hide Themselves?

What someone may see, if they were able to step back and reflect on their life, is that they rarely reveal themselves. This is going to mean that their true self, so their needs and feelings, will typically be covered up. When they are around others, then, they are largely going to put on an act, and, if they are not hiding around others, they could be hiding away from others. Either way, it is going to be the exception as opposed to the rule for who they are to see the light of day. It’s Automatic

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Childhood Trauma: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Slowly Kill Themselves?

A lot has been said in recent years about the number of people who are taking their own life and how this has got worse over time. Along with this, there are the people who often think about calling it a day. With this in mind, it would be easy to assume that if someone wants their life to end, they will either end it or they will often think about taking this step. Thus, if someone doesn’t do the former or think about doing the latter, they won’t want their life to end. Two Levels

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Relationships: Why Can’t Someone Just Leave An Abusive Relationship?

If one was to hear about someone who is in an abusive relationship, they could wonder why they haven’t walked away from their partner. This could be seen as not just what is right but also what is logical. Now, this could be someone they know, or it could be someone who they have heard about through another. What could confuse them, even more, is if they were to hear that this person has been in this relationship for a number of months, if not years. One Level

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Father Wounds: Can Man Associate Self-Assertion With Death If He Had An Abusive Father?

A man may find that it is difficult for him to stand his ground and to stop others from walking over him. Then again, he might not even get to this point and could simply allow other people to cross his boundaries. Once this has taken place, he could end up feeling deeply frustrated and fed up. This could also be a time when he wonders why he let someone walk over him and why he didn’t do something about what was going on. Self-Blame

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Mother Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother Enmeshed Man Have A Fear of Being Seen?

If a man spends most of his life doing what he can to please others and his mother, in particular, it is going to mean that he is primarily focused on what is going on without. What is taking place within is rarely, if ever, going to something that he is aware of. This is likely to mean that the needs of others will be seen as his needs; he won’t know the difference. And, if the needs of others are seen as his needs, it is to be expected that he will feel compelled to meet them. Playing a Role

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Sense Of Deserving: Can Child Abuse Stop Someone From Developing A Sense Of Deserving?

In general, someone could spend a lot of time in doing mode, meaning that they will rarely if ever just be. So, even if they were to go on holiday, they could spend a lot of time thinking about what they should have done before they left and what they will do when they get back. This will show that it is hard for them to truly let go and relax – to surrender to the moment. Once they return, then, they could be just as exhausted as they were before they left and their mind could be filled with all the things that they need to do. One Big Struggle

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Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Believe That Their Existence Is A Burden?

Even though someone will have the right to be here and have needs, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this at the core of their being. As a result of this, they can see both themselves and their needs as a burden. However, this could be something that is outside their awareness, which means that they won’t be consciously aware of this. But, if this is the case, what is going on deep down is still going to have a big impact on their life. Super Independent

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Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Hasn’t A Mother-Enmeshed Man Outgrown His Need For A Mother?

What someone could wonder, if they were to come across a man that is overly caught up with his mother, is why he behaves in this way. He will be a man, not a boy, so there is going to be no reason for his life to revolve around her. As this is the case, his life should come first and his mother’s life should be of secondary importance. It could then be said that he just needs to draw the line and focus on his own life. Exte al Feedback

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Abandoned: Can Someone Have A Deeply Repressed Feeling Of Being Abandoned If They Experienced Developmental Trauma?

What someone could do is create the impression that they are not very emotional and even that they don’t have an emotional self. The reason for this is that they can typically come across as calm and detached. Another part of this is that they might not have a strong desire to be around others and may often spend time by themselves. Unlike those who are emotional or have an emotional self, they are then going to be very different. A Way of Life

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Emotionally Abandon Themselves?

Although someone has emotional needs, it doesn’t mean that they will be aware of these needs let alone do what they can to meet them. If this is the case, these needs are largely not going to be met. When it comes to their emotional needs, this will relate to their need to be seen, heard, supported, encouraged and loved, amongst other things. As these needs are typically not going to be met, it is going to have a negative impact on them. One Outcome

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

If You Were Rescued, You Wouldn’t Develop Your Strength

If someone is finding it hard to handle life or a certain area of their life is a challenge, they can have a strong need for another person to come and make it better. They could spend a fair amount of time thinking about what their life would be like if this was to take place. When this happens, they can feel greatly relieved and happy that what they were going through has come to end. It will be as though they have gone from one reality to another. It’s Too Much

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Mother Enmeshed Men: Does A Man’s Mother Feel Ashamed Of Her Own Needs?

When a man is emotionally entangled with his mother, it will be normal for him to put her needs first. Most likely, this will be something that takes place without him even needing to think about it. What should be normal is putting his own needs first and, perhaps, being there for his mother from time to time. This would allow him to take care of the most important person in his life, himself, and this would allow him to truly be there for others. Self-Neglect

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Mother Wounds: Can A Man Feel Invisible If He Had A Neglectful Mother?

Although a man will have a physical body and, therefore, will be visible to others, it doesn’t mean that he will feel seen. In general, he could feel invisible and wonder if he even exists. As a result of this, he could often feel powerless and helpless and believe that he has very little if any control over his life. Ultimately, his life is not going to be very fulfilling as a lot of his needs are not going to be unmet. Progress

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Mother Wounds: Can A Man Hide His Needs If He Had A Neglectful Mother?

Having needs is part of the human experience, and this means that they are not bad or wrong. However, although this is the case, a man can be in a position where he has the need to hide most of his needs. This can be something that typically takes place without him even being aware of what is going on. By being this way, it is likely to stop him from receiving what he needs in order to thrive. A Negative Association

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Critical Thinking: Are “Primitive” Parts Of The World An Expression Of What Is Held Inside The Collective Unconscious?

If someone was to think about different parts of the world, they might think about how there are certain places that are “civilised” and certain places that are “uncivilised”. When it comes to the countries that are, over the years, some of these countries have tried to change the countries that aren’t. One way this has taken place is by invading a country and then trying to turn it into a democracy. The western way of life is then forced onto a country, one with a culture that is likely to be very different, and this has largely been a disaster. The Mouthpiece

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Father Wounds: Can A Man Be Domesticated If He Had An Abusive Father?

In the same way that an animal can be someone’s pet, a man can be in a very similar position. He will then, like the animal, be just about out of touch with his instincts and it won’t be difficult to control him. The difference is that while the animal will primarily be controlled at home, the man can be controlled in both the home and the outside world. When he is at home, he can be controlled by his partner or his friend/s, or whoever he lives with. An Object

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Imposter Syndrome: Why Do Some High Achievers Feel Like Imposters?

Although someone could be in a position where they have achieved a lot in one area of their life or a number of areas, it doesn’t mean that they feel comfortable with their current level of success. What they may find, that’s if they were able to take a step back, is that it’s as though they are living a life that doesn’t belong to them. If one area of their life is going very well, there is a strong chance that they have worked hard to get to where they are. However, what they have done and continue to do won’t have an effect on how they feel. An Analogy

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Mother Wounds: Can A Man Be Scared Of Women If He Had An Abusive Mother?

What a man may find, if he was to take a step back and reflect on his life, is that he has the tendency to keep women at bay. Not only this, but when he is around them, he may find that he is usually anxious. And, if he is not on edge, he could see that he loses touch with what is going on inside him. Irrespective of whether the former or the latter occurs, the outcome will be the same; he is not going to fully show up. One Experience

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Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Need To Grow Up?

If a woman is in a relationship with a man who is enmeshed with his mother, she can be incredibly frustrated and fed up. Perhaps she has been with the man for a number of months. Then again, she may have been with him for a number of years. Either way, she is likely to have a strong need for this area of her life to change, and this could be seen as something that is dependent on the man changing his behaviour. It’s in His Hands

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Disconnected: Can A Big Part Of Someone’s Being Be Split Off If They Experienced Developmental Trauma?

Even if someone is living on the surface of themselves, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this. How they experience life can just be what is normal, so there will be no reason for it to stand out. Assuming that they are in this position, they are likely to spend a lot of time living in their head and have a very weak connection with their body. As a result of this, they are typically not going to be aware of how they feel. Outer Directed

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Mother Wounds: Can A Man Have A Negative Inner Model Of Women If He Had An Abusive Mother?

Although a man can have the desire to deeply connect to a woman, he may also have the need to keep his distance. The experiences that he has had with them throughout his life may appear to be what has given him this need. As a result of this, it is going to be a challenge for him to fulfil the first need. If there are moments when he is able to put his need to keep them at bay to one side, if only for a short while, he could soon end up being reminded of why he is the way that he is. The Same Old Story

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Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Mother-Enmeshed Man Feel Weighed Down By A Woman’s Needs?

Now that a man is in a relationship, what he could find is that he often feels overwhelmed when his partner expresses her needs. However, when they first started spending time together, this might not have been an issue. At this point, he may have felt free and been able to express himself in her presence. It might be hard for him to relate to how he felt back then, though, as he will have a very different experience when he is around her. Too Much To Handle

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Relationships: Can Someone’s Childhood Cause Them To Play The Victim Role In A Relationship?

Right now, someone could be in a relationship that is not very fulfilling, and there could be a number of reasons why this is. Now, this could be because they are with someone who is incredibly abusive but, then again, it might not be this severe. Instead, they could be with someone who generally doesn’t treat them very well. This could be something that has been going on for a number of weeks or might have been taking place for even longer. Black And White

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Relationships: Can Someone’s Childhood Set Them Up To Believe That It Is Their Responsibility To Save Others?

What could be normal is for someone to continually end up with people who are unable to truly be there for them. When they are in a relationship, then, it could be as though they are with a child as opposed to an adult. There is a chance that they are currently in a relationship with someone like this right now. If this is the case, they will be in a situation that is very familiar and they will know exactly how to behave. One Focus

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Sadness: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Carry A Lot Of Sadness?

What someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that they often feel down and low. For most of their life, this may have been something that they have typically been able to cover up. Now, though, it could be a lot harder for them to do this and this might make them wonder what is going on. What could enter their mind is that they suffer from depression and there is then something wrong with them. Looking Back

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Being Seen: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Believe That They Have To Hide In Order To Survive?

In general, one could feel as though they don’t exist, and this is not going to be because they won’t have a pulse. No, it will be due to the fact that they will rarely feel seen and heard and what they do in life might not have much of an impact. So, when they are around others, they could often be ignored and people could look right through them. As a result of this, they will know what it is like to feel invisible and as though they are not real. One Area

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Critical Thinking: Is The Exte al Chaos A Reflection Of What Is Taking Place Inside The Collective Consciousness?

At this point in time, and for a little while now, there is a lot of upheaval in the world. A number of years ago, a virus, which was said to have first been identified in an outbreak in Wuhan, soon spread all over the world. And, just as things were starting to return to a ‘new normal’, Russia ended up invading Ukraine. As of late, a lot has been said about how a global recession could be on the way. Further Back

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Father Wounds: Can A Man Be Passive If He Had An Abusive Father?

In order for a car to move, it will need to have a power source; without this, it will simply stay in the same place. If it does move, it will only be because it is being pushed by someone or something that has power. In the same way, for a man to move and to take action he will also need to have a power source. If he doesn’t have this, it will be normal for him to sit around and to find it hard to take action. Confusion

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Hopeless: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Feel Hopeless?

In life, there will be hurdles that are both big and small that need to be overcome but that doesn’t mean that someone will believe that they have what it takes to handle these. Before they even come into contact with a hurdle, they could feel hopeless and helpless. Therefore, before they have even entered the race, so to speak, they will be in a bad way and won’t believe that they can complete it. Sticking with this analogy, this can mean that they typically won’t even bother entering the race. On The Sidelines

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Mother Wounds: Why Would A Mother Emasculate Her Son?

What a man could find, if he was to reflect on his life, is that he is more like a wolf that has been domesticated than a wolf that lives in the wild. To go even further, he could think about how he has the tendency to be passive, feel low and be a people pleaser and finds it hard to stand his ground. He could see that he has been this way for as long as he can remember and could believe that he was simply born this way. Naturally, living in this way is not going to allow him to live a life that is very fulfilling. One Area

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Disconnected: Can Self-Development Cause Someone To Become Even More Disconnected?

When someone ends up getting into self-development, they could already be in a pretty shut-down state. However, if they have been this way for most of their life, they might not even realise it. But, although they might not have a good connection with their body and thus, their feelings and a number of their needs, what is taking place at a deeper level is still going to have an impact on them. One of the ways that it can affect them is by putting a lot of pressure on their mind. The Outcome

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Love: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Believe That They Need To Earn Love?

During someone’s developmental years, they needed love to grow and develop and, as an adult, they also need love in order to be at their best. However, although they will need love as an adult, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this need. But, even if they are not aware of this need, it is still likely to have a big impact on their life. From behind the scenes, it can drive them to do and achieve things, in the hope that they will be loved. The Meaning

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Mother-Enmeshed Men: Are All Mother-Enmeshed Men The Same?

If a certain term is used to describe someone, then it can mean that they fit a certain criterion. In this case, the term that has been used will be appropriate and it won’t be a sign that they have been mislabelled. When it comes to a man who has been described as a mother-enmeshed man, there is the chance that this is an accurate assessment. However, even though this can be the case, it doesn’t mean that he will be exactly the same as another man who is this way. The Connection

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True Self: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone’s True Self To Withdraw?

What can be normal is for someone to feel as though they are simply going through the motions in life. They are then not going to have a strong desire to be here and this can be evident when it comes to how they live their life. When it comes to what they do each week, this could typically involve the things that they have to do. So, they could go to work, go shopping, perhaps see friends and family now and then and that could be it. A Big Difference

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

“What’s Wrong With You?!”

When I was out the other day, I ended up hearing a child scream whilst I was reading a book. The child, along with both of their parents, was right behind me so I couldn’t help but hear. At first, I started to wonder when the noise would stop as I was finding it hard to concentrate. Sooner or later, though, one of the child’s parents said, “what’s wrong with you?!” And this was something that was said a few times afterwards. A Strong Reaction

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Father Wounds: Can A Man Carry Lot Of Repressed Anger If He Had An Abusive Father?

If a man was to describe himself, he could say that he is easy-going, tolerant, and laid-back. When it comes to his mood, he could find that he often feels flat and sometimes he feels very low. As a result of this, he is not going to spend a lot of time feeling energised and alive. If he does feel this way, it could be because he is or has just exercised or it could show that he has had something to drink. A Common Occurrence

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Father Wounds: Can Man Be Disconnected From His Body If He Had An Abusive Father?

During a man’s childhood years, he may have had a father who was physically abusive. If this was the case, this would have been a time when he was regularly harmed by someone who was supposed to do the opposite - protect him. Therefore, instead of being able to feel safe and secure in his own home, he would have often felt terrified. Being on edge and feeling anxious would have been a normal part of his everyday life. Totally Defenceless

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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