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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Mother Wounds: Can It Be Hard For A Man To See A Woman Clearly If He Had An Abusive Mother?

It might be hard for a man to maintain a positive view of a woman when he is dating or in a relationship. In the beginning, however, it could be very different. During this time, he could have a very positive view of the woman he is with; in fact, there is a chance that his view of her will be out of balance. Said another way, he could put her on a pedestal at this stage. The Next Stage

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Neglect: Can Childhood Neglect Take Away Someone’s Will To Live?

Although someone will have been given life and will have the rest of their life ahead of them, it doesn’t mean that they will be able to make the most of the life that they have been given or appreciate that they have more years to live. Instead, they could generally see life as a burden and be happy for it to come to an end. This can show that they have the tendency to feel very low and depressed, and often think of ending their life. Just about every day can be a struggle and, if they could, they might prefer to stay in bed. A Flat Existence

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Relationships: Will A Man Commit When He Finds The ‘Right’ Woman?

At this point in time, a man could believe that, once he finds the right woman, he will settle down. If so, this will mean that he is either not in a relationship, or he is simply having casual encounters. Over the years, he might have dated a number of women; then again, he might have only had casual encounters. But, irrespective of what has taken place in the past, he won’t have met a woman that was right for him. Looking For the Whole Package

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Self-Worth: Can Someone Find It Hard To Accept That They Have Inherent Worth If They Were Abused As A Child?

If someone was told that they have inherent worth, it might be something that sounds good but that could be about as far as it will go. If they were to think deeply about this, they could question how this is so. This could be due to the fact that they don’t feel good about themselves or feel as though they have value. Consequently, they could say that their worth is something that is defined by what they do. A Human Doing

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Child Abuse: Can A Parent Be Too Out Of Touch With Reality To Acknowledge That They Were Abusive?

Even though someone may have been abused by one or both of their parents during their formative years, it doesn’t mean that they have spoken to them about it. For so long, they might not have felt comfortable talking to them about what happened. If they were to imagine how they would like it to go, if they were to tell them about what happened, this could be a time when their parent or parents acknowledge and validate their experiences. Along with this, they are deeply empathetic and compassionate and full of remorse. The Perfect Scenario

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Depression: Can Shame Stop A Man From Being Able To Admit That He Is Depressed?

If a man is depressed, it doesn’t mean that he will be able to fully accept this. He can then do just about everything that he can to hide what is really on for him from both himself and others. One of the ways that he can do this is by more or less always being on the go and being focused on achieving things. Additionally, he can do what he can to create a certain image in order to receive positive feedback from others. A Barrier

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Emotionally Shut Down: Can Someone Pathologize Themselves If They Are Emotionally Shut Down?

After someone has become aware of the fact that they are not connected to their feelings or are rarely connected to them, they might end up criticising themselves. They could even end up believing that there is something inherently wrong with them. If so, this is not going to be a time when they will be kind and compassionate towards themselves. Being this way is going to make their life harder than it needs to be and not being on their own side will make it even harder. One Step Back

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Mother Wounds: Can A Man Fear Women If He Had An Abusive Mother?

If a man was to step back and reflect on his life, he may see that he generally finds it hard to be himself around women. There are then going to be moments when this is not the case, but this will be the exception as opposed to the rule. Upon closer inspection, he may see that this is how he has been for as long as he can remember. Therefore, while it may be crystal clear now, it can be something that he has been semi-aware of for quite some time. The Experience

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Woman Unconsciously Tying To Be Loved By Her Parent If She Ends Up With Mother-Enmeshed Men?

If a woman is with a man who is overly focused on his mother, what might soon come to mind is that this is not the first time that she has been in this position. She might see that her previous partner was the same. That might be as far as it will go, or she could see that this is something that goes back even further. If so, she could see that just about every relationship that she has been in has involved her being with a man who is overly preoccupied with his mother. A Big Moment

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Needs: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Disconnect From Their Needs?

What someone may find, that’s if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that they are often out of touch with their needs. Or, perhaps, to be more specific, they are often out of touch with certain needs. This can mean that they will typically be aware of their survival needs and even their intellectual needs, but that could be about as far as it will go. As for their emotional needs, then, these could generally be ignored. It’s Automatic

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Critical Thinking: Is The Mainstream Media The Real Virus?

If someone has been paying a lot of attention to the mainstream media over the last two years, there is the chance that they will have a certain view of the Coronavirus and all the variants that have and are likely to appear as time goes by. As far as they are conce ed, this virus and its variants can be seen as being extremely deadly. As a result of this, it will be essential for them to have every vaccine and booster that is offered and to follow all of the rules, regardless of what they are. Most likely, they will have a number of people in their life who behave in the same way.

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Mother Wounds: Can A Man Feel Unsafe Around Women If He Had An Abusive Mother?

In general, a man may find it hard to feel at ease when he is around women. Due to this, he could often act in a very submissive and easy-going manner when he is around them. What this will mean is that who he is will rarely if ever show up when he is in the company of a woman. Instead, a version of him that has very little to do with who he is will typically show up. Two Parts

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Mother-Enmeshed Man: Has A Mother-Enmeshed Man Been Castrated?

If someone was to come across a man who is emotionally entangled with his mother, what could soon stand out is that he neglects himself and doesn’t stand his ground. So, it will be as though he doesn’t have needs or have the ability to protect himself. But, although ignoring his own needs and being walked over will be having a negative effect on him, he will create the impression that this is not the case. In a way, he will be like a punching bag that, no matter how many times it is hit, always goes back to its original shape. Self Alienation

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Parentified Woman End Up With A Mother-Enmeshed Man?

After being in a relationship for quite some time, a woman may come to see that she is with a man who is overly focused on his mother. As a result of this, it will be clear that he is not available. Naturally, due to how consumed he is with his mother’s needs, he won’t have much time for anyone else. Ergo, he will not only neglect her needs, but he will also neglect a lot of his own needs. Lopsided

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man Out Of Touch With His Aggression?

In general, a man who is emotionally entangled with his mother could come across as very easy-going and passive. He is then going to create the impression that he is happy to be there for others and his mother, in particular, and he won’t have much oomph. As a result of this, he is not going to have a strong connection to his masculine aspect; in fact, it could be as though he doesn’t have any masculinity in him. He will, on the other hand, have a very good connection to his feminine aspect. A Door Mat

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Shut Down: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Be In A Shut Down State?

In order to truly embrace life, someone will need to have a strong connection with their body and be able to feel. By having this connection and this ability, they will be able to take life in and receive. However, although being this way will be essential when it comes to living a fulfilling life, it doesn’t mean that everyone is an embodied human being, who can truly feel. There are those who have strong a connection to themselves, those who don’t and those who are in the middle. It’s clear

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Developmental Trauma: Can Someone Carry A Wounded Infant If They Experienced Developmental Trauma?

Although someone is an adult and thus their childhood will be well and truly behind them, it doesn’t mean that this is actually the case. Of course, they will no longer be a toddler, infant or even a child; that will be clear from their appearance. But, while this will be clear from the outside, what is going on the inside can be very different. On the inside, they can feel like a powerless, terrified and dependent infant. Covered Up

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Mother Wounds: Can Early Neglect Cause A Man To Fear Being Seen By A Woman?

If a man fears being seen by a woman, it doesn’t mean that he will realise this. But, even if he is not consciously aware of this, what he fears is still going to have an effect on how he experiences life. The reason why he is not aware of what is going on is that he could be out of touch with his true self. This will mean that he won’t have a strong connection with his body and thus, a number of his needs and feelings will be a mystery. Living on the Surface

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Mother-Enmeshed Men: Did A Mother-Enmeshed Man Have To Disconnect From His Need To Be Seen?

If a man typically acts like an extension of his mother, he is likely to seldom if ever truly be seen by her. What this will mean is that she won’t be able to acknowledge that he has his own needs and feelings. It will then be as if the only reason he is on this earth is to be there for her and make sure that her needs are taken care of. Naturally, this is going to mean that his mother will take a lot from him but she won’t give anything back, at least not emotionally. More of the same

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Woman Wasting Her Time With A Mother-Enmeshed Man?

Although a woman may want to be with a man who is available, she may find that she has ended up with one who is anything but available. This will be a man who is super focused on his mother and does what he can to meet her needs. As a result of this, he is likely to be emotionally unavailable and rarely physically available. So, he might seldom, if ever, be truly present when he is around and at other times, he won’t be around as he will be caught up in taking care of his mother. The Contrast

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Mother-Enmeshed Man Feel Disloyal For Living His Own Life?

What should feel comfortable is for a man to pay attention to his own needs and to live his own life. However, although this is what should feel comfortable, it doesn’t mean that it will be. Instead, a man can have the tendency to be there for his mother and to do what he can to meet her needs. This can be something that takes place without him even needing to think about it. One and the Same

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Needs: Can Someone See Their Needs As A Burden If They Were Neglected During Their Early Years?

In general, someone could come across as though they are needless and this could take place without them being consciously aware of it. Therefore, they won’t choose to hide their needs from others, this will just be what typically happens. What this is also likely to mean is that they will seldom be aware of their own needs. So, not only will their needs largely be a mystery to others they will also largely be a mystery to themselves. Self-Neglect

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Sense Of Badness: Can Someone Embody Their Parents Disowned Sense Of Badness If They Were Abused As A child?

If someone is in a position where they have the tendency to feel bad about themselves, their life is unlikely to be very pleasant. It is then going to be normal for them to be in a very low place and their life could be very unfulfilling. And, as they rarely feel good about themselves, it could mean that there are a number of people in their life that are not very kind. But, even if this is the case, how they are treated by these people might not always stand out. Another Experience

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Being Seen: Can Child Abuse Stop Someone From Feeling Safe Enough To Be Seen?

Even though someone’s physical self will be seen by others, it doesn’t mean that the rest of them will typically be seen by others. What this means is that their inner world, so what their thoughts are about certain things and how they feel, for instance, might seldom be revealed to others. If this is the case, it is going to illustrate that they usually wear a mask when they are around others and, consequently, who they are will rarely see the light of day. They are then going to be a separate human being who has their own self but they will act as if they are an extension of others.

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Depression: Why Would Someone Be Depressed Even Though They Have A Good Life?

At this point in time, someone could find it hard to understand why they are experiencing life in a certain way. Based on the life that they lead, they can believe that they shouldn’t be the way that they are. The reason for this is that their life could be good in so many ways and yet they can often be depressed. As a result of this, it can be as though what is going on for them internally is completely irrational. A Mismatch

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Emotional Collapse: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Be In An Emotionally Collapsed State?

There are going to be moments when someone needs to be in an active state and moments when they will need to be in a passive state. They are, after all, not a tree and neither are they a machine. If they were more or less always in doing mode, they are likely to end up being burnt out before long. And, if they were always in being mode, very little if anything would get done. Balance

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Mother Wounds: Can A Man Find It Hard To Attach To A Woman If He Had An Emotionally Unavailable Mother?

What can be normal is for a man to only have casual encounters with women, which will mean that he will only share his body and perhaps his mind. This might be the only thing that interests him, with him having no desire whatsoever to experience more. He might sometimes be told that he has ‘commitment issues’ and that it’s time for him to settle down, but this might not have much of an impact on him. If most if not all of his friends are in the same position, he is likely to receive a lot of support for how he behaves. A Natural Outcome

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

True Self: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Associate Self Expression With Being Isolated?

Although someone will be an individual that has their own needs, feelings, thoughts and preferences, it doesn’t mean that they will typically act like one. In general, they could act as though they are nothing more than an extension of others. Consequently, it will be normal for them to hide themselves around others and put on an act. Therefore, even if they don't act for a living or as a hobby, their life will be one big act. Unaware

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Child Abuse: Why Would Someone Be Mistreated Both As A Child And As An Adult?

After someone has been treated badly as a child, the same thing could take place now that they are an adult. Therefore, the hell they experienced very early on won’t be over, it will have simply continued. However, it might not cross their mind that their adult life is very similar to their early years as this can just be what is normal. If so, the thoughts and feelings that they have as an adult are unlikely to be very different to the thoughts and feelings that they experienced as a child. A Natural Outcome

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Disembodied: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Disconnect From Themselves?

For someone to be able to take life in, to receive, they will need to be able to inhabit their body. This will allow them to be in the part of their being that truly experiences life as opposed to the part that simply observes it. To use an analogy: it will be the difference between someone being in water and simply looking at water. When they are in their body, then, they will be able to experience life in all its glory. A Big Difference

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Emotional Birth: Can Early Deprivation Stop Someone From Having An Emotional Birth?

It can seem as though there is only one type of birth – a physical birth. However, along with this type of birth, there is also another type of birth, and this is known as an emotional birth. The first type will allow someone to have their own vehicle, so to speak, and the second type will allow them to have a sense of self. So, when both of these births occur, they will be able to see that they are both an individual and feel like one. Analogy

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Emotional Needs: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Disconnect From Their Emotional Needs?

Although someone is likely to have been connected to and expressed their emotional needs when they were a child, it doesn’t mean that this will be the case now that they are an adult. In general, their emotional needs could be a mystery and, naturally, this will stop them from expressing them. When it comes to their emotional needs, this will relate to their need to be seen and heard, touched, appreciated, and supported. These are then needs that will be met primarily through intimate relationships. The Norm

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

False Self: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Hide How They Feel?

For someone to have deeper connections with others, they will need to share how they feel. If they were to purely share what they have been doing and their views, for instance, this wouldn’t take place. This is not to say that being this way wouldn’t allow them to form connections with others; no, what it means is that these connections wouldn’t have the same level of depth. This is because they would only be sharing a small part of themselves. The Norm

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man Imprisoned By His Own Lack Of Development?

If a man was brought up to be there for his mother and to take care of a number of her needs, it probably wouldn’t have occurred to her that he was an individual who had his own needs and, over time, his own life to lead. Of course, when he was born, it is likely to have occurred to her that he had had basic needs such as the need to eat and sleep but that might have been about it.

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Self-Worth: Can Someone Feel Worthless If They Were Neglected As A Child?

Even if someone feels worthless, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this. However, by not having a felt sense of worth, their life is likely to be anything but fulfilling. In general, they could have the tendency to please others and ignore their own needs and feelings as a result. If this is the case, their true self is rarely going to see the light of day. Outer Directed By behaving in this way, they are likely to be used to receiving positive feedback from others. Some people could describe them as being easy-going, helpful and even selfless.

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

True Self: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone’s True Self To Be Imprisoned By Their False Self?

From the outside, someone can appear to be free to express who they are. However, although this may appear to be the case, it doesn’t mean that this is something that they can actually relate to. And, to make matters worse, there is the chance that they are not fully aware of the fact that they are this way. If so, they won’t be aware of what is going on but they are likely to be aware of the effects of living in this way. One Scenario

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Workaholic: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Be A Workaholic?

In general, someone could spend a lot of time working, having very little time for anything else. It doesn’t mean that this is something that will cross their mind, though, as it could just be what is normal. And, if they ever do think about how much time they spend working, they could end up justifying how they behave. They could say to themselves that being this way is better than being lazy and/or that they have so much to achieve. A Similar Response

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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Attention: Can Someone Believe That There Is Not Enough Attention If They Experienced Early Deprivation?

What can be normal is for someone to be in the background and not stand out. So, when they are with a friend, they can do a lot of listening and not a great deal of talking. And, if they were to go to an event or out shopping with them, once again, their friend could take the lead and be the one that talks to others. Like a supporting actor, then, they won’t take up much space and they are unlikely to overshadow anyone. Another Part

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Manifestation: Can The Law Of Attraction Cause Someone To Disconnect From Themselves?

After learning about the law of attraction, someone could soon come to the conclusion that they need to feel good as much as they can and to have positive thoughts. This is because both their feelings and their thoughts will play a big part in what they do and don’t experience. So, as the days, weeks and months go by, they are likely to do what they can to make sure that they have the right thoughts and feelings. This will be essential if they want to attract what they desire into their life. Another part

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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Mother Wounds: Can A Man Have A Negative View Of Himself If He Had An Unavailable Mother?

A man is going to be only too aware that his physical body was created and birthed by his mother, but it might not occur to him that his self-image was largely created and birthed birth by her too. One reason for this is that he might not even think about how he sees himself. But, even if he doesn’t think about how he sees himself, his view of himself is still going to have a massive impact on his life. If he has a view of himself that is empowering, this might not matter. Very Different

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Mother Wounds: Can A Man See Women As His Enemies If He Had A Cruel Mother?

What a man may find, if he was to step back and reflect on his life, is that he doesn’t have a very positive view of women. He could see that he largely sees them as people who are against him and want to cause him problems. As a result of this, he could do his best to keep his distance and only spend time with them when he has to. Along with this, if he ever experiences the desire for female company, he could see this as a time when he needs to act in a calculated manner. Exte al Support

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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Critical Thinking: Can Someone Rebel By Raising Their Consciousness?

If someone wanted to change their society or even the world, there are a number of things that they could end up doing. For example, they could take part in a protest, sign a petition and/or vote for a certain politician/party. Alte atively, if they were happy to break the law, they could block off a road/motorway and vandalise buildings. In all of these cases, they will be rebelling through what they do. The Only Option

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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Early Deprivation: Does Someone Need To Face The Pain Of Being Unloved In Order To Heal?

If someone missed out on the love that they needed in order to grow and develop very early on, it doesn’t mean that they will be aware of this. Most of what took place during this stage of their life could be a mystery to them. However, even if this is the case, it doesn’t mean that this stage of their life will be well and truly behind them. Not only can they be in an underdeveloped state but they can continue to try to meet their unmet developmental needs. Submerged

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

False Self: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Create A Fearful False Self?

Even though someone can live in an environment that is relatively safe and be free to express themselves, it doesn’t mean that they will feel safe or freely express themselves. Still, this might not be something that they are consciously aware of. If they are not consciously aware of what is going on, how they experience life will just be what is normal. Thus, there will be no reason for them to do anything about what is going on. Their Experience

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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Father Wounds: Can A Man Be Emotionally Unavailable If He Had An Abusive Father?

One thing that a man could find, if he was to get into a relationship, is that it is a challenge for him to connect to how he feels. This is not to say that he was fine before this, though, as he may have struggled to connect to his feelings before. However, now that he is in a relationship, how he experiences life will have come into focus. To use an analogy: it will be like a room that had no light and now that there is a light, it will be clear what is in the room. A Different Experience

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Mother Wounds: Can A Man Unconsciously Search For A Mother Figure If His Mother Was Emotionally Unavailable?

If a man didn’t receive the love and nurturance that he needed from his mother during his early years, it doesn’t mean that he will have simply been able to move on from what happened. Physically, as well as mentally, he will have grown, but emotionally, he is likely to be underdeveloped. Nevertheless, there is the chance that this is something that he won’t be aware of. It could seem strange as to how he could be in an emotionally undeveloped state and not realise it. By Design

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man Controlled By His Unmet Developmental Need To Be Loved?

Not only could a man find it hard to understand why he is so focused on his mother but some of the people in his life could be just as confused. So, even if he is not currently in an intimate relationship, some of his friends and perhaps family members could also wonder what is going on. There is even a chance that he became aware of what is going on after one of his friends or family members had a long conversation with him. Conversely, it might have taken a number of conversations for him to accept this. A Mirror

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Early Deprivation: Can It Be Hard For Someone To Realise That They Were Deprived If Their Parents Were Physically Available?

Although someone was deprived of the emotional nutrients that they needed during their formative years, it doesn’t mean that they will be aware of this now that they are an adult. If they were to think about their early years, they could believe that this stage of their life was fine. For example, they could say that one or both of their parents was more or less always around and that they were not physically harmed. Furthermore, they had somewhere to live, didn’t go hungry, and had the clothes they needed. A Very Different Experience

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Mother Wounds: Did An Abusive Mothers Childhood Cause Her To See Her Child As A Burden?

If someone were to look back at their early years, what might stand out is that this wasn’t a time when they were generally loved and cherished. Instead, they could see that this was a time when they were typically treated like they were nothing. This can be how their mother and perhaps father, if he was around, treated them. Thanks to how they were treated throughout this key stage of their life, they could be in a bad way now that they are an adult. It’s not over

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Mother Wounds: Why Would A Man Try To Rescue Women?

What can be normal is for a man to be drawn to women who are not in a good way and want someone to look after them. This can mean that if he is not in a relationship with a woman who is like this, he is likely to have a number of female friends who are. At the same time, even if he is in a relationship with a woman who is like this, he can still have a number of female friends who are. In so, a lot of his time and energy will be spent being there for women. A Superhero

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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