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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Dependent: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone to Be Dependent?

Although someone is an adult, it doesn’t mean that they will be able to stand on their own two feet and support themselves. This is likely to mean that they will either still need their parents/s or others to be able to survive. As a result of this, how they look is not going to match up with how they behave. If another person was to take into account their age and then how they experience life, they could say that they are like a child in an adult’s body. The Norm

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Father Wounds: Can A Man Feel Worthless If He Had An Abusive Father?

If a man was to step back and reflect on his life, he may find that he often feels worthless and as though he is bad. Due to this, he may find that it is a challenge for him to embrace good things as he won’t feel worthy of them. As a result of this, he may see that he has pushed a lot of good out of his life over the years. But, in general, he is likely to stop good things from even entering his life, which will mean that he won’t need to push most things away as most things won’t get this far. A Big Surprise

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Happiness: Can Early Deprivation Give Someone The Need To Be Happy All the Time?

In general, someone can come across as happy or at the very least, as though everything is fine. Due to this, the people in their life could describe them as a ‘happy person’, and, because of this, they might feel uplifted after they have spent time in their presence. However, while this is how they might typically come across, it doesn’t mean that this is a reflection of how they truly feel. Still, they might not even be aware of how they truly feel and so if how they come across rarely matches up with what is going on for them, it won’t stand out. The Norm

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Mother Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Mother Try To Stop Her Son From Living His Own Life?

When a mother is unable to see her son as an individual, she is going to have an issue with him living his own life. His purpose, as far as she is conce ed, will be to be there for her and to take care of her needs. Still, this is not to say that this is something that she will be consciously aware of. Even so, this is what her words and behaviour will make clear. Taking a Step Back

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Mother Wounds: Can A Man Have A Dysfunctional View Of Love If His Mother Was Abusive?

If, after being brought up by an abusive mother, a man was able to realise that his early years were dysfunctional and then to reach out for support, he might not end up in a relationship with an abusive woman. He would then have been through hell but there would be no reason for him to replay this experience again. However, while this would stop him from suffering unnecessarily, it is unlikely to be something that will take place. Instead, a man can have this experience and then, as time goes by, forget all about it. The Story Continues

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Mother-Enmeshed Man: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Need To Drop His Nice Guy Mask?

If a man is in a position where he focuses on his mother’s needs and neglects most of his own, he is unlikely to have a strong connection with his own feelings. What this comes down to is that he will probably be out of touch with his own body, which is where most of his needs and feelings will be found.

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Mother-Enmeshed Men: Are The Real Needs Of A Mother-Enmeshed Being Covered Up By His Unmet Childhood Needs?

For some people, it will be hard to understand why a man would be overly focused on his mother’s life and overlook his own life in the process. This will mean that he will do what he can to take care of her needs and spend very little time taking care of his own needs. Now, this is not to say that he won’t take care of his basic needs but that can generally be about as far as it will. If he only had a few needs, how he is behaving would make complete sense. A Strange Scenario

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Need To Reclaim His Mother Projection From His Mother?

If a man, who is overly focused on his mother, was able to take a step back and reflect on his behaviour, he might wonder what he is doing. It could be only too clear that behaving in this way is not serving him. But, although this will be an important stage in what will allow him to live his own life, it doesn’t mean that he will just be able to draw the line with his mother. He could find that he still has the need to be there for her. Totally Powerless

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Receiving: Can Someone Find It Hard To Receive If They Experienced Developmental Trauma?

If someone was to take a step back and reflect on their life, what they may find is that it is often hard for them to receive what they need to survive, let alone thrive. So, when it comes to money, they may rarely have enough. Keeping a roof over their head is then going to be a challenge and they might not always have enough to eat. Due to this, they are seldom going to have enough money to buy ‘luxury’ items. One Big Struggle

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Child Abuse: Someone Be Emotionally Disconnected If They Had A Parent Who Was Emotionally Blind?

As an adult, someone may be in a position where they don’t have a strong connection with their feelings. If this is the case, they are going to miss out on a lot of valuable information. The reason for this is that this part of them is there to provide them with feedback. This feedback will let them know what is and isn’t right for them and, thus, it will play a key part in what will allow them to have a fulfilling life. The Outcome

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Inner Enemy: Can Someone Have An Inner Enemy If They Were Abused As A Child?

Just as a group of individuals will be able to make more progress when they work together, someone will also be able to make more progress when they are able to work with themselves. Of course, unlike a group of people, they are one person but they will be made up of many different parts. As a result of this, from the outside, they will be one person and on the inside, they will be a group of people. A group of people can then be seen as an exte alisation of what it is like within them. A Battle

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Mother Enmeshed Men: Can It Be Harder For A Man To Break Away From His Mother If She Becomes Ill?

If a man is focused on his mother and is not living his own life, he might not even realise that this is the case. As he was probably trained to be there for her from a very young age, it is not going to be a surprise if it doesn’t occur to him that he is out of alignment with himself and is not behaving in the right way. His early experiences wouldn’t have allowed him to stay connected to himself and to feel comfortable in his own skin. Now that he is an adult, he will be estranged from himself and he will only feel valuable if he pleases his mother. An Empty Vessel

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Mother Wounds: Can A Man Feel Anxious Around Women If He Had An Emotionally Unstable Mother?

What a man may see, if he was to step back and reflect on his life, is that he often feels edgy. And, if he was to look even closer, he may find that this is usually how he feels when he is around a woman or women. Furthermore, in order to handle what is going on for him and feel more settled, he could often come across as easy-going and overly-agreeable. If this takes place, he will lose himself, so to speak. An Act

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Mother Wounds: Can Someone Find It Hard To Trust If They Had An Unavailable Mother?

If someone’s developmental needs were rarely if ever met during their early years, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this. Thanks to how painful this stage of their life would have been, their brain would have ended up blocking out what took place. This would have been something that automatically took place, which means that this wouldn’t have been something that they choose to do. If this hadn’t taken place, there is a strong chance that they wouldn’t be alive. Too Much to Handle

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Needs: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Hide Their Needs?

Although someone will have needs, it doesn’t mean that they will have a good connection with them. In general, they could be out of touch with a number of their needs and therefore it will be normal for them to neglect themselves. But, as this is taking place without them being aware of what is going on, they won’t be able to change their life. They will continue to behave in the same way and deprive themselves of what they need. Running On Empty

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Drive: Can Someone Unknowingly Be Driven By Their Unmet Developmental Need To Be Loved?

In today’s world, if someone is highly driven, they can be seen as having high self-esteem and as an example of how to live. They are then going to have it together and be a well-adjusted human being. Thanks to how driven they are, they might have made a lot of progress in at least one area of their life. If so, they can be seen as ‘successful’ by a number of people and this will allow them to receive a fair amount of positive feedback. No Time to Be

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Emotionally Disconnected: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Disconnect From Their Emotional Self?

In the same way that different tools serve a different function, different parts of someone's being are the same. When it comes to their physical body, this part will give them the ability to move and to get things done. Their emotional body/self will be what brings their life to life and allows them to feel connected to others and life itself. As for their mental body/self, this will allow them to think about life, reflect and make plans. A Key Role

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Human Contact: Can Someone Prefer Things Instead Of People If They Experienced Developmental Trauma?

Even though someone is an interdependent human being and thus needs others, it doesn’t mean that they will act like one. They could spend a lot of their time by themselves and rarely if ever reach out to others. This could mean that they will have a job or a career that doesn’t involve a lot of human contact. If this is the case, they won’t be in a position where they have to spend a lot of time speaking to others. For example

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Need To Realise That His Needs Are Important?

For a man who is emotionally entangled with his mother, it will be normal for him to focus on her needs. This is likely to mean that he won’t even be aware of a lot of his own needs. His mother’s needs are then going to consume him and it won’t occur to him that he is out of touch with himself. His mother needs will be seen as his needs and most of his own needs will have been pushed out of his conscious awareness. Part of Her

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Focus On His Mother?

It can be hard for someone on the outside to understand why a man would be so focused on his mother. He can spend most of his life doing things for her and even if he isn’t, he can be thinking about what he can do for her. By being this way, naturally, he is going to severely neglect himself and his own life. Most of his time and energy will be directed towards his mother, so he is not going to have a lot of either of these things for himself. A Strange Scenario

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

True Self: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Lose Touch With Their True Self?

On one side, there is information outside of someone, and, on the other, there is information inside them. However, if they don’t have a strong connection with their body, they are going to have limited access to the information inside them. In general, then, a number of their needs and feelings are likely to be a mystery to them. The reason for this is that most of their needs and feelings will be found in their body, not their head. Outer Directed

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Child Abuse: Can An Abusive Parent Be Too Emotionally Underdeveloped To Acknowledge That They Were Abusive?

If someone was abused by at least one of their parents during their formative years, they may hope that what they went through will be validated by them. This could be seen as part of what will allow them to move on from what happened. However, even if this need is there, it doesn’t mean that it will end up being met. So, they could reach out to this parent and talk about some of the things that they experienced and end up hitting a brick wall. A Dead End

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Child Abuse: Can Someone Embody Their Parents Repressed Feelings If They Were Abused As A Child?

If someone’s early years were anything but loving, they could be in a bad way now that they are an adult. However, thanks to their brain’s ability to block out both painful feelings and memories, they might not remember what took place. Due to this, they can be in a bad way and not understand why they are experiencing life in this way. Then again, if experiencing life in this way is normal, they might not even question why their life is this way. Stepping Back

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Father Wounds: Can A Man Feel Helpless If He Had An Abusive Father?

What a man may find is that he has the tendency to feel helpless and as though he has no control over his life. By being this way, his life is likely to be far harder than it needs to be and it is unlikely to be very enjoyable. However, although simply being aware of this is not going to change his life, it will give him the chance to do something about it. Before he had reached this point, how he experienced life would just have been normal and he wouldn’t have felt the need to do anything about it. A Bleak Existence

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Happiness: Can Someone Find It Hard To Be Happy If They Had An Emotionally Unstable Mother?

What someone may find, if they were to reflect on their life is that it is incredibly difficult for them to be truly happy. In general, this can be seen as something that is just outside of their reach. And, if they are happy, it might not be long until they go back to how they were before. Due to how rarely they feel happy, then, it might often be a challenge for them to embrace the moments when they do feel happy. Resistance

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Relationships: Can Someone Say That All Men/Women Are The Same To Avoid How They Feel?

On one hand, there are men who say that all women are the same, and, on the other hand, there are women who say that all men are the same. And, thanks to the platforms that are available online, both men and women can express their views about the opposite sex. Not only this, they can come into contact with plenty of other people who also have the same outlook. Due to this, their views will end up being validated, providing them with a greater sense of conviction. One Side

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Self-Assertion: Can Developmental Trauma Stop Someone From Being Able To Assert Themselves?

When someone can assert themselves, they will have no trouble standing their ground and saying no. Along with this, if they want to do something, it won’t typically be a challenge for them to do it. Having this ability will allow them to both protect and express themselves. Thanks to this, being walked over and acting like an extension of others is not going to be something that interests them. Exte al Feedback

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Aggression: Can A Man Reject His Aggression If He Had An Abusive Father?

In the same way that a car won’t go anywhere without power, a man is also not going to get very far without being connected to his own power. When it comes to what will provide him with the power that he needs, his aggression is going to play a big part. Now, this is something that will give him the ability to do things that are destructive but this side of him is not destructive per se. So, when he is connected to this part of him, he will have the energy to stand his ground and assert himself, to take action and go after his goals. A Vital Element

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Child Abuse: Can An Abusive Parent Carry Too Much Pain To Be Able To Acknowledge That They Were Abusive?

After someone has come to see that their early years were anything but nurturing, they can soon have the need to talk to one or both of their parents about what took place. They can hope that this will end up being a time when their experiences will be validated and remorse will be shown. However, although this will be the ideal, it doesn’t mean that this will actually take place. Instead, when they speak to this parent, assuming that it is one parent that they speak to, this can be a time when what they say will be dismissed and they won’t truly be seen and heard. A Waste of time

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Be Scared Of Life?

Although someone may live in an area that is relatively safe, it doesn’t mean that they will typically feel safe. Based on how they often feel, it could be as if they live in a warzone. So, from practically the moment they wake up until the moment they fall asleep, they could seldom feel at ease. And, even when they are asleep, they could often have bad dreams and even nightmares. A Restricted Existence

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Disembodied: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Be Disembodied?

What can be normal is for someone to live in their head and to have a weak connection with their body. In fact, this part of them can be seen as simply being there to support their head. By having the tendency to live in this way, it can mostly be as though they are nothing more than an observer of life. They are then going to be here and have their own life but this won’t be something that they can generally relate to; it will be as though they are watching life from the outside. Disconnected

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Mother Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother Enmeshed Man Need To Reflect On The Fact That His Mother Will Die One Day?

Firstly, a mother-enmeshed man will need to see that he is enmeshed, and, secondly, he will need to do something about it. It can be difficult for him to see that this is the case and doing something about it can be even harder. If he had a physical problem, it would stand out and he would most likely do something about it. After paying a visit to his doctor, it might only be a matter of time before something is done. A Very Different Issue

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Mother Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Mother Enmeshed Man Have Trouble Expressing His Needs And Feelings In A Relationship?

What a man may see is that he finds it difficult to express his needs and feelings when he is with his partner. When he is not around her, however, this might not be something that he struggles with. If this is the case, he could struggle to understand why he is this way. Not only this, his partner is likely to wonder what is going on and she could believe that she is doing something wrong. One Conclusion

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Need To Reconnect With His Personal Reality?

What can stand out for someone who has come into contact with a man who is overly focused on his mother is that he is too caught up in his mother’s life. They will then be able to see that he needs to start focusing on his own life. This is not to say that they will believe that he needs to completely turn his back on his mother, but then this would be going from one extreme to another. Instead, they can say that he just needs to be more in balance. An Analogy

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Needs: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To See Their Needs As A Burden?

In general, someone could hide their needs and thereby, create the impression that they are needless. This could be something that takes place automatically as opposed to something that they consciously choose to do. If a friend or a family member needs something, then, they could be only too happy to be there for them. But, if they need something, they might not tell anyone and soon lose touch with this need. All Alone

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Relationships: Can Developmental Trauma Make It Hard For Someone To Be Present In A Relationship?

Right now, someone may be in an intimate relationship and while this may be something that they have wanted to experience for quite some time, it doesn’t mean that they are finding it easy. Instead, they could find that they are finding it harder and harder to be present and to stay connected to how they feel. As a result of this, they will experience a fair amount of pressure and stress. Along with this, there will be how their partner responds to what is going on, and how they respond will largely depend on the inner wounds they are carrying. The Law of Resonance

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Self-Expression: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Feel Guilty For Living Their Own Life?

Although someone is on this planet to express themselves, so that their life can be an expression of their true self, it doesn’t mean that they will feel comfortable doing this. Instead, what can feel comfortable is going along with what other people want. Therefore, they are going to be physically separate from others but they will act as though they are an extension of them. As a result of this, their true self could typically be ignored and rarely see the light of day. The Alte ative

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Alone: Can Someone Feel Deeply Alone If They Were Abused As A Child?

What could be normal is for someone to either feel alone or to be out of touch with how they feel and not feel anything. This could mean that they will spend a lot of time by themselves. Alte atively, they could spend a lot of time around others and not a great deal of time by themselves. Then again, this could be an area of their life that is fairly balanced, with them typically spending a fairly equal amount of time around others and by themselves. The Same Experience

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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Expectations: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Expect Bad Things To Happen?

If someone was to take a step back from their life and to reflect on their expectations, what they may find is a lot of these are “negative”. The expectations that they do have that are “positive” are then going to be overshadowed by those that are “negative”. After this, they could find that their life has been this way for a very long time. What could also come to mind is that, in general, a lot of “negative” things do happen. A Natural Consequence

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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Helpless State: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Be In A Helpless State?

What can be normal is for someone to feel helpless and as though they are unable to do anything. However, even though this is how they can generally feel and perceive life, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this. As a result of this, being this way is going to prevent them from living a life that is fulfilling but they won’t be able to do anything about it. This will just be seen as how their life is and as something that they have to tolerate. A Connection

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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Repression: Can The Brains Ability To Repress Pain Cause Someone To Blame Others For How They Feel?

There is the chance that someone could work somewhere that is not very supportive, for instance. As a result of this, they could often feel worthless and even humiliated when they are at work. Along with this, they could be in a relationship that is not much better, with this also being a time when they will experience the same feelings that they feel at work. There could be other ‘negative’ feelings that they experience, too. It’s clear

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Self-Expression: Can Child Abuse Take Away Someone’s Voice?

When someone is connected to what is taking place inside them and this information directs their life, they are going to freely express themselves. Their life is then not going to be a reflection of how other people want them to live or how they think they want them to live. Moreover, when they are around their friends and family, they are going to fully show up as opposed to putting on an act. Being this way is going to allow them to feel connected to others and be seen and heard. Another Reality

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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Child Abuse: Does Someone Have The Right To Hurt Their Parents If They Were Abused By Them?

One thing that someone can experience, that’s if they have come to see that they were mistreated during their formative years, is a lot of rage. In fact, they can feel so mad that ending one or both of their parent’s life could enter their mind. Due to how they feel, it could be as if they were mistreated a few minutes ago, not a number of decades ago, for instance. If they haven’t taken this step already, they could end up calling or paying a visit to their parent or parents and talking about their early experiences. An Intense Time

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Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Oliver JR CooperRecently published1 topic

Child Abuse: Is It A Good Idea For Someone To Find Out About Their Parents Childhood If They Abused As A Child?

Thanks to the ability that someone’s brain has to block out pain and then for their conscious mind to forget about the past, it can take a while for them to realise that they were abused. As a result of this, their life can be one big challenge but they won’t be able to join the dots, so to speak.

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Critical Thinking: Is The Virus Known As The Victim Mentality Undermining Peoples Mental Health?

In recent years, both the mainstream media and the government have said a lot about “mental health” and how people need to look after this part of them. Mainstream society offers a number of different ways for someone to do this. One option that is often put forward is for them to talk about what is going on, another is for them to change their “negative” thoughts and feelings by “reframing” what is going on. For some people, the solutions on offer are not good enough, but, what can be denied is how far society has come. A Big Shift

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Emotional Support: Can Childhood Trauma Stop Someone From Feeling Emotionally Supported?

Someone’s emotional self will allow them to feel connected to life and others, and to feel supported. Clearly, then, this part of them will serve a very different purpose to their mental self. This part of them will give them the ability to think, plan, reflect and understand how they feel. Therefore, both of these aspects play an important role in their ability to live a life that is worth living. The Ideal

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Father Wounds: Can A Man Find It Hard To Activate Himself If He Had An Abusive Father?

Although a man will have both a masculine and feminine element inside him, he may find that it is hard for him to connect to the former. Consequently, it will be hard for him to express himself and to take action. From the outside, it will probably look as though he has the ability to do both, but this won’t be something that he can relate to. Now, this doesn’t mean that he will always sit around and do very little. A Helping Hand

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Feelings: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Hide Their Feelings?

What can be normal is for someone to hide how they really feel. As a result of this, the people in their life are unlikely to be aware of what is truly going on for them. However, due to how good they are at hiding how they feel, there can be no reason for these people to realise this. There is then going to be how they believe one is doing and how they are actually doing. One Experience

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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Human Doing: Can Someone Be A Human Doing If They Received Conditional Love During Their Childhood Years?

What someone may find, if they were to reflect on their life is that it is normal for them to more or less always be on the go. So, from the moment that they wake up, until the moment they go to bed, they could generally be doing something. And, even when they go on holiday, that’s if they do have holidays, they could see that this is a time when they are practically always doing something and/or thinking about what they should be doing. Now, this could be how they have lived for as long as they can remember. Inner Conflict

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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Mother-Enmeshed Men: Was A Mother-Enmeshed Mans Father Also Enmeshed?

If a man is seen as a ‘mother-enmeshed man’, it is not going to be a surprise for someone to come to the conclusion that he is this way due to how his mother treated him. Therefore, if his mother had treated him differently during his formative years and treated him differently now, he would be different. In other words, his mother will be the one who did the most damage so she will be the one who is responsible for what he is like as an adult. And, if he is aware of what he is like, he could also come to the same conclusion. Another Angle

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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